I'd like to start this by saying that I don't know a whole lot about stuff like this, so if something happens to come off a bit weird, I am perfectly fine giving clarification :3

I am not non-verbal, but I feel something close to it where I'm just more comfortable not speaking. My googling has taken me as far as selective mutism, but I really don't think it's that, since my 'need' for not speaking is not because I get nervous about it or anxious, I just find it easier to communicate when I'm not speaking. It's less an aversion to verbalizing and more an aversion to using words, since I have a tendency to use sounds and/or body language to communicate. I honestly don't know if there's a name for it, but I really don't like speaking, since when my words inevitably get messed up or misunderstood my brain starts feeling like it's gonna pop like a balloon.

I have a hard time communicating and being silent feels better than speaking, but I'm afraid saying that is going to make others feel like I'm trying to pretend I'm nonverbal or selectively mute. I'm really not, I'm just more comfortable when I'm silent.

—A shy bean with no clue if his problem has a name :p

Hi, Reddit! 👋

I’ve been reflecting a lot on how my brain works, and after diving into the concept of low latent inhibition (LLI), I realized how much it aligns with my experiences. This isn’t about a “disorder” or a diagnosis—it’s about a different way of processing the world, and I’d love to hear from others who resonate with this!

What LLI Feels Like for ME:

1. The World Is Loud (But Also Fascinating): • I don’t have a natural “filter” for information. I take in everything—sounds, patterns, emotions, subtle changes in my environment—and process it all. This can make life overwhelming but also endlessly interesting.

2. A Mind Full of Connections: • My brain is constantly connecting the dots between things. I notice patterns and relationships others might miss. This makes me great at solving riddles, brainstorming ideas, or seeing solutions no one else thought of.

3. Deep Intuition: • I often “know” something before I’ve consciously processed why. My intuition is strong, and it’s based on the countless details I’ve absorbed without realizing it.

4. Overwhelm Comes Quickly: • When too much is happening at once, I can feel mentally and emotionally overloaded. Bright lights, loud noises, or chaotic environments drain me fast.

5. Racing Thoughts, Creative Bursts: • My mind doesn’t stop—it’s always firing ideas and connecting new concepts. When I’m not too tired or stressed, this feels like a superpower.

6. I Need Time to Process: • Even though I “know” things intuitively, I still need time to consciously process all the details I’ve taken in. This can make me seem slow to respond when, in reality, my brain is working overtime.

The Strengths and Challenges of LLI:

The Good: • Creativity and Problem-Solving: I excel at thinking outside the box and finding unique solutions. • Sharp Observational Skills: I notice subtle changes and details that others might miss. • Deep Understanding: I connect with people, systems, and ideas on a profound level. • Intellectual Curiosity: I’m fascinated by how the world works and love exploring new ideas.

The Challenges: • Sensory Overload: Too much stimulation can feel unbearable. • Fatigue from Overprocessing: Taking in so much information constantly is exhausting. • Difficulty Letting Go: My brain holds onto details and patterns, even when they aren’t helpful. • Balancing Logic and Intuition: I know things instinctively but sometimes doubt myself until I’ve overanalyzed everything.

Why I’m Sharing This:

I’m sharing my experience because I believe there are more people out there like me—people who see the world differently, process information uniquely, and feel deeply connected to their environment.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear about your experiences. Do you feel like your mind is always “on”? Are you constantly making connections others don’t see? Does your intuition feel like both a gift and a mystery?

Let’s start a conversation about what it’s like to live with a unique brain that doesn’t filter the world the way most people do. This isn’t about pathology or illness—it’s about understanding and celebrating how we function.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

TL;DR: I experience the world intensely, notice patterns everywhere, and often feel both overwhelmed and deeply curious. I believe this aligns with the concept of low latent inhibition (LLI). If you can relate, let’s connect and share our experiences!

Let me know if you’d like to tweak anything or add more specifics about your experiences! This structure should spark interest and encourage meaningful discussion.

I don’t exactly know why this happens to me or why it’s an issue, but when my dad plays music in the car whilst we drive i get unreasonably upset and overwhelmed to the point of tears. It’s not at a really loud volume by any means but apparently it’s just slightly too loud for me? I don’t know, I’m not sure and i don’t know when it started but I’d really like it if someone could maybe share their insight on this.

