My dad has been ill for a few days now, after being depressed for some months, upon retirement. Yesterday we got news he’s got stage IV lung cancer, more tests to come to assess situation and have info to make decisions. But we were told with treatment, 6 months tops. After 6m is rare. Not dying is miracle. Im not surprised by the desease as he is a heavy smoker, im shocked at the speed to which he has disappeared. Mi brother leaves abroad and had to break news to him yesterday over FaceTime, my mom is of course destroyed, his companion for +40y. I have been crying non stop. This has only been day 1 of knowing. To make it worse my dad is a doctor so he knows whats coming, he treated bone tumors, and i don’t think he will take treatment. I respect that, but it sucks. Can’t stop crying. Just wanted to vent. Already called a tanathologist, and will review that everything is in order with his legal papers etc etc.

Just that. Love your parents while they are here. At least we get to say goodbye and pray for a miracle together…

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I got my dad a chess set for Christmas (ChessUp 2) because we used to play chess together a long time ago, and he always played on an electronic chess set back in the day. I thought it would be nice to reconnect with him more closely via chess and to give him something to exercise his mind on, as he's getting older. He seemed to be enthused with it and thought it was cool how it worked, and mentioned how he used to be so good at chess and is going to kick by butt, etc.

I returned home yesterday evening, and my mom said my dad was in a bad mood and went to bed already (7 pm) and said he wasn't going to use the chess set I got him for Christmas (ChessUp 2, $200) and wanted a drone instead. She asked if I had the receipt and I said no, it was something I paid for on Kickstarter a long time ago. So now he's in the middle of throwing a tantrum, staying outside in the garage all day and not talking to anyone, and it'll probably be like that for days before anything changes.

I'm now confronted with a decision. Do I...

1. Keep the chess set for myself, since I'll use it, and buy him a relatively affordable drone and not let it bother me, since I have a good job and can afford it. This will probably make my mom upset with him, but I also know she doesn't want to deal with his bad attitude forever and neither do I.
2. Tell him to sell the chess set and buy his own drone because it's not my business.
3. Keep the chess set for myself and tell him he gets nothing, and that it's hilarious that the guy who called me gay in front of my girlfriend on Christmas and hasn't had a job since he was 50 wants me to buy him a drone or he's going to throw a tantrum and make everyone miserable, and tell him he's such a clown that maybe he should go get a job at the circus if he wants to buy a drone.

Context: I'm in my late 30s and moved back in with my parents recently after living on my own since college because it's cheaper for me and I'm trying to save up to buy a house, but also because they are both unemployed and needed some financial assistance (I pay an equal share toward the mortgage monthly; I went in half on a car they wanted [>$10k for my half] because they're afraid of what would happen if their truck died; I paid >$10k for a new roof recently because there were leaks; I bought him a $600 computer and my mom a $600 laptop because they were using old cheap laptops that barely worked). I try to be generous with them because I want to make their lives comfortable, even when it means setting my own savings goals aside.

What should I do?

I was recently seeing a guy who turned out to be a self proclaimed sec addict. He was lying to me about other people

He always wanted to cuddle with his 8 year old daughter when she visited him. He’d often be in bed with her, under the covers, sometimes only with boxers on.

Once I came over. It was 8pm. She was on his bed and her shirt was unbuttoned to her chest. he was in bed under the covers only wearing his boxers. There were books strewn about. I left the room and then came back. He had got up and put his clothes on and had buttoned up her shirt. I noticed she had a big wet spot on her pants that looked like she had peed herself

He would often send photos of them both lying in bed, with clothes on. She would rarely stay the night, so these bed visits they would have always took place early evening

He would often be laundering her clothes. Usually pants, panties and shorts

Her mom lives only a few doors down, so I couldn’t figure out why he was doing her laundry? And why she would have dirty clothes after only visiting him for a few hours?

Should I be concerned?

For context, my dad and mom had been fighting for years and last year october,, my mom officially initiated and got a divorce and my dad was quite depressed about it for a couple of months. He wasnt with my sisters and I for last year new years because he said he went for some christian mindful retreat and we encouraged him heavily because we thought he was truly sad. Recently, we found out that he was actually in Japan with the girlfriend during that time he was away. He turned off his phone and didnt even call us during that time cuz he said that he was fucking praying and shit.

