I think my brother is too hard on his sons, but I don’t critique him. He is all over my parenting, saying I’m too gentle bc I talk about feelings with my son. Is the way my brother thinks the way most men think? Do women just not get it and need to make sure their son’s ego is crushed?

I feel like this is a rhetorical question. I know my answer. But I am trying to understand my brother and trying to get a clear picture of other men’s thinking. Thanks.

I broke up with my ex girlfriend after she was grinding on a guy in front of me to make me jealous, although last 3 months was turmoil this was obviously icing on the cake.

I got a long apology text a week later of how sorry she is, she’s in therapy and regrets her actions. She says I was her best mate & all this other wish washy “self healing” stuff.

I’ve never had a sorry text from an ex so on one hand it’s nice she actually acknowledged her poor behaviour which lead to it, on the other hand it seems like a sorry for her own guilt / ego rather than acknowledging what I just went through during Xmas!!!

What would you do or how have you responded in the past?

Edit: thanks for comments, it’s still VERY fresh but I don’t feel like replying now regardless. It made me feel better that I wasn’t this awful person she was making me out to be during this whole ordeal. I don’t really have any friends as I put a lot into this but will start again.

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Is it a turn off/gives off desperate energy/too direct, if a woman tells you she finds you very attractive and loves something about you physically?

i.e., there's a guy at my workplace whom I met for the first time ever, first time seeing him there. As I walked by his department he asked me how my day was going, yada yada typical small talk, then I abruptly ended the conversation with, "I just have to say you are very attractive & I love your beard", he laughed said thank you, then I walked away.

I'm usually very shy, reserved, introvert. So in me doing this, it gave me an adrenaline rush which I enjoyed throughout the day. This was yesterday, today I now feel embarrassed & a bit foolish. I'll probably avoid walking by his area at work today.

The other day I found out that my boyfriend was a promiscuous in the past. I couldn't believe it because he is so shy and reserved. I asked how is it possible? So he said that he was very popular among the girls in his university, according to the girls he was conventionally very attractive, handsome and hot, that is why the girls used to aproach him for hookup. He never approached any girl, it was always the girls who approached him. I don't know if what my boyfriend is saying can be true or not. Can someone tell me is my boyfriend is right or not?

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Thank you all for the solid advice, especially the one guy who said I was staying due to cowardice...those words hit home, and I gathered the strength to say "I've had enough of this. I'm seeing my family whether you like it or not." I packed a bag and am staying with my family temporarily.

I got paid $2.1k today from work, we were living month-to-month at the previous apartment. She has no money in the joint account and I have a separate secure account my paycheck will go into with another bank.

Do I tell my landlord to remove me from the rental agreement, refuse to pay rent, and let that fall on my abuser?

She also has a loan for a beauty school course she gave up on months ago, $2.4k left owing. It's her course, but the loan info is all my payment info, name and address. I can call and confirm who's responsible for paying it off.

Also what if I buy a cheap car, and hers gets repossessed (it's fully under her name), would she try to seize my car when we are finalizing the divorce? Our assets have to be split, but we don't own anything valuable at all, really. Just mountains of debt lol.

I also don't have any evidence or physical proof of abuse, would that mean this is a no-fault divorce? I live in Canada. I took a break from her 2 years ago for 2 days at my family's house and she ended up self harming and threatened suicide if I never returned, but now I know those were empty threats to keep me from leaving. I provided everything for her, why would she ever want me to leave?

I have lots of questions, I'm only 24 and grew up without my parents, and haven't really ever been around married couples before and don't even know why I got married in the first place.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks again for listening.

I saw a bunch of comments on one of these posts, the comments being about how a lot of men are not complimented nearly enough. As a woman who enjoys complimenting others, I’d just like to say…

You’re doing great. I’m proud of you. I see how hard you work, and how much you do to take care of your family and/or others. You’re very attractive. I love the way your face lights up when you talk about your favorite people/things. I respect you. I’m thankful you’re alive. You deserve/deserved to be treated better.

