This feels absolutely horrible on my end, but I (19F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been dating since freshman year in high school. He's always been a little different from other guys, but as of the past few months he's been very subtly hinting at the possibility of using different pronouns. When we met in middle school, he'd been questioning his gender identity but eventually told me he had been just confused. His words, not mine.

I'm bisexual and demigirl, but as any biological woman has I've always had a mental image of my future partner, and he's always fit that really well, near perfectly. If he ever did come out as trans my heart would definitely be hurt, and I can't lie and say I'd be completely indifferent if he transitioned. My motives aren't shallow, I truly do love him (I wouldn't have been with him for 4+ years if I didn't) but I feel as though it would be selfish of me to stay with him as someone who fell in love with him as a guy. If he comes out it'd be fair of me to break it off and let him go find someone that would prefer to be with a girl.

When I've talked to friends I've been called an asshole because "I'm bisexual, it shouldn't matter" but there's a difference between liking both genders and dating a person who was previously a different gender. I don't want to be labeled as transphobic, I have told him multiple times that if that's who he is then I shouldn't be a barrier in front of his true self, but I have to be truthful over something so significant and say that I might possibly ask for a break or to break up because it's a lot to adjust to and I don't know how things would play out if he did transition.

I feel horrible for not being 100% okay with his choices, but if he's being true to himself then I should too. What do I do?

Edit: I never said my ideal partner was strictly a guy, what I meant to get across was that my ideal partner was kind, funny, loyal, honest, and loving and he fits all of those aspects. It’s not about his gender identity, but it’s about how he will change through his transition. I was previously a trans man, and so is one of my closest friends, so I know first hand how a persons personality, attitude, interests, and general behavior changes through a transition. I’m not worried about dating a girl, been there done that, but I’m worried that I’ll lose feelings because of his changes.

I often hear women say they wish men were more upfront about their intentions. I took that to heart over the past year, but it hasn’t worked out the way I expected. Whenever I’m clear that I’m not looking for a serious relationship, women either lose interest or stick around, seemingly hoping to change my mind.

This feels counterproductive because the whole point of being honest is to avoid the misunderstandings and drama that come with dishonesty. What am I doing wrong here? I definitely don’t want to lead anyone on or play games, but why does honesty seem to fail, even when it’s supposedly what women want?

This might not be a popular opinion. But yeah I'm headed back to D4, to sum it up TLDR. I don't get the same dopemine hit in POE2 like I do in D4. D4 is just all around more fun to play, better rewards, more impactful gear drops, easier to switch builds on the fly, better encounters with vast amounts of enemies thrown at you. Better story and cinematics. You can make the game as hard as you want or as easy as you want if you just want a chill night. Open spaces, mounts, and dare I say, cheaper cosmetics and not a microtransaction aggressive. I'll give me opinion and tell you POE2 was highly overhyped like the second coming and greatest arpg of all time from early reviews.. it is not. Have a merry xmas!

Had a guy come by collect some free things we were going to throw away, this older dude that has a beehive business. Started to chat and found out he got divorced recently, lost to the tune of 1.5m in the divorce.

Man, I hear it too often, guys get married, divorce, get taken advantage of and the court system always sides with the woman.

Even during the dating process, they are so unapprocahble and up themselves, you have to do all the heavy lifting and meet a plethora of criteria to even be noticed or she will replace you in an instant. To them have to work all your life and still lose most of what you worked soahed towards for, because the endless list of things she wants and is never happy with just keep getting bigger.

The divorce rate between gay men and women is double, and it's somehow always end up being the guys fault.

Am I missing something here or is this what being a man is about, being a provider with conditional love?

If this is the case why would I even bother to live for anyone else but myself?

Am I the only one at this point or this becoming a common concept because may be just my jaded ass after a bad breakup, but after doing some research I found out thatarrige is a biggest risk a man can take after kids.

I'll admit to liking TikTok a fair amount, and it's not ever certain that it will be banned in the US next month, but I can't help but feel like it's causing a lot of harm in society. Such rapid fire short form easily consumable video content is, as much as I hate to use the term, brainrot. It's super addicting, and I think it's harming people's brains. I'm a full grown adult, and I do my best to moderate my use of it, but I can feel it damaging things like my attention span. Sure I've watched some interesting content on there, as I seem to have programmed my algorithm to point me to more educational things, but I can still feel it rotting my brain. I can't imagine what it's doing to young people, and people with less self control than I have. And that's not even to mention all the harm it's done with the various trends and challenges it's created.

