r/stepparents • u/bookyface That bitch who is at fault for it all • 1d ago

Vent I’m still angry

Posted here a couple of days ago about how DH invited SD and SS over to our house (separately, because these kids hate each other other) for half of my break from work without asking me and deleted it, because I thought I should just get over it. SD is leaving the house today to go back to her Mom’s, and I figured SS was supposed to come over this evening/tomorrow. Come to find out that SS is due to come over tomorrow and the day after, leaving me three whole days of no kids. On a 12 day break from work.

DH seems to think that everything is fine, I’ve been playing well with SD and I told him that he’s welcome to bring SS as he’s already invited him (and just ignored me) so it would be rude to SS to take that back.

I’m a door mat. Spent this whole time with SD cleaning up after them both and fuck me, I guess I should have said no to SS but then I’m the bad guy. Again.

John and Julie Gottman talk about resentment being one of the four horsemen heralding divorce. Wonder how many years I’ll be putting up with DH just making plans with his bratty kids before it gets too much.

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u/CicadaJazzlike8856 1d ago

Can you just leave and do your own thing while they’re there?

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u/bookyface That bitch who is at fault for it all 1d ago

Because I did last year and it “really hurt” to have me gone during Christmas. 🙄

He says having family over is important to him, and that I told him years ago that I’d never ask him to choose me or the kids. Dramatic much? Basic fucking consideration of my time isn’t asking him to “choose”, it’s asking him to acknowledge me as his partner.

Guess who’s booking a vacation for this week next year solo?

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u/CicadaJazzlike8856 1d ago

You matter too!