So I'm 24 and I have been living with sister for the past two years. Over the past two years I have had issues with keeping my cool with my nephews, staying off my phone, with lying, with playing with my newphews, hanging out with the family, and keeping up the cooking and cleaning. Now I'm at the point where I have hurt my sister and brother in law and they feel disrespected. And I feel like they are going to kick me out and send me back to Washington. But I want to stay in Texas. I have a hard time communicating with them. I think it's because I've always been afraid of making people mad at me or I'm afraid of being in trouble. I was living by myself before I moved into my sisters house to help her with her kids. I feel like I had a ton of freedom before and now everything has been stripped from me. I can't pick my own food, I don't have my own space, barely have my own bed (youngest nephew likes to sleep w me), and I feel like the only decisions I could make were financial. Which led to me rebelling I guess? Cause i put myself in a financial hole. I never meant to hurt anybody. I just found out in August 2024 that I have Inattentive ADHD. Now my sister is putting my youngest nephew in daycare. I have physically hurt him like left bruises on him but I didn't mean to and I don't want to I love him. But when I try 10 different times to put him down for his nap and he starts to hit and kick and bite and pinch me I get to a point of rage that I end up hurting him. And I get told by everyone I need to stop isolating myself. I want to be around them but not all the time. I also don't want to talk if im just gonna be kicked out or deal with them being angry with me. I've tried offering to just help pay the bills but my sister says she doesn't want a roommate. I just don't feel like I'm at the same level as them because it's their house. And I had issues like this at my moms house too because her husband was constantly trying to or threatening to kick me out. I know I need to talk to me them but I get emotional and I shut down. I just need some advice. Thanks.

Let me start this by saying I myself am not neurodivergent. But I am posting this wanting to try and get a better understanding of possibly the thought processes or why things are the way they are with the woman I an seeing who has ADHD and Autism.

To try and keep this as short as I can without possibly the full context. I'm 25 and she's 22 and we started going out casually May of last year. Things very slowly progressed between our busy schedules, the hour between us with the fact she didn't drive (still doesn't but working on it) as well as the fact she also has POTS which can put her down for days at a time.

Things slowly got more serious but me being unsure of the situation and what she wanted as she stated early on and even when we were friends before we started dating that she did not want a relationship, between that and my next point. We never had the "making it official" talk so even though things were getting more serious or felt as though. I was always a bit too afraid to even bring that topic up. This past summer we ended up going through a rough patch of pretty much no communication for at least 2 months and slowly started getting back to talking as we were with us starting to go out again this month and I have to say that when we're together things feel pretty great...now time for my problem.

Throughout everything, since the beginning I have time of feeling invisible or being second fiddle. I don't know expect nor want someone to be texting me 24/7 but it's not too horribly uncommon to end up going days without hearing from her or getting a response from her. It's more so when she has classes going on she gets so absorbed and overwhelmed with them but even now that she's had a break it still happens. The most recent occurance being not hearing from her or being left on delivered from Christmas Eve up until yesterday...even through me wishing her a Merry Christmas on the day of Christmas and never hearing back. She was a couple hours away out of town visiting family for those days but it still fucking hurts...

I'd like to say it doesn't feel like it's too uncommon with her as she will even get calls or texts from her family while we've been out and didn't even realize it or answer even if they're asking when she'll be home or a cousin even asking for their gated community's gate code so her cousin could get in.

Basically. I don't know whether this is a "she's just not that into you" thing or whether it's related to the autism/adhd or more specifically the adhd. I've brought it up to her in the past and how it makes me feel and she tells me she'll work on it and seems sincere but it still comes up and happens often enough for me to feel the need to make a post like this.

In my head I go: Well how does the person you're dating or is supposed to be romantically interested in you not want or think to message you for a couple days? Especially how do you not think to want to wish them a Merry Christmas? Because I thought to.

My daughter is 45 and has never been on her own. She lives in an apartment in a townhouse that I own, and pays a reduced rent- she tutors students and makes a moderate income that allows her to buy her own groceries. The issue is maintaining her home cleanliness, religiosity and hoarding, when she had a cat there was a horrible smell.