I’m 5’7. Since that’s the first thing any woman will see, and they all seem to have really strong opinions about that sort of thing, is it even worth putting in the effort if it’s destined to go nowhere? For the record, I hope I’m wrong and just being a dumbass, which is why I’m asking.

I've noticed this pattern consistently throughout my life. Whenever I demonstrated attraction it's like these women notice it and take off running. Every relationship always started the same. In the beginning I am mysterious and they text me constantly. As soon as I begin to reciprocate, the texts get shorter. It's way worse when you have no options. That's a living nightmare. You reek of desperation. Now, I've come across a few options and everything is flowing well. I see them whenever I want because there are quite a few of them. It all runs seamlessly like a machine. NOW, I've noticed random women from my past coming back into my life and sending me messages. What's creepy is that they still held onto my number years after we stopped talking. Anyone else notice this phenomenon?

I constantly see the recommended subs posting about how average men need to stop complaining because theres stuff they can do to be desirable, and it’s always followed up by “unless you’re very short or disabled” or something like that, and then they say to either keep trying and not expect any results or to give up and make peace with being single forever.

Maybe it’s different for others but ive always seen myself wanting a wife and kids, coming home to someone, and just generally able to date. Im a social person, I want to be with someone, how am I supposed to accept being alone?

Edit: didnt mean to make it sound that way but to be clear I am not disabled, physically anyway

When you and your wife are intimate and or have sex, what is the ratio of you initiating vs. your wife?

What do men prefer for lingerie? Trying to spice up the bedroom more. I’m a short curvy girl with big boobs. I usually am just naked but wanting something different.

I've heard it before and now my boyfriend seems to agree. He liked me in thigh highs and a shirt of him more than in expensive and pretty lingerie

26m, Kinda late but before No Nut November I was horny all the time. Not really gooner level masturbator but two days of not doing anything left me busting. Anyway, come NNN I stop jerking and watching porn entirely. Every now and then I would just mess around at night without porn or nutting but get bored and go to bed. I was very horny tho so I decided when NNN ended to beat my meat like an alcoholic with a redhead stepchild. Once I was empty the horny never really came back like it was. I don’t think about sex as often as I used to, which was pretty often. I stilly get boners but I’m kinda worried I won’t be horny enough to satisfy a woman later.

We just went from about once every 3 weeks to 3 days in a row... She's finally enjoying herself. I feel a huge relief as I have been sooo horny lol. And I have a stronger desire for her than ever!

(I'm someone who, if I could have it my way, would have sex with her 2 or 3 times every day. I'd never tell her that I masterbate nearly 5 times a day and wish it was us. Hell, that would scare any woman lol. I've assumed many men live like this in a way though. She knows I'd always prefer more, but not the extent.)

God, I need sex like this! As teens we BANGED CONSTANTLY and I need that again, for a while at least. We are 30. Think I can get a sex life back? 🙏 Or am I dreaming? Saying this bluntly would definitely scare her though. From past experience, talking about our libido difference devastates our sex and therefore it's frequency.

We are a very happy couple. She tells everyone that. No general marriage complaints on either side.

Saw this question today so curious what men have

Hello Redditians! My New Year’s resolution is to delete all social media apps from my phone—Facebook, Instagram, Telegram—and only keep YouTube. However, I plan to use YouTube strictly for educational and inspirational content, avoiding anything that promotes negativity or low-value content.

If you’ve done something similar or have recommendations on how to fill the gap left by social media, I’d love to hear your ideas! How do you stay connected, entertained, or informed in healthier ways? Any tips or suggestions?

Is being a virgin at 24 or above considered a turn off or a dealbreaker for men? This is something that I have been worrying for a while and am too embarrassed to ask too.

