I know the pandemic is the biggest factor that changed the world no doubt. But it really changed the world in such a way that even though there hasn’t been a lockdown for a few years now, we thought things would go back to normal after the lockdowns and measures but it didn’t. The pandemic created this strange energy in 2020 and it seems like it’s here to stay. I guess maybe even before 2020, life might have not been normal but after having experienced a whole pandemic, I think it’s safe to say that life truly is weird now and life before 2020 was definitely “normal” compared to these times we’re living in. I’d love to know what you guys do in your day to day life to try and beat this weird energy that has come into our lives?

What is one thing you regret till this day and you always wish didn't happened.

I always hear about good and innocent people dying young and suffering horrific deaths, while horrendous people live such long lives and it grinds my gears like no other. How do you cope with hearing all the tragedy in this world and do you believe there's any justice in this world?

Some of the posts here of young people struggling is really heartbreaking, and I wanted to share my thoughts after living over 40 years on this planet.

Every struggle you face is temporary, and whatever you are going through right now is very likely to be totally irrelevant in 10 years time.

Try to learn from your struggles and try to figure out how you can avoid them in the future.

Nothing matters if you are unhealthy, physically or mentally, so take good of yourself.

Maxing out financial opportunities is crucial to have a comfortable life later. Work your ass off before you have children yourself, so that you can have time for your own kids.

Change your environment if needed, moving to another place and starting from scratch is like having a new life.

Just some random thoughts from an internet stranger, take care all!

You ever just suddenly stop talking to people you were friends with for years? When did you realize that maybe they just aren’t willing to grow with you?

I haven't actually been alone my entire life just been with the wrong people who I cut lately so I'm actually by myself now.

So, my question is, is it fine to be alone my entire life?

I've been alone since 11-22.

So yeah, life isn’t exactly ideal for me right now. For that reason, I’d like to hear from you Redditors, "How can you come to enjoy your time in hell?" Is there anything you do to keep yourself from going insane? Is it possible to get used to it?

I’ve spent my life hiding, to protect people and to protect myself. I would lie and, I would fib, not out of malicious intent, but for comfort. But I have grown sick and tired of keeping up some charade for the happiness of those around me. I realized I need to start putting myself first. I’ve begun being blunt and honest with people, I let out my true feelings-whether it’s something as simple as where I want to go out to eat, or something more intense like being open about feeling neglected and taken advantage of in friendships and relationships.

Although lying and putting up a front can bring some comfort, I think I enjoy the discomfort of honesty much more.

I am free.

I’m 20 years old and i saved up a lot of money from work. I’m an electrician started working right after highschool, I really wanna buy a car i’ve wanted my whole life for around 23,000, this car is my motivation to wake up everyday and go to work it’s all i think about. I’ve finally saved up the money and my parents are telling me this is the dumbest thing in the world to do and i’m blowing all of my money. And my gf of 2 years (F19) is now saying i care about the car more then getting a place together. And my grandparents are also telling me to save and me and my girlfriend who see eschother everyday can get our own place together. I’m really frustrated because this car is my dream and is why i show up everyday and it’s all i think of and now everyone is saying im dumb

Seriously,

Me as a normal person i find meaning in giving back to society and helping and doing good.

If i don't do this i feel lost.

I wonder what psychopaths live for?

Anyone else in their mid 30s and still stuck what they want out of life?

I think I'm still stuck on if I want kids or not. I just haven't found a person to spend the rest of my life with yet.

I'm financial set, I have a house, I have a decent job, I have friends I see every so often... just still haven't found a person to be with I guess, and I'm stuck for what I want with my future.

Life is filled with challenges , setbacks and traumas . And sometimes we feel like there's place to release all these emotions and pains. This is a safe place for you to express, rant, and vent about anything and everything you need to :)

Just gonna be real, I live alone and don't have anyone to fall back on. With prices going up and the value of what I get paid, I'm usually scraping the bottom of the barrel. I'm starting to lose motivation tbh, it's just getting hard to stay afloat and sometimes have to decide between food or gas.

So, how should I make my life more interesting? I can't afford to go on vacation, so what do I do?

I'm curious of what people from an outside perspective would think. I think I post enough for a general gist. Just feel sort of lost in life right now.