Anyways I, as an idiot, also encouraged him to start hanging out more with people so he wont be so lonely and he starts making my sisters and I spend time with his friends and there was a lady in the friend group which i thought at that time that he "liked". Talked to him about it and he says he wants to start dating but feels guilty and blah blah blah. I tell him dont have to date and just hang out as friends. Moving forward 6 months later, and he's getting married to her next week :D. He asked us if we approve and we said no and i told him to wait for my sister to graduate high school cuz the relationship is moving too fast and im not comfortable but the asshole said "oh i dont care about what you think. I just wanted to be respectful." This was 3 months into his relationship. Then the next 3 months he keeps asking me if i changed my opinion and my opinion was still the same and he was angry about it. He's still angry eventhough im attending and helping out with the decorations lol.

ANYWAYS NOT THE POINT sorry im getting off track here. So Christmas eve dinner, the girlfriend slips up and says that they celebrated their 1 year anniversary in september. I didnt say anything cuz I didnt want to ruin the night but what the fuck yk..i spent years hating my mom for the shit she did and always thought my dad was the so called victim but honestly he was a shit dad and even shitter person with 0 values.

I'm a teenager and my little sister is 10. My mom is cheating on my dad, but that's not the point. It's that she did the same thing before, and when my dad found out, he literally almost killed her. But with the help of my aunt (who lived next door), the incident passed. A year ago, December 15, 2023, she did it again. I was very scared at first, but I ignored it with time. There was a war, it ended, and we got out alive. But, after we got back home, the flashbacks started where I remembered the night he discovered about her cheating on him. I told her about it, and she told me that nothing was happening, and that everything is okay right now. But I know that she's lying. I told her once, twice, three times, and she's still cheating on him with the same guy. I'm so scared now, because my aunt moved away and there's no one around anymore. If that night happens again, and he finds out again, I don't know what I'll do. Please give me advice.

I(26F) am a teacher and my student came up to me and shared her story, cried a lot and I was heart broken and took her to the police. She belongs to a lower middle class family. The girl's father(38M) is working somewhere out of the state and visits once in 5-6 months. Her mother is a farmer and her mother has fell in love with another farmer (39M) (who is married) and married him when she was still married to her husband.

The girl even said her mom sleeps with him daily in his house every night and comes home the next morning and she is often alone at home. She even said that the wife of her mother's affair partner is threatening to kill both her and her mom. Her mom has delivered a baby boy ,a year ago, and is now pregnant again with her affair partner's child, I got to know all this when I spoke to some prominent people of her village.

The girl is afraid that her mom would leave her and run with her stepdad however, I pacified her...

Me and my brother have had an extremely toxic relationship where everyone thinks they’re righteous from their own side.

He often gets angry and is very irritable with zero respect for the circumstances (eg in public or infront of guests). He’s extremely narcissistic and will never accept any fault and immediately shut you don’t as soon as he disagrees in the slightest. We don’t get along together at all and honestly I am garunteed to move out in 5 months (unfortunately can’t be any earlier) and I can’t wait. I’ve expressed how as soon as I move out he is dead to me and I won’t be keeping contact

After a fight between us that perspired out of nowhere, I found my Mom crying, and honestly it broke me. I had nothing to say and she kept telling me to go away and leave so I did. I don’t know what to do or what to make of this situation. How do I deal with living with a sibling I just hate and don’t get along with at all. How do I comfort my mom?

My mom lives about 8 hours away from me and my other sisters. She comes to visit a few times a year and always stays with my husband and I. She always asks for permission to stay with us ahead of her visits. However, she does not show the same courtesy when inviting other family members to our home. On multiple occasions, we have told her that we don’t feel comfortable with her inviting people over without asking us first. She has house sat for us a few times & each time she sneaks a family member into the house without asking us first! We have a ring doorbell so we can always see when she has people over and we also have indoor cameras. When we ask her about it, she always has an excuse or states that because its family she didnt think we would mind. She did it again tonight, snuck my sister in, while my husband and I are out of town. I understand she wants to have quality time with people, but am I the asshole being mad about this???

