r/ufyh • u/lilymaebelle • 1d ago

Work In Progress Baby step

I have a depression room. Actually, I have a depression apartment. But within the depression apartment is an even deeper circle of the inferno that is a depression room.

I just filled up a whole trash bag. I'm now sneezing my head off. Yikes.

But I filled up a trash bag. Or almost filled up a trash bag. It was starting to get heavy, so I think that counts.

I did not take a before picture, because having that on my phone would be depressing. But maybe I'll look in there tomorrow and see that there's actually some stuff missing and I'll feel hopeful enough take a photo.

The baby step wasn't filling up the bag, by the way. It's posting here. It would be lovely to have some support, but even if none is forthcoming, I was able to be honest with someone today, even if it's strangers on the internet.

I want to value myself enough that I'm able to treat my space as nicely as I would keep someone else's. You should see my desk at work, it's spotless.

One bag. It has to start with one bag.

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u/louvemusiq 1d ago

I found the book How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind by Dana White helpful. I listened to it while I worked and while I'm not doing EVERYTHING as well as I had hoped, I do my dishes every morning amd spend at least 5 minutes of each day cleaning up akd it's actually made a huge difference. It's pushed me to look at all of the junk I have no emotional attachment or need for, and that's helped me purge a lot. I did the audiobook and definitely recommend giving it a shot.

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u/lilymaebelle 1d ago

I've been doing SO much better with dishes lately. They'll still sit for a week, maybe two, but in the past it's been months. I haven't even been using paper plates much!

I watched a Dana K. White video on YouTube recently (it was probably recommended here) and I liked her a lot. I own several decluttering books that are, guess what, collecting dust. Maybe an audio book would hit differently! I'll have to try it.

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u/louvemusiq 1d ago

Let me know if you do and if it helps!

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u/Lauryeanna 19h ago

Check with your local library. I access mine through an app called Libby and I'm able to check out audiobooks for a couple of weeks. This way, you don't come out of pocket for something that you might find doesn't serve you as well as you hoped. But if it does work well for you, then you know it will be worth the investment in you.

And please - go look in the mirror. Take a good look at that lovely person you see looking back at you and know that you are worth the effort of your care tasks. Sometimes just getting onto the road is the accomplishment. And staying on the road can be tough but you ARE making progress and you should be proud of yourself for that effort and any accomplishments you make along the way.

Much hugs and love internet stranger. You've Got This!! 🤗🤗🤗