Natural selection is a fundamental mechanism of evolution, first described by Charles Darwin. It explains how traits that increase an organism's chances of survival and reproduction tend to become more common in a population over time. Here's how it works:

1. Variation: Within a population, individuals have variations in their traits. These differences are often due to genetic mutations, recombination, or other factors.
2. Differential Survival and Reproduction: Some traits make individuals better suited to their environment, allowing them to survive longer and reproduce more than others.
3. Inheritance: Traits that enhance survival and reproduction are more likely to be passed on to the next generation.
4. Adaptation: Over generations, these advantageous traits become more common in the population, leading to a better fit between the population and its environment.

Natural selection acts on phenotypes (observable characteristics), but it ultimately influences the genetic makeup of populations. It is one of the key mechanisms that drive evolution, along with mutation, genetic drift, and gene flow.

I’m 19 and in college but I don’t really have any friends and I want to make some but I just truly don’t know how. Everyone says join a club but none of the clubs really interest me.

In my childhood, I never played sports. As a 23 year old, I can’t join the military without being laughed out because I don’t have the athletic background. I won’t be able to get a job in government due to poor performance in high school and college. It is just so frustrating because we don’t know better in childhood, yet decisions then affect us for the rest of our lives.

We have all had that one piece of advice, whether it came from a friend or family member, or maybe a stranger, that completely changed the way you think or act?

I’m looking for inspiration and wisdom, and I bet others are too! So share what piece of advice changed your life!

I will try to wrap this up as shortly as a can… I came from a not so great home, abusive mother, forced into studying a degree I hated… on top of that all my friends grew distance from each other so I was very lonely for a while until I decided to pack up and leave (run away I guess) to au pair in another country when my degree was done, I thought I was finally taking back some of my freedom. It was nice to start, I missed my siblings and my dog, but I was enjoying my fresh start, made some good friends and even met my now boyfriend. Then when my au pairship ended we had to suddenly move in together after only being together for 3 months, it was that or separate and we were so in love at the time (honeymoon phase) that we didn’t think twice about it. Then to my new friends I was just “X’s girlfriend” and now I only see them when we go out together. I made some new friends but I haven’t got anyone I’m really close to. I had a shit job after this, my boss knew he could work me more because I had to work for my visa and I ended up getting really sick from it. When I eventually thought I found a new job working in a school I was so excited and I quit. Again, I thought things were finally looking up. On top of that me and my boyfriend’s relationship has been really strained these past 2 years, I love him but I think I deserve someone more caring, then I second guess myself. It’s a little bit messy. Anyway, then I find out I can’t do the job anymore, so I’m unemployed, barely any friends, with a boyfriend who doesn’t appreciate the situations I’m putting myself through to stay with him. We’re visiting my family for Christmas now and he sees how stressed I get and upset around some of them and I feel like he just doesn’t care, when I try to talk to him about it he turns it around and makes it about himself, getting defensive when it has nothing to do with him. Then my family just make fun of me and do the same thing. I feel constantly stressed and down and angry… all of the time and I hate it, I hate being like this. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know where to go, no where feels like home. I think I’m better on my own but I’m scared of what that might mean.

I'm currently 16 and few days ago I have made a decision to pay for my university education and move out of my house as soon as possible and I am okay with it. I want to go and study Japanese culture at the university and unfortunately there are only 5 public universities with that line of study in my country which means that for a single position there are 40 candidates and because I doubt that I will get in I decided to study at a private university (which of course costs money). The reason I want to fund that education myself is because of my shit of a father. Long story short he's a piece of shit who always has a problem with something or just simply doesn't care and I know for a fact that he fucked me up so bad Im gonna need therapy when I'm older and I do not want a person like him to dictate my life. I don't want to kneel before him and beg him to let me go to my dream university and even more I do not want my father to be able to control me because "he has the money". He hardly gives a single fuck about me and I know for a fact he doesn't love me. And I do not want an egotistic hypocritical piece of shit like him tell me what to do. Nobody in my life knows about this decision yet and I most likely won't tell anyone. But I know it is possible and I already have a plan. I have a bit of money from my communion and from my birthdays because I hardly even touched it. I have signed myself up for a surveys filling program from which I can make money. I'm planning on getting a summer job and a seasonal job at an animal farm during next school year for 2 months on weekends. And I know I basically have a job in my pocket at my local linguistics teaching studio once I finish my high school education because I already have a C1 certificate and am going for C2 at which point they hire you automatically if you apply for a job. I do not care if I have to live on basic nesesities I simply want to get as far away from a man who I hate with my whole heart. No matter what it takes. I suppose this is kinda a rant. But I just want to get that out of my heart. I suppose I sound kinda insane but when you have a same dream ever since you turned 10 and finally realise there might be a way it feels nice. But also a bit scary.