I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in March. I recently finished chemo and I’ve been struggling pretty hard to get back to normal. My iron is low and I’ve been having heart issues. So standing can be hard.I really wasn’t sure if I was going to make it to Christmas.

My SO asked if it would be okay if BIL came over for Christmas. I’m usually accommodating but this year I made it clear it wasn’t possible. The thought of entertaining felt horrifying. Well, he showed up anyways the day before Christmas Eve. So we didn’t get anything prepped for the holidays. I knew this would be a mistake because I’m moving slow.

Christmas Eve comes and it’s clear he’s not leaving. I’m not very happy at this point but I put on a brave face. My FIL also came over. From the start of the day to the end was running around. Getting people things. Making snacks. Trying to sneak in Christmas activities with SS. My BIL watched as we ran around like chickens with our heads cut off. He didn’t offer a hand once. He was sleeping in the living room which made everyone have to be quiet. When we asked him to go to bed he didn’t. We were up until 3am wrapping due to this little pop in. I was swollen head to toe from running around all day. My knees and feet double the size. Instead of doing our regular wrap, music and celebrate we were being quiet to keep him from waking up. He had nothing to say either. Just scrolled on his phone.

I was uncomfortable- I feel uncomfortable without my wig in front of people so I spent two days with an extremely itchy head. I was overtired from having guests. I was irritated by his constant burping during meals and lack of awareness. At this point I reached my limit and started to cry. What a horrible Christmas. Even SS was annoyed as he poked fun at him. He came empty handed. Didn’t offer help and was becoming a hindrance. Usually I love my BIL but wow did he ever mess up our Christmas. I figured that at least we could do Christmas the three of us since SS wakes up so early. We had one hour of sleep and Nope BIL was up at 4am ready to do Christmas. He had a bad attitude the entire time as well though.

This was supposed to be a special Christmas but it was so devastating. My SO could tell how beat up I was from entertaining. He apologized profusely. I didn’t expect him to kick him out of our house but jeez BIL could use some manners. The day after Christmas he acted like his plan was to stay. We had to draw the line and say we needed to rest.

This Christmas truly did kick my butt. Moving forward I’m not killing myself for others. Right now I have to be selfish and take care of me. Am I the asshole for feeling like dropping in at someone’s house and staying several days at Christmas is rude? Especially when their wife is sick with cancer. Sheesh.

My body is fuelling with rage, I could literally vomit fire. For the past idk- my whole existence, my home has become the default location for my cousins to stay when they’re visiting. For context, they still live in the same city as I do and less than an hour away.

So tomorrow we’re due to see them and I get the dreaded message that they may be staying this weekend.

Do you know why I’m so pissed off? It’s because I live in a 2 bedroom flat. We don’t have space to accommodate them. We don’t enjoy accommodating them. Last week, one of them asked to use my nail clipper. I literally wanted to punch a hole in the wall.

One of them already stayed last week. And now they’ll be staying again. I cannot handle this. We have other 2 other cousins who live in 5 bedroom houses 15 mins away but they never end up staying with them.

Sick of being told our house is "cozy" - SHUT UP. We’re breathing recycled air because we have no space. I just feel so irritable around them and writing this up is also getting me in a twist.

What if we lived in a world where I could politely tell them to piss off? 🥹

How much better would the world be?

I(22F) don't share any emotional connect with my father after I crossed 10years. We talk like professionals or only when my mother is present, we talk only what's necessary and most of the times we both reply to each other in a short and bold voice. I have even noticed him not bothering to reply for some questions, but I see him sharing more friendly connection with the childs of his boss, or any other kid who is not his own. I noticed him being interested or should I say pretending to be interested in convention with them, he would shake his head, be attentive ask questions. Hmm.. Idk I'm not at all hurt but it makes me laugh over this relation with my father. I am more like a liability to him. And tbh I have seen many other fathers being more polite and friendly to other kids, and it makes me realise that how pretentious the world is.

