I'm 25 and I work as a guide for an outdoor adventure company. We plan trips hiking, backpacking, rafting, etc. mostly for school groups and occasionally corporate groups. Typically on backpacking/hiking trips we take breaks at swimming spots. (In fact, we have to get lifeguard certified every April so we can do this.) And I usually go swimming with the group.

Recently, my boss suggested that I not swim in a bikini with high school groups. He didn't outright forbid it, but it was definitely a strong suggestion. Is this reasonable? I have been doing this for the 2+ years I've worked here and never had an issue. I have thought of bringing it up with the owner of the company, but I want a second opinion first. Let me know what you guys think.

*Edit: this is an example of one of my bathing suits.

I was shocked when my wings came with no sauce and my sides weren't right. Some people just don't know about hard work these days.

At least in the very red state where I live. I was laid off a week ago, which was surprising to say the least. Anyway, my brain cleared from the fog of emotion enough the other day to remember that I can file for unemployment. I have savings and I’m getting some severance, but every bit helps right? At first, the process to file seems easier than expected online. Then I get to the parts where I still will have to do weekly updates that “yes I tried to bullshit today.” I have to register with the state career placement office. I cannot refuse interviews. I have to explain why I refuse an interview offer or job offer.

Mind you, I work in technology sales with a 6-figure income. These processes and questions are all written around lower wage earning positions. Like “what income are you willing to take” is all listed with hourly and doing the math maxes out around $50k per year. How far are you willing to commute? Dude, I work from home. I’m in field sale. I’ve been WFH for almost 10 years before the pandemic.

I logged back into the system late yesterday to go finish the stuff for the career center. I see there are issues flagged on my application. Apparently they mail letters to tell you this but don’t email you despite doing it online. Why? Because they’re backwards I guess. Anyway one of them is that they need clarification from the employer about the reason for separation with an implication I might get denied.

The other is the kicker: I had to provide more detail on the amount of severance and the amount the company is paying me for my remaining accrued PTO. The state says that amount will be deducted from my max eligible compensation. Since the state maxes out at like $275 per week for up to maybe a year: yeah I will owe them money (not really but you know what I mean) for the 2 week severance and 50 hours of PTO I’m getting paid.

Why did I waste my time?

Work has been terrible. They put me assistant head housekeeper and i haven't been able to do what i need to do bcuz they give me a large number of rooms to clean so im not able to just check rooms like im supposed to and do other things. Every weekend i have like 25-30 rooms to clean. Now i hear im being demoted bcuz im not picking up the slack of the head housekeeper when she doesn't even do her job. Im expected to finish my rooms and help the other housekeepers bcuz they are super slow, so i have to pick up the slack of every one and im being demoted? Not even getting a chat like what am i actually supposed to be doing? I bust my ass working 6 days and I get rewarded with more work and demotion. Im quitting tomorrow

I was in an extremely high stress work environment. I was averaging $55k annually, but I was also working 60 plus hours per week. I had an hour long commute one way, and I have a family at home.

July of this year, I gave my notice. My boss begged me to stay, asked me to commit to a minimum of 6 months, and offered to fire one of my coworkers who I had complained about on multiple occasions for his grotesquely inappropriate behavior. I agreed to stay, but not for any of the above listed reasons. He fired my coworker that Friday.

Monday September 30th rolls around, boss expected me to stay late to wrap up end of month. I had been asking him all day to help me wrap up so I could leave to pick up my kids (I’ve stayed every other end of month up until this point). He completely ignored me all day. When I left at 5pm, he said “okay, I guess I’m just going to do your job for you”.

That was the last interaction I had with him. While he was in his office, I quietly packed up all of my personal belongings from my desk and left.

I sent him an email telling him my notice from July was effective immediately. I’m not 100% sure if he got it, but I got 3 texts the following day asking why I no-called no-showed. He got his boss to call me, and finally, HR called me. I ignored every single of one of them.

ETA: For those wondering, I was an auto service advisor for a dealership. We were always at 75% staff capacity because they take FOREVER to hire. And they have horrible paperwork process, so most of my late nights were spent filing paperwork from the 20-25 appointments I would check in daily.

Let's see if we can get some hard data/real research on the table on successful job searching.

How did you get your current or last few jobs? LinkedIn? Networking? Company site? Indeed?

I got my last two jobs on Indeed.

It's in our employee handbook I was rereading.

So I made a post here a few days ago about my boss deducting 1.5 hours from my time card because I took too long to get from the shop to the jobsite… I deleted it all because I realized there was some identifying information on my screenshot and construction projects have multiple companies working on them 😅

Anyways… that jobsite got finished on our end on Friday and during the week I also did some service calls and warranty calls. Everything seemed fine…

Boss calls me tonight at 7:30pm.. on a Saturday night(we work Monday to Friday 6am to 2pm) and tells me something along the lines of “I’m sure you’ve noticed I’ve been a bit crazy lately, things are slow we don’t have much work. I’m going to have to lay you and some other guys off. Consider yesterday your last day” I was just like oh okay.

He laid me off and 1 other guy. The other guy was probably the highest paid, most experienced and respected there. My younger coworkers told me I was 3rd or 4th in that regard(I won’t say that’s true just giving you an idea of the situation).

Overall it seems like a weird situation and my coworker is super angry but I’m just like w/e.

But.. here’s the suspicious part… the other coworker is responsible for getting us paid mileage for traveling from the shop to site or from site to site. About 1 or 2 months he went to HR with the laws and got it done. He told me all about it and then the two of us let the younger guys know how to put in for it and everything.