Last year I was close to this guy and he kissed me, but I was stiff and like how do I do this?! When I told him he laughed but still I felt embarrassed 🥲 and I told him the last time I kissed someone was 5 years ago, since he asked

I am not the type to save for marriage but at the same time I don’t want to do it if it’s only a casual thing. And so far guys that approached me are either taken, married, or creepily obsessed. Def not what I am wishing for in a partner

I kinda worry that this will reduce my chance from meeting actual decent guy

have great office friend, we hang out a lot, joke alot and everything and kinda like her. Both of us went out for drinks last night, had a couple of them at a bar and then came to my place to have a few more. We were talking normally then she started feeling uneasy, she got up, puked a bit and then came out of the washroom and basically was about to fall, the alcohol had hit her quite bad. I was a bit tipsy but mostly in my senses. got her to bed and made her sleep. She slept for an hour while sat there holding her hand. Then she woke up from calls from her family and said that she has to leave, but she was in no state of leaving as she couldn't even sit straight or open her eyes, so told her sit for a bit, get normal then drop you. was sitting there holding her, and by this time was also quite tipsy, but didn't loose my senses.

As we were sitting, our mouths were very close and we kissed, maybe i would have taken the initiative. Then we made out fora bit, and then we got up and dropped her. We were talking the whole time but it was mostly her saying thank you for taking her care. I dropped her home and felt whatever happened, both were into it. But now when she's sober and normalI was talking to her and she's saying she doesn't even remember one detail about the night post puking. Nothing at all, what happened, what we talked about, when I dropped her home, nothing.

Now feel guilty as hell, am feeling I took advantage of someone who was not in their senses, it's killing me, am feeling like a rapist tbh. Just wanted to know that am i right in feeling so or not.

Please give brutally honest responses.

Went to Christmas at my sisters house.

At breakfast they served coffee and other breakfast foods.

My girlfriend does not drink coffee but she drinks caffeinated drinks from Starbucks that are not coffee, so she ate breakfast and after breakfast I asked my father if we can stop on the long drive home at Starbucks, and he said no as he wasn’t willing to stop. I then asked to borrow the car as we drove together as a family and we went to pick up Starbucks.

When we got back to my sisters house to say goodbye I had a bit of a disagreement with my sister, she said she would never leave someone’s house to go get a drink, especially when your a guest in someone’s home. My father had the most disappointment and gave me a hard time about getting my girlfriend a drink for the ride home. He said it was rude.

What are your thoughts, are me and my girlfriend impolite?

Pretty much the title. Deep down, I feel upset, hurt, rejected, bitter and angry even a bit envious of everybody else who has a good relationship or at least a partner they’re attracted to meanwhile I have to crawl through the minefield of people I don’t like, people I like who ghost me or just A-holes in general and it’s so exhausting. I always wonder what I’m doing wrong, why I’m being punished and why I can’t just have what I want and catch a break for once. How do I get over this?

Hi men. I’m 22F. I know I shouldn’t have been asking this question here considering I’m still kind of in my early 20s, but it’s been bothering me a lot, and I just needed to ask this to men who are in their late 20s, 30s, and above.

I have had one boyfriend in high school, and he cheated on me with his ex. And then he just broke up with me because I wouldn’t have sex with him. I don’t blame him, but that was after I told him I was sexually abused when I was 10-11 years old; it was after this he was pretty forceful for it. After that I was just not into dating and all until my 2nd year in college when I met this guy. It was honestly great. I liked him so much I can’t even tell you, but I caught him cheating on me with my cousin's best friend. I know it’s very complicated, and I don’t intend on explaining further, but.

At this point I don’t think I’d have a good relationship, and I’m not going to have sex with any guy just because for the sake of it.

My question is what if for some reason I don’t date at all in my 20s, but like no guy would date me in my 30s? Because of my kind of zero to none history in dating and other things,???

I mean, would it be a problem in the future? And if so, what should I do?

What’s the best lube out there right now? Why do you like it? Lately I feel like a lot of brands have changed their formulas and there are some unpleasant effects (doesn’t last, burning after, too sticky, doesn’t cleanup well, etc). I definitely would appreciate the advice.