r/family • u/Calm_Explorer_1117 • 1d ago
My dad is dying
My dad has been ill for a few days now, after being depressed for some months, upon retirement. Yesterday we got news he’s got stage IV lung cancer, more tests to come to assess situation and have info to make decisions. But we were told with treatment, 6 months tops. After 6m is rare. Not dying is miracle. Im not surprised by the desease as he is a heavy smoker, im shocked at the speed to which he has disappeared. Mi brother leaves abroad and had to break news to him yesterday over FaceTime, my mom is of course destroyed, his companion for +40y. I have been crying non stop. This has only been day 1 of knowing. To make it worse my dad is a doctor so he knows whats coming, he treated bone tumors, and i don’t think he will take treatment. I respect that, but it sucks. Can’t stop crying. Just wanted to vent. Already called a tanathologist, and will review that everything is in order with his legal papers etc etc.
Just that. Love your parents while they are here. At least we get to say goodbye and pray for a miracle together…
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u/No_Football_9232 1d ago
I’m not an oncologist. I am an NP. And I don’t know the specifics about your Dads situation. Who agave him this 6 month figure? And where has his cancer spread to and how extensive is it?