I’ve known exactly who she is since the very first episode. I’ve never seen anyone try so impossibly hard (other than maybe Brittani, who is so woefully ill-equipped intellectually she doesn’t stand a chance).

Her “vulnerable” moment on the yacht was Machiavellian. She threw everything against the wall in that moment to see what would stick. She doesn’t care about any of these people or having real friends. She wants to stay on a TV show, and she can’t do that if she’s completely iced out. She seemed like a cornered animal.

She is so completely full of shit, and I hope the rest of the cast becomes wise to it and quits placating her.

I honestly can’t tell if this is good TV or annoying TV, but I think the latter. I’m so happy Jen Shah is gone, and I don’t miss her. I think Bronwyn needs to go.

I tried the free trial and I really liked how the game felt. Why are there so many people hating on this game though?

I also tried poe 2 early access and while it was fun I honestly cba. I literally can not understand how the average player praises games like poe claiming it promotes creativity etc while they copy paste a streamers build. Last Epoch was fun but I got bored of it in the endgame.

I just want to chill and smash. Diablo 3 was perfect for me to play a few dozens of hours each season. Is diablo 4 the same?

You go at my pace. When you get into my group and start telling me that you are gonna AOE everything down. When I tell you to let me get hits in before you unleash every cooldown on your hotbar. You when give me shit for telling you to sit and let me pull mobs into the previous room. You're gone. Y'all are a dime a dozen. I may love to tank but when you literally ignore the mechanics of the game to get your min/max on you're making the game not fun for me or the healer.

ofc if you’re cancelling plans or smth like that you should let them know in some way, but if someone is just texting you for a random conversation why is it rude for me to not reply? I’m likely with other people and it would be rude for me to be sat on my phone the whole time getting back to people. or maybe m by myself- in which case, this is the only few hours per week I have to myself.

It doesn’t mean I don’t love my boyfriend because I don’t initiate texting conversations or don’t get back to you for a few hours.

It doesn’t mean I don’t care about my job or colleagues if I don’t respond to my bosses ‘happy christmas’ texts. (seriously- why are there passive aggressive messages in the work chat about how u haven’t heard from my for three days - I AM WITH MY FAMILY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MONTHS, DO NOT FUCKING DISTURB.

It doesn’t mean we aren’t friends, or that I’m not interested in being friends with you. call me or arrange real life plans.

I don’t really think texting ‘counts’ as a large part of a relationship/friendship, i use it as a functional thing for the most part- or sometimes i’ll send someone something funny if it relates to something we’ve talked about before, but i don’t expect a response. i’m so sick of people feeling like they’re entitled to my time, i feel like saying ‘i prefer face to face/ im not much of a social media person but lets hang out sometime!’ is actually better than sending a text. I’m an adult with a job and shit to do, I don’t have the time, energy or interest to sit about like a teenager always on my phone??

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The engaging gameplay ends when the campaign does that's for sure. You either one shot EVERYTHING or you will get ded. I was really hoping for something a little better paced than POE1 endgame. We already have zoom zoom screen go boom boom loot go clinkity clink.

Normal maps are not to bad for the most part, but the second you interact with a league mechanic OMFG does any sort of slow gameplay go out the window as you are instantly surrounded by enemies who body block and cc you. If you have not one shot the screen it is probably already to late for you.

League mechanics should now force a player to zoom zoom.

There are plenty of league mechanics that currently force you into meta builds if you want to have any chance.

Delerium wants you to go as fast as possible and instantly kill everything before the fog catches up.

Breach wants you to go as fast as possible and instantly kill everything before the portal expanse goes away.

Ritual wants you to survive in a tiny little space as monsters that haven't even appeared on your screen yet start pushing you around and body blocking you.

Strongboxes want to waste your time and make it harder to see anything.

Expediction (this one is actually really good, do it at your own pace, choose your own difficulty)

Everything about endgame just screams play META or get more frustrated than a game your trying to play for fun should ever make you.

And you win. i will play meta for the rest of my vacation. I am on my 5th character now, I have a pretty good time in the campaign, spend all my currency when i get to maps on the characters getting them capped res ,defenses, life etc... Then i play maps for an hour or two and want to punch a hole in ... something... over... and over... and over.. again.