She is very, very smart in Math, Science and physics - but does not take responsibility for herself and her actions when she is in a social situation. She does not get social cues at all. I have encouraged her to talk to someone; but will blow up very angrily if anyone tries to redirect and help her. As she gets older- as I have in the past, I have encouraged her to seek professional help. Where can she obtain help in NY - I am now in my 70’s and would like to see her progress - now she behaves like a spoiled 16-17 year old. DNT

So I had a test done like 2 years ago, I am not entirely sure how long ago it was, but it was a test that they tried to look for any sings of autism spectrum stuff or adhd/add. Well, they did not think I have anything, but I've started to think that they were wrong back then. This needs a bit of background information about my mental health:

I started struggling with depression during the pandemic, most likely because I had no routine and it was hard to get anything done, after a while of not going to school my mother got me to a doctor and they got me antidepressants and I was diagnosis with depression and anxiety. Before the meds started working it just got worse and I had to be admitted to the psych ward for around two weeks and it was horrible but it kinda got better but I started going to a psychologist and a nurse to talk to them and it helped to talk to them. At one point the psychologist did the test, it was long and took like two hours, but what I started wondering about was that, did I answer the questions well? Or did I tell the truth, I didn't talk much, once at an appointment that lasted 45 minutes I didn't say a single thing and just fidgeted with a kitchen towel that I was super emotionally attached to (I still love it but back then I took it everywhere with me)

I'm not sure if that made any sense to anyone but the point was that I have reason to suspect that the test was wrong.

Things that really make me wonder are: -I hate sudden noises and get overwhelmed -I have to wear headphones if there are too many different sounds around me, think about for example a room full of children who are laughing and one is crying and then their parents are loudly talking over the noise to eachother and then someone suddenly yells very loud. Or then just my classroom (its like a small group that have a hard time at school or just troublemakers, 'yeah a great combination ik'/sarcastic marked in ' ) -Sensory issues, not even gonna list everything but clothes tags, if a bowl is too dry (dont know how to explain that) and propably just sticky stuff makes my skin crawl -I share a lot of same feelings with my older brother who is on the spectrum, he has ADD, and it feels nice to talk to him because he understands me -my school counselor who has known me for a long time thought I was diagnosed until I told her otherwise - neurodiversity runs in my mom's side of the family (mom, 2 of my brothers, my great aunt, cousin and a lot of others from my family who I dont even know fully) -I get tics, i had them first when I was 11 they lasted for a few months and now I got them again but worse, now I've had them since september -I have some sort of stutter thing and that I'm planning to see a speech therapist about, it's not a normal stutter, I feel like it might be related to the tics. Also I forget words way too often from my native language. -many MANY other things that I dont have the time to write now but ask questions if you want.

Now what I want you, reader, to do is that you maybe could voice your opinion should I go to the psychologist to get the test done again, ask questions if you want. I wont guarantee that I'll answer everything though!!👍 Also to just mention please use tone tags or emojis in your comments so I understand are you being mean or trying to be nice🙂🙂

Like I mentioned English is not my first language so something might be a little weird but it's not likely cuz I have a 9 in English (10 is the best but its hard to get anywhere, but I'm aiming for it)

Mini rant/vent.

Does anyone else get annoyed at little things, even when they're outside of your control? Like for me, I so often get irritated with the sounds of sniffling or a frog-in-the-throat sound, because someone can so easily grab a tissue or clear their throat. And sometimes when you have the option to remove yourself from the situation, the people around you view it as rude, even when you try to explain yourself, then they say you're being dramatic.

Several of my in laws are really lackluster gift givers - they just seem to always miss the mark in various ways. I think this Christmas about 75% of what we received from them went right into the donation bin when we got home.

My husband was chatting with his mom (one of the not so great gift givers) and the topic of gifts came up, and he floated the idea of an alternative gift giving scheme (white elephant or Yankee swap or something similar) to try to pivot away from what we see as a wasteful gift giving practice. She pushed back because she said that for her and my husband's sister (the other bad gift giver) part of the fun of Christmas is watching everyone open gifts one by one. But for the past several years, we have been feigning excitement at their gifts for the sake of being polite.

So, their enjoyment is based on us lying. If we keep lying, we will continue to receive gifts we can't/won't use and end up donating. But because we pretend to like the gifts, there is no feedback opportunity for them to know to change up what they are giving.

