r/GetMotivated 15d ago

IMAGE Honesty weeds out the wrong crowd [image]

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

Dumb people interpret stuff like this to mean they can be an asshole and its everyone else's problem.

I prefer "It's a dangerous thing to mistake speaking without thought for speaking the truth” by the philosopher Benoit Blanc

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u/ElegantEchoes 15d ago

Didn't Lennon consistently abuse his wife and kids? I remember my teacher telling me that in school. Pointed out the irony during his song "Imagine".

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u/JoleeBind0 14d ago

Didn't Lennon consistently abuse his wife and kids?

He slapped his wife once, one singular time. Her own words.

Afterwards he admitted to it, said he hated himself for it, completely changed, and then became one of the biggest advocates and icons for peace in human history.

I'd say he's more than made up for it, and then some.

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u/mindful_subconscious 14d ago

“I used to be cruel to my woman, and physically - any woman. I was a hitter. I couldn’t express my words and I hit.” - John Lennon, Playboy magazine 1980. That doesn’t sound like a one time mistake, but a pattern which he worked to overcome.

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u/Thejudojeff 13d ago

He worked on it in a time where you didn't have to. Especially, if you were famous. Not a perfect man, but who was?

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u/Umutuku 14d ago

Being open about that probably helped him make a lot of friends who were the same way.

So I wonder if it's less that it gets you "the right ones" and more that honesty is skill based matchmaking.

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u/621MSG 14d ago

How do we know he beat his wife? He told us. Nobody else would have if he hasn't said so first. Would you prefer he kept it secret like probably 99% of abusers? Or does the fact that he publicly repents bring the issue out into the open where it needs to be? About as heroic as you can be in that situation.