I’m still angry

[u/bookyface]

Posted here a couple of days ago about how DH invited SD and SS over to our house (separately, because these kids hate each other other) for half of my break from work without asking me and deleted it, because I thought I should just get over it. SD is leaving the house today to go back to her Mom’s, and I figured SS was supposed to come over this evening/tomorrow. Come to find out that SS is due to come over tomorrow and the day after, leaving me three whole days of no kids. On a 12 day break from work.

DH seems to think that everything is fine, I’ve been playing well with SD and I told him that he’s welcome to bring SS as he’s already invited him (and just ignored me) so it would be rude to SS to take that back.

I’m a door mat. Spent this whole time with SD cleaning up after them both and fuck me, I guess I should have said no to SS but then I’m the bad guy. Again.

John and Julie Gottman talk about resentment being one of the four horsemen heralding divorce. Wonder how many years I’ll be putting up with DH just making plans with his bratty kids before it gets too much.

[u/katmcflame]

Reformed doormat here. Nothing changes until you change yourself. So, step back. Do your own thing. Make arrangements to travel/ be busy elsewhere. Leave your SO to handle his kids & their mess.

[u/regretinlife → u/katmcflame]

I get that It'sa good solution, but what is the point of a relationship like this? When my SO has his son and we can't do anything together I wonder, what do I get from this? I'm not trying to be rude, I just want to know your point of view. Thank you

[u/seethembreak → u/regretinlife]

Everyone has responsibilities that get in the way of their relationships, social time, and hobbies. I look at my SK the same as my husband’s job. It’s something he has to take care of and then we’ll have our family/couple time. Of course, that family/couple time is also something that my husband prioritizes.