This seems like an extremely wasteful and silly cycle to perpetuate but I see no way out of it without hurt feelings if they aren't receptive to our proposition to change things up.

My husband and I are both neurospicy and I think that adds a layer of difficulty for us in figuring out how to communicate to family that part of their Christmas tradition that they enjoy is reliant on dishonesty and we don't want them to waste their money just because we are trying not to be rude.

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

I’m looking for recommendations for a crewneck sweater that stays super soft on the inside, even after many washes. I’m very sensory-sensitive, so texture is incredibly important to me. I love the feel of new sweaters, but the softness always fades after a few washes and get scratchy enough that i can’t wear them.

Does anyone have suggestions for specific materials, brands, or even washing tips to maintain softness?

Ideally, I’d love something durable, lightweight in a normal crew neck fit.

I feel like I often have to fidget with something. It startet with picking my nails, then I was able to stop, but I startet peeling pimples. I really want to stop, but I often do it without thinking, especially when I sone out. I have been thinking maybe a fidget toy will help, but it has to be something that I can take with me, and that is quiet for school.

Is anyone else reminded to use their inside voice? Is this a common thing for folk like us?

I’m 31/F with a generally good memory and no issues with right/left confusion or anything like that. But ever since my teenage years, I’ve noticed a specific problem: I really struggle with remembering binary distinctions.

For example, if someone tells me, “The thing on the left is called Glub, and the thing on the right is called Rufe,” my brain feels like it just can’t retain that kind of info. It’s oddly specific, but it’s been bothering me more recently.

Sometimes, I even spend sleepless nights wondering if this could be an early sign of something serious like dementia or another cognitive issue.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it something to worry about, or are there strategies that can help with this type of memory quirk? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hey guys! I’ve just started a new psychology podcast with Dr Tess Maguire. We have recorded a three minute introduction that you can access via the links below. I’d love it if you could listen to this and review it, as we are trying to get the podcast going! Thank you so much!

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Hi so I'm 19 (pronouns - they/them). I was diagnosed with ASD at 17. I live in Ireland and the services are kinda crappy. I only managed to get diagnosed cuz I was struggling with severe mental health issues at the time (likely cuz I had struggled without having support for my autism all my life) and I had a good therapist who picked up on symptoms I had described over the years I spent with her. Since being diagnosed I've really loved having being autistic as part of my identity. I did loads of research, managed to help myself and be more compassionate towards myself, find people who understand me and in general my life has just gotten a bit better. Anyway that's all background that's not super important. Anyway since I'm now really settled in my autistic diagnosis, a few months back I began to think I also may have ADHD/ADD. I realized I was experiencing so many symptoms of ADHD that I was just passing off as autism but are way more common with ADHD. The thing is I'm worried about going to a professional and being told "all those symptoms are too similar to autism you just want another diagnosis" type bs. (I have experience with GPs being assholes.) But my university does apparently have a small ADHD diagnosis service so I was considering making an appointment with one of the doctors when I go back to college to see if I could get referred. I do get mostly anything I could want from an ADHD diagnosis from my autism diagnosis, disability allowance, accomodations etc. The one thing I've been curious about since I've been thinking about ADHD if the medication used for ADHD could make my life a lot easier. I'm on antidepressants and mood stabilizers that do help a bit but what if all this time all I needed was my potential ADHD to be treated to be more mentally stable? Anyway that's enough yapping, I'll list some of my symptoms of ADHD at the end of the post, but my main question is, when loads of the symptoms are also possible with just autism, how do I know (I know I can't definitively know without medical help but make an educated guess) that I have ADHD? Symptoms: - Executive dysfunction - This affects everything. I miss so much college because I can't get out of bed. I'm better than I used to be but I still miss almost half of college. Doing household tasks is even worse, when I'm asked to do them most days I try to convince myself to do them for hours then end of crying and hating myself that I can't get up. This is usually the worst with showering which makes me feel even worse cuz it's meant to be one of those basic tasks you do all the time. - Rejection sensitivity - I only recently learned about this as an ADHD symptom and it explains a lot. I did think I had BPD due to how strongly I react to perceived rejection, constantly thinking loved ones are mad at me or going to leave or scream at me etc, though I do have past abuse trauma so that also contributes obviously - Inattentiveness - I really struggle to be present on one thing at once, I tend to actually have to do multiple things at once or my brain will wander. E.g. playing a mobile game while in class or watching a TV show. - Hyperactivity - I tend to have less of this but it does come in big bunches at random times. A lot of times just before I go to sleep I will start blabbing about the most random stuff to my girlfriend for ages, usually after the light is off. Sometimes this also results physically in that I can't stop wriggling around etc, so she tells me to get up and dance to burn off some energy, which actually does work to get me to sleep after a bit. Losing things - I lose my phone or vape at least 3-4 times a day. I lose something for a longer period of time at least every few weeks. It feels like I'm going insane when I lose things cuz I just can't figure out where they possibly could be. Addictive personality- Heard this is like a less official symptom, I do have a nicotine addiction and have kinda verged on the edge of alcoholism in the past. Brain active - Just to mention that in general it feels like my brain has like 5 different dialogues going on at once constantly, one could be a song I heard on tik Tok, then in the background there's also thinking about some topic in depth like maybe a theory from a show I like, another thinking about a joke my friend make other, and another is like a little anxious goblin saying the most random mean shit alllll the time. Sorry I know it's such a long post but I wanted all my thoughts out there for advice!