I also told my boss and hr that it was illegal to deduct that time but I wasn’t going to fight it I just wanted them to know. They never said anything back (was group message).

Now we both get laid off on a Saturday night(he called the other guy right after me).

I wasn’t really upset at first but after thinking about it for a while I keep getting a little more upset…

Do you think he did that in retaliation or something? Should I report this to some agency?

Here’s another rant of mine. I work in Quality Control at a big name food manufacturing Company and these University Interns always come in every summer shadowing us and the Quality supervisors. These fuckers get a personal office damn near unlimited catering for some reason eating good every day and to top it off…

Most of them get hired on as the new Quality supervisor’s or manager’s after doing jack shit for 3 months not even working a full entire shift (On the production line). Like seriously my other colleagues and I all worked our asses off to get promoted and you know who they think would be a GrEAT FIT….yeah you guessed it the dumb fucking intern. You mean to tell me a lady who has been with this company for 15 years isn’t qualified for a promotion. Big Fuck You!

Yesterday I was talking with a patient about my colleagues not being keen on working weekend or night shifts. Out of the bue another patient in the same room chimed in to state his brilliant solution: "People should work more hours."

He recalled how recently he went to the supermarket and he was paying at check out, but the girl helping him made a miscalculation. So he pointed that out and the girl mentioned how "She had been working the register for 4 hours now." He obviously thought that was a poor excuse and proceeded to point out "His generation worked over 40 hours and they profited as a result."

I asked him who should profit from that, but he didn't really had an answer. He implied the workers should benefit as ”The current generation doesn't want to work for more than 15 hours and have everything they want, but if they want more they should work for that."

It's funny to me though that there's an increasingly larger part of the mainly boomer generation who disregard any progression in worker productivity and believe because they worked that many hours, later generations have to as well. They don't seem to realize though that even if they would work for more hours that hardly benefits the workers, but rather the top few percent that often don't really work themselves at all.

So basically something like, a roll of Smarties with a note saying “you’re a smartie” or a stale cookie with a note saying “you’re a tough / smart cookie.” Something like that that you got as “recognition” for your hard work instead of a raise.

Remember when Indeed was the only job site that had Easy Apply and thus seem to be in the corner of workers? Now there are endless questions and barriers for each job, with some lengthy applications being even worse than the old school "log in and create your profile" applications.

They recently removed the number of applicants for the jobs you apply for, so we can't see our chances anymore and probably spend more wasted time on their app as a result.

When they ask you whether you like the app or not, if you say no they just send you to a useless help page instead of being concerned about what you think and improving the app accordingly.

Indeed is probably there just gathering our data and selling it. We are probably the products for Indeed, not the customers. So it doesn't really matter what we need, what matters is we stay on the site and give as much to it as possible.

' In most civilizations, leisure was a sign of status. The word itself derives from the Latin word “licere,” or “to be permitted to abstain from occupation or service.” Athenians thought leisure was “the highest value of life” and would devote entire days to creating art, playing sports, and contemplating the nature of existence. Aristotle believed leisure, not work, was “the goal of all human behavior, the end toward which all action is directed.” '

Stolzoff, Simone. The Good Enough Job (p. 112).

I gave them a 2 week notice because what job will wait 30 extra days to hire you on board??? In hindsight I should’ve just stopped showing up. Illinois. Can they just “keep” money I have earned?

I was with the same company for 23 years and was the manager of production, inventory, shipping & receiving, among many other things. I made myself indispensable and was able to fill in for anyone in my department that was sick or hurt, as I trained everyone else and was even able to fill in for other departments like dispatch when they were out.

I was offered a 4 week severance as part of my layoff. I was told that they were "eliminating my position" which makes absolutely no sense because I was essential to the daily operations of the company.

I was in charge of running inventory and prepping the warehouse for inventory, which takes weeks to prep for. I was laid off the day after our bi yearly inventory. Our inventory was originally scheduled for July, but I got sick and needed to spend 5 days in the hospital. Recovery was needed after discharge of the hospital so I didn't return to work until about a month later in August, with inventory being rescheduled for last weekend, because it could not be done without me. I saw an employment litigator and they believed that I am owed 23 weeks of severance and they also believe I was the target of retaliation because of the proximity of my illness. The constant harassment, gaslighting, and bullying I received from my boss over the years just made the situation even worse but there's really nothing I can do about that. It was a toxic work environment and I'm glad to be out of it, but I feel like I'm owed so much more than the 4 weeks of severance they offered.

I work at this place and they hired this lady in her 50s who will complain about everything. Literally every single thing. Was hired here and acts as if she owns the place, she drinks 3-4 energy drinks, snaps at people but a**-kiss management and she always stays 1-2 hours after her shift to talk to them and HR. I was reported once by her and she said I am trying to pimp her out to my male coworkers, just because they were talking to me with excluding her.

The other day she reported me again to one of the managers that I have a crush on my food and beverage director and chef and the interactions make her feel uncomfortable. Both men are in their 50s and I am in my 30s. I talk with my chef a lot since we are friends and we joke around. She watches us and she told me that I surely have a crush on him. Which is not the case, we are just friends.

Then the food and beverage director has been talking to me and yeah, I guess he is flirting in a way and I did flirt back. She came around watching us.

So I am being called by the other manager today and she knows me well, so she was asking me if I have a crush on either of them and she wants me to be happy LOL. Probably to gossip, wouldn't be surprised. So how do I deal with this kind of circus? Maybe go on a date with the food and beverage director and find another job?