Hi there. First time poster so bear with me while I figure this out. This is more of a rant post than anything. My sister (32F) and her fiancé (36?M) drive me crazy and I’m trying not to get to the point that every little thing they do annoys me. Here are some of the reasons why. 1. They can never make a decision about anything. If you ask them what they want it’s always “oh I don’t know” “I’ll have to ask fiancé” etc. This goes for EVERYTHING. What they want to eat, if they want to meet up and hang out, what they want in life… For example, their son just had his first birthday and trying to plan the party with them was like pulling teeth. What theme do you want? “Uh I don’t know, whatever” What food do you want? “Hmmm whatever, what do you think?” What about cake? “Whatever you want” 🤬 I just want to scream at them that it’s their kid and it’s what they want, not anyone else. 2. They are late for everything. It’s bad. We have to tell them to be somewhere about 2 hours prior to the actual time and even then they will still be late. And I know a lot of people will say it’s because of the baby. Which I understand, but no. This was a thing long before they got pregnant. Now the baby is just their excuse. For Valentine’s Day this year they asked me to babysit so they could go on a date. So I showed up at the time they asked and they didn’t leave on their date for 3 hours after I got there… I was planning to babysit for about 3 hours total. But no, I sat there for 3 hours while they “got ready” (which included him playing video games and her chilling on her phone) and then they finally went to dinner. 3. Her fiancé has such misguided “morals”. He thinks he is very high and mighty and “old school/traditional” blah blah. But doesn’t back any of it up. Once they found out they were pregnant, he got all manic about getting married because “that’s the right way to do things”. When their son was born he wouldn’t let anyone help because “it’s his son and he needs to take care of him” which is all well and good but when you don’t know what you are doing, asking for help is the best way to care for your son going forward. They are not in the best place financially and both work super wonky schedules so they rely heavily on my family for help (Stuff for the baby, childcare, etc.) and none of my family minds helping (this is the first grandchild in the family and we all absolutely adore him, also fiancé doesn’t have any family around so it’s all from my sisters side) For the baby’s first birthday party we had to take over planning (because again, they wouldn’t do anything) and then he got all upset because “it’s their kid and they should be doing it” … which again, then fucking do it. The only reason we had to step in is because you two weren’t doing anything and if we didn’t then it wouldn’t get done at all. They say they want to do all of this stuff but never actually follow through and then get upset when someone else does it instead. 4. They don’t prepare for anything. They procrastinate everything and leave it until the last minute. Which is a lot of why they are late to everything. Or they just aren’t prepared at all. Diaper bag for the baby isn’t fully packed. Laundry isn’t done to go anywhere because they have no clean clothes to wear. When their son was born he had to stay in the hospital for about a week. Not only were they not prepared before hand (crib not built, car seat not installed, etc.) but fiancé didn’t utilize the time after he was born and in the hospital to do any of it either. So when they got released they spent 45 min in the hospital parking lot trying to figure out how to install the car seat. My mom tried to offer to help but he wouldn’t let her. (Back to his high and mighty bullshit) For the Super Bowl, we were watching the game at my cousins house and they made food, appetizers, snacks, etc. well sister and fiancé show up at about halftime (shocker) and bring food.. that needs to be cooked. After we have all eaten and been there for hours. So he starts cooking it and it takes like 45 min to cook. The game is pretty over and we are all full by the time it is done. And then he was pouting because no one really ate his stuff. You knew what time the game started, you knew how long it would take to cook, why didn’t you have it ready? 5. And the thing that spurred me posting this. He is very controlling and gives me the impression that he doesn’t really like my family involved. Which is funny considering everything my family does to support them and keep them afloat. He has always been very controlling and blows a gasket if things don’t go his way. They got a dog years ago and he wouldn’t let anyone feed her, walk her, discipline her, or anything. I understand that you want your dog trained a certain way but you can’t expect to bring her to family events and functions and not allow anyone to interact with her. She is not a service dog or a working dog either. If she was barking, no one else is allowed to tell her “no” or “hush” only him. But she doesn’t even listen to him lol. He doesn’t like when my sister is gone for too long. My sisters, mom, and I went on a girls trip and he was calling and texting the whole time and she wanted to not do certain things because of him. And now with the baby, they are both helicopter parents. They (but mostly him) don’t trust anyone with the baby and can’t let him out of their sight. And he seems to always avoid coming around my family unless it’s for something he can’t really miss. Like holidays. Except this year. My parents always host the holidays and we all go to their house. It’s about a 2 hour drive for my sister and her fiancé but he hates going there. So this year he insisted he wanted to spend Christmas with his family. Again he doesn’t really have any family here so we were all confused and apparently he has some cousins that live nearby. My sister has never met these cousins, he has never mentioned them, and he hasn’t seen them in over 10 years. But he insisted that he wanted to spend Christmas with them and not go to my parents. Mind you he himself did not invite these cousins to his sons first birthday and already said they are not invited to their wedding next year because “they aren’t close and don’t really know them” (his words). Sooo they aren’t close enough for that but they are close enough to spend Christmas with??? But whatever, so my sister was thinking they could maybe do both, because his cousins were doing a brunch in the morning and we were doing dinner in the afternoon. But he said no because that is too much hassle to try to get both places. But here’s the kicker… they didn’t even go. We called them Christmas around midday thinking they were either at the cousins or already done. But no. They were barely getting out of bed. And didn’t go to Christmas anywhere. They didn’t even have Christmas at home to themselves. I personally think that was his plan all along and just used it as an excuse to not come to our family’s Christmas. But who knows. Again I might be blinded by my annoyance.