Idk if this is a neurodivergent thing but my manager has been rude to me since I started working in this restaurant. I feel extremely anxious and multiple times I had to go to the bathroom to get some breathing air and anyways I needed to rant. Do let me know if anyone has had a similar experience with a manger being like this.

Chain of events (I wasn’t on my meds so I’m more prone to anxiety and mistakes) 1. We were grossly over staffed and I was told to go on the shop floor to pick up empty glasses but there were already a few people doing this and the shop floor is so small…so I went around picked up what I found and came back 2. She sent me out again and I tried to tell her hey, there’s a lot of people there already and a customer just yelled at me because she kept getting bothered by my other coworkers as to whether or not she was done with her glass or not, but she didn’t listen (this incident made me more anxious) 3. Later on she said to my coworker to go to the floor because “other people are too lazy” to go 4. Then she said she’s going to “get rid of her” “her” being me to another coworker. 5. She then proceeds to start micro managing me. I went to the bathroom for 5 minutes and she starts going around looking for me as if my coworkers aren’t standing around doing nothing (one repeatedly just keeps going in the back on his phone), I was moving glasses from one table to another but again she tells me there’s no need to do that, I should go get glasses but the floor is like not that big…how quick are people drinking their beverages ??(not quick) I’m trying not to take this personal but it’s triggered me so bad and I feel so little and like I can’t do anything right but I don’t think this is my fault.

A lot more happened but she’s only like this to me and not to my other coworkers (all men) maybe this is a misogyny thing. I’m also black so maybe it’s prejudice. Honestly I don’t know.

One of the best accommodations I’ve made for myself recently was changing the light bulb in my bathroom to a smart light.

The regular light was harsh and overstimulating, especially during showers. I loved the idea of showering in the dark, but turning off the light also turned off the vent— and that felt like a recipe for mold. I was considering waterproof candles and shelves - but got overwhelmed with the cost and options, and unsure about the batteries and charging. The smart bulb solved everything. Now, I can dim the light to a more soothing level and even switch the color to something calming, like a soft blue or warm orange. It was a pretty simple adjustment, but it’s made showers (and self-care in general) feel so much more manageable and enjoyable - and I finally cleaned the light fixture/vent I’ve been staring at and meaning to for longer than I’d like to admit (years?).

It’s a small thing, but the impact on my sensory environment has been huge. I’ve been so surprised at how much less reluctant I am to shower and just how much more pleasant the experience of transitioning to the shower has gotten as well as the in-shower experience. What accommodations have you made for yourself that turned out to be total game-changers.

hello everybody! this might be the wrong subreddit for this. please redirect me if it is.

i am 20f and ever since i was a preteen i experienced some delusions, terrifying intrusive thoughts and paranoia. i also experienced, very rarely, the occasional visual hallucination.