Hello!

Before you read any further, I just want to warn you that I am 15, and have inevitably been affected by GenZ slang. My writing skills also probably suck. Apologize in advance!

Objectively, my life is pretty good. I have a healthy body, I'm average build, average intelligence, nothing really to complain about. I have a loving family, and we don't have any financial issues. I don't have anything to worry about, other than maybe failing my next math test. Pretty much anything a dude can ask for.

Despite all that, and I have a feeling this might be universal, I do feel a little empty at times. I think there are a number of reasons for this but as the title says, this post is going to focus mainly on friendship.

Highschool is the time where I feel like I should be making my friends for life, and it's not going too great. I'm not trying to say I don't have any friends. I do, and they're cool (debatable). However, I don't really have anything I would consider a "close friend". For example, if one day, I wanted to go to the mall or something, I don't have a friend/friend group who I could invite to go with me. In fact, I barely talk to anyone unless I'm in school. I think the reason for this stems from a couple of things. First, I'm pretty introverted and don't like socializing all that much. Second, I just don't really want to be friends with the people around me.

For context, I go to an all boys school. Everyone just seems extremely shallow, and for lack of a better word "NPCs". People are always spouting brainrot and unironically use words like "skibidi" in their dialogue. And if they're not doing that, they're talking about girls or making very *interesting* jokes. There's nothing wrong with that (excluding the jokes), but it's just not really my type of thing.

Am I just being too picky? Should I just suck it up and cope? Or should I try to make friends externally, outside of school, and if so, how would i do that?

I do realize I sound a bit whiny and y'all might cook me but please don't!!

Any advice is appreciated.

I tried to post to r/LifeAdvice but it got immediately removed so if anyone knows why that would be great.

It honestly scares me.

I'm in my mid 20s now, soon end of 20s and I lost the last years because of mental health issues. Made no significant progress in any direction, whether it be career or personal growth and learnings or friends etc.

And I've come to realize there just isn't enough time to learn it all. Right now I want to learn how to be a better person and partner for upcoming relationships after a bad breakup. I hit such a low in my life that noticed how much I want to figure out about myself, how much I want to grow. To avoid future mistakes.

But Im not sure if i can do this by the end of my 20s and then if I want to have a family, I have to hurry finding and equally mature partner, to have kids. Also I need to figure out my career, how to handle toxic family members, and just how to make good decision for myself. There is so much to know so much to learn. But I feel like the 20s are spend unpacking what our parents got wrong. I feel like I never got good advice there, not once, and my friends are also in their 20s and also have no clue. Some act like they know it all but tbh I think they are just lucky right now.

I don't want to accept that life is a journey and I will not have learned how to be the person i want to be with 40...I don't want to go through divorce and build a broken family...or feel like I wasted my 20s by something I didn't do. ..and then it's too late to do it. Or harder.

I want to be wiser soon.

I am fascinated with the vast differences in how people experience sleep.

My wife can only fall asleep if a lot of requirements align: complete darkness, not too early, but not too late, just the right number of pillows, white noise at the right volume and frequency, etc.

I have no requirements, and can fall asleep anywhere and at any time if I just decide I need to rest. And then my body usually wakes me up two minutes before my alarm, so I never even have to hear my alarm to get up on time.

What do you need for a good nights rest, and what is your strategy for falling asleep once you’ve decided you want to? I can share my strategies later, but I first want to hear from others.

Thinking of changing my first name legally this year. I am changing my first name given at birth to a childhood nickname that I had growing up which fun fact, was initially going to be my first name, but my parents changed their mind. Anyways, it would be Bella Vita. My question is, do I hyphenate the two or leave a space? Not sure if it is correct grammar wise to leave it with or without the-and or it is more of a hassle legally. Thanks!

Man some days I want to give TF UP! But I remember it’s hella shit I want and want to do so not just yet lmao.