So tell me Reddit. Am I overreacting? Am I just at the point that everything will annoy me no matter how small or insignificant? Maybe I’m just reading into it too much. Who the heck knows.

Thank you for letting me rant. And if you got this far, more power to you.

So we are all adults. I'm single, they're married. I didn't think much of it when I landed my current job. It's at a famous company and ultimately the whole benefit package is a good deal. I didn't think much of it because my siblings haven't cared about my garbage jobs in the past, so I didn't think much this time. At the moment I was stressed from leaving current job and excited about new one, so when he would call I pretty much told him everything about it.

Ever since for the past two years he's been obseessed with landing a job at my company. I don't want to work with him. I really don't like him, I know this sounds bad, but he's never been there for me and both him and my other brother who are way older than me, have just done things that have made me upset, such as leaving caretaking of elder parent solely on me because I'm single, and a lot of other selfish stuff. I honestly don't think they are good people. So that plays a part in my thought process. I feel discomfort when we have get togethers with mom and specially the one that wants to work in my company. Their values and views about everything are totally opposite. I prefer just to see him once or twice a year during the family get together.

It has stressed me to think he wants to work there, to see him there everyday, for him to be all over my business of what I do or don't at work. I don't want to be seen by them because I always feel judged.

Is this normal of not wanting him there? Like out of the million companies, I don't get why he's obsessed with working there. And it's like this with everything. They just observe me to kind of see what to do with life. They ended up working in the same line of job because they saw me working on it, etc. I'm tired of them not having their own thoughts and just wanting to see what I do for them to figure out what to do.