im 20 now and this year they have gotten worse. whenever im stressed or depressed, ill start having random visual hallucinations. theyre not scary or anything (aside from the ones when i turn off my light) but they do throw me off. it can also come hand in hand with brain fog. the delusions and paranoia have also gotten much much worse. im paranoid that everyone i love is trying to leave me, secretely hate me, or that people i used to know are out to get me and ruin my life. ill believe the stupidest of things because i convince myself someone i know is out to get me. i also experience trouble with my cogitive abilities.

now, schizophrenia runs in my family. but its weird. i wouldnt have had these symptoms- albeit mildly- when i was a preteen, right? i mean, you develop schizophrenia in adulthood. so does anyone know what to do next? my therapist told me to see a neurologist (i think thats what he said).

any advice is appreciated

It’s really triggering depression and anxiousness. I tried going outside but it didn’t help. Not sure what to do right now. I don’t have any money so I can’t go buy something . Ugh I hate moments like this !

I did very well in school and at university with my grades. But I cannot for the life of me sit still and pay attention to anything. Sitting still and focusing in class has always been a massive struggle. If I managed to make myself sit still, I was so fixated on trying to sit still that I would not be listening at all. Usually after the teacher or lecturer had finished talking I would ask the person next to me “what are we doing?”. Because of this I am socially perceived as being “scatty” or “clueless”.

When it comes to essays and coursework I ace them. I don’t organise myself and do the work over the given amount of time I do them in a rush right before the deadline. And the grades come out and I have done really well. I don’t feel confident that I have done well but I always have, coming out with an A, A* or equivalent. Maybe its a talent.

My mum of course was always thrilled I did so well. She would boast about my grades and tell everyone in the family. The reactions I would get from others at school would be constant disbelief. That by some sort of miracle I would get good grades. I would get snapped at by my friends; “I work so hard and got lower grades and you do well and don’t even try!” . Of course I tried. I tried very hard in the moment I was writing it and it paid off. So I don’t understand what they mean by me not trying? Bit insulting really.

This continued through A levels and into university. After the first few assignments my friends didn’t even congratulate me on my grades. They always seemed irritated and would snap at me if I tried to console them if they were upset at their grade. One said “I don’t want to hear it from YOU”. I even offered to read through peoples assignments before submission to give them some pointers and they always refused but let others help them.

I had another friend who did very well with assignments and he was always treated like he deserved all his academic success, because he seemed more dedicated I guess. People would turn down help from me when I offered but would always allow him to help them.

But I did try hard at school and university, I poured my heart into every exam and piece of coursework and academic writing, even if it was last minute and I hadn’t used the time given to me. Perhaps I am not organised, and perhaps I don’t show the right attitude but I put my hard work in where I needed it and I find it hard when I am not taken seriously.

Im not sure whats wrong me or if im actually neurodivergent or not but I cant form emotional connections, even though its something i enjoy. Ive always been told im emotionally intelligent and i can easily mirror people, but something about me is just not right. Something about me is fundamentally different and i cant function the way normal kids my age do. I dont seem ti belong anywhere and its only getting worse with age.

It got to the point where i realized i barely have any friends. Everyone at my class seems to be close, having friend groups..everyone seems to have that one personal best friend which i used to have as well but we grew apart, and now since everyone already has their social circle i can’t easily get in anymore. Its like everyone around me is alien, and im constantly trying to figure out how to act like them (normal) and be like a normal teenage girl, but no matter what i just cant. People approach me and try to be friends, but then they make group chats without me..it makes me noisy too because i wanna figure out what kids my age are like and how they text their friends and how often they do it so i know what I’m doing wrong, you know?..i dont know if its a neurodivergency thing or am i just stupid. I know ill be disappointed either way.

am i the only one that’s hearing a very light and high pitched sound in my head ? Like it’s not there every time but just when i feel stressed and it HURTS so bad because once i start hearing it, it never stops. It affects my ear and the back of my head mostly. It’s sickening.

Bugs. Bugs and more bugs. I can’t do it. I believe it’s a sensory thing with me I’m not sure. Imagining them flying around me or crawling on me With their legs just give me the ick. And sometimes I feel bad about it because bugs like butterflies are so beautiful but if one flies near me or is near me I freak out. I won’t go out of my way to harm them but I just can’t seem to get over this ick. I saw a huge butterfly the other day and it was gorgeous but the whole time I walked by I was afraid it would move and land on me or fly near me 😭😭