I read a lot of the posts here and one recurring theme seems to be "I can't hold down a job" "I can't do this or that because of my condition"

Let me tell you a little about myself...55 year old male diagnosed about 10 years ago..before I was diagnosed I had no idea there was even something different about me..because I held myself to the same standard as my peers... I completed five years of active military service in the Marines (although I know now Aspergers is a disqualifying condition). I retired from the National Guard completed a Masters Degree and also retired from state service..Did I excel at most of these positions? Hell no, I struggled big time and sometimes failed and was fired from jobs.. I lived alone and never married and would need massive amounts of time to rest, decompress and recharge...I didn't know it at the time but my fitness addiction at the gym was my own way of "self medicating".. My condition seems much more under control when I use the gym regularly.. I just kept at it most of life... Gratefully, I was awarded SSDI this year and also get VA disability in addition to my retirement benefits..But my point is I never quit..and many people on here much younger than myself sound like they are not even going to try...

Edit: after reading the remarks here it seems like if I was after popularity points I could have posted something validating people's lack of progress and would have fared better...other remarks have taken things out of context . I knew people in the military that were undiagnosed and went to the top rank and excelled big time...likely because they knew how to thrive within the parameters of their limitations. IMO we need more of that.

At this point this subreddit is just having the same complaints reposted over and over and the subreddit is drowning in them. There is a dedicated thread for this AND GGG has a forum dedicated to feed back on their website that they (and many of us) would like you to use. Please enforce something regarding complaints that have like 50 previous posts in the last day or few days.

People are acting like if we don’t repeat an issue 2,000 times on Reddit that the devs won’t be aware of it. Most “feed back” are people mostly venting about their frustration. At this point they have to be 1000% aware of every single little issue. Even taking reddit out of the picture I’m sure they know from their actual feedback forums a lone and content created videos.

Many people are also posting like this isn’t EA, condemning the game as bad lol. Comment sections filled with “this is EA”. Maybe gamers have forgotten what actual EA is like and for, honestly I don’t blame you on this one with how EA is used in the gaming industry today (to deliver games that are done content wise but full of bugs and issues).

TLDR: Please use the dedicated feed back thread and GGG website for issues, complaints, mental breakdowns. Please avoid being dedicated post number 40 of the day about x or y issue.

(Extra side rant) if you’re new to this game and having problems, it’s probably you. The game has problems but you’re probably doing little to actually balance/engage with aspects of the game or tap the power of your character. And that’s ok, just don’t post like it’s the games fault that your hand isn’t being held and you aren’t being rewarded for playing a lot. POE rewards you for playing correctly, efficiently engaging with content, and most importantly, understanding and having knowledge of the game. It’s not an easy game and this is probably the hardest the game will ever be. Come to the subreddit like a student who wants to learn, not a consumer who feels that spending 30 dollars and playing all day should be grounds for reward in its self.

Mary is such a freak and no one talks about it???? Like fr what tf is wrong with her she’s not real- especially rewatching like she’s genuinely so obtuse. Is she like autistic or something she has absolutely no social awareness and she behaves in SUCH a way- like her ig posts look like boomers random tiktok videos that go viral because they’re senile- why doesn’t anyone talk about Mary? This bitch married her STEP GRANDFATHER to inherit her family wealth?! I feel so bad for her son..

I (24F) have been best friends with Mia (24F) for over a decade. We’ve been through everything together, and I trusted her completely until last week.

For context, I recently got a huge job opportunity in another city. It’s my dream role, and I’ve been excited but nervous about moving away. Mia has been super supportive (or so I thought) and even helped me prepare for my final interview.

Last week, during a group hangout with our mutual friends, I overheard Mia talking to one of our friends, Sarah. She didn’t realize I was nearby, but I could clearly hear her saying things like, “I don’t think she’s ready for that job. Honestly, I’m surprised they even considered her.” She went on to say that I only got the offer because the company was trying to meet diversity quotas (I’m a woman of color).

I was shocked and hurt. Mia had never said anything remotely like this to my face. I walked away without saying anything because I didn’t want to cause a scene.

A few days later, we were all hanging out at another friend’s house. The conversation turned to my move, and someone asked if I was feeling ready. I couldn’t stop myself. I turned to Mia and said, “Well, I’d feel more ready if my best friend wasn’t telling people behind my back that I only got the job because of a quota.”

The room went dead silent. Mia looked stunned and mumbled something about me taking it the wrong way. I didn’t let her off the hook I told everyone exactly what I’d overheard. She started crying and left the room.

Now our friend group is divided. Some think Mia deserved to be called out, but others think I should’ve addressed it privately. Mia hasn’t spoken to me since and told another friend I “humiliated” her.

AITA for confronting her publicly instead of one-on-one?