I went no contact with my mom in 2020. My mom has been toxic for a majority of my life. She lies, manipulates, and never acknowledges her behavior. It has been a lifetime of physical, mental/emotional abuse and Gaslighting — you name it. After many heart to hearts with her, she failed to make any changes or any effort towards having a better relationship with me. In 2018 I decided to distance myself and she acted like nothing happened and still not only made no efforts but continued to tell other family members lies about why I chose to create boundaries with her. In 2022 I got married to my husband and after multiple people convinced me to have her at my wedding, she created multiple issues and created unnecessary drama throughout all of our events. It was a disaster. That’s when I finally realized she won’t change and I chose to go no contact with her officially. I have been with my now husband for 10 years. During that time, I became relatively close with my MIL. She is a great mom to her kids and lives close by so her and I created a great relationship. Overtime I vented to my MIL in detail sharing tears as I divulged the grueling stories of things my mother has done throughout my life. My MIL listened and seemed caring. She acted as a mother figure in my life. My MIL and mom had only met each other a handful of times at holidays and never spent any time together outside of that. My mom is not one to mingle and even at the holidays never spoke much with my MIL. Since 2022 I have not invited my mom to any gatherings and my MIL was aware of all of my feelings regarding this situation. In 2023 I found out that they were talking to each other and I had a talk with my mother in law explaining that I felt my mom was manipulating her and that I didn’t want her having a relationship with my mom. I explained how it made me feel uncomfortable and that it simply isn’t appropriate given that I have shared why I feel the way I do about my mom and thought my MIL genuinely understood my position. She said she would stop talking to her. Personally, I feel like why should she want to build a relationship with someone that treated me so poorly if she really cared about me? Why would she only initiate a relationship with her after instilled boundaries with my mom? I explained that I didn’t feel I could be close with her because I would worry I would become a topic of their conversation and my MIL ensured me she would stop talking to her. I just found out about a year and a half later that since that conversation, my MIL has not only been talking to my mom, they have been hanging out together. Going to the casino, going out for lunch and even my MIL inviting my mom to her house for dinner. It turns out my MIL has been telling my mom all of the details of our lives. My husband and I are going through IVF and I found out my mother in law has also been sharing all of the details with my mom that we asked to keep private. She knows everything about our lives. My brother even showed me screen shots he took of my moms phone where my MIL is texting my mom and my mom says “she can never find out we talk or anything” and my MIL says “don’t worry I delete all of my texts! Lol” too bad my mom didn’t delete hers so she got caught. Since I’ve cut her off I wondered why she hasn’t made any efforts to get in touch or work on things and I guess here is my answer. I will need to have a conversation with my MIL and I don’t even know where to begin. I feel so betrayed and manipulated. My husband supports me in however I want to handle it. What do I even say? I’m so lost.

This is our live experience now at 10.58pm of our journey to Tirupathi package trip from Sea Bird travels, Gandhinagar BENGALURU.. our pick up time is at 8 pm in bus no 6583. Even after waiting long time till 9 45 pm the bus has not started due to some problem in diesel pipe n management has not at all concerned to intimate the waiting customers also n after get it repaired from a mechanic it took us and just after 15 minutes it again halted at Race course road near Taj western and here also management people not turned back to frustrated travelers and atleast offering something to eat r drink to long waiting travelers. Then after long wait another bus came at 10.47 pm there by delay of nearly 3 hours in our journey time which subsequently cause delay in our schedules and the mental agony we have gone through this time.Upon that they are telling the Darshana time will be more than 24 hours. Who is responsible for this. Sea bird Management is most worst please raise the voice.

I’m the second oldest (female) in my family. And I have two younger brothers. The problem arises that I’ve noticed a lot happens during the holidays, and less often when school opens up.

But my 13 year old brother just leaves stuff everywhere. He opens stuff, has snacks - crisps, biscuits, and just leaves the packaging lying around. Then, he leaves toothpaste tub in the bathroom after he’s opened it in the morning on the sink for someone else to clean up. He opens a packet of wipes, a box of pain meds and leaves it on the counter. Complete laziness, incompetence and lack of cleaning up after oneself.

Why does he do this? I don’t understand it. It doesn’t even take a minute to clean up after yourself, to put something in the bin, to bring your dishes to the sink after you’ve finished eating. My dad does the same thing and they all expect my mother to clean up for them. Are all boys like this? What the hell is wrong with them? It’s like their DNA is ingrained with laziness.

Can’t even shit in peace. Whenever I go take a shit, like the moment I walk in when I haven’t even pulled down my pants, my dad always complains that I’m taking hours. He always says that I’m too busy on my phone instead of shitting (obviously I’m not doing that, that’s disgusting), and whenever I try saying I’m not he just doesn’t believe me. He would respond: “No you are, you think I wouldn’t know? Do you think I’m stupid?” Honestly I do think he’s pretty stupid, and delusional (like paranoid level delusional). Anyways, can’t even take a shit in peace, literally.

hi reddit first i whant to apologize for the mistake my born language isn't English ad its 2:30 in the morning in my country. i juste comme here to ask if i am wrong. like say in the title me 19 female hate my dad cause as long as i can remember my father wasn't present that mutch and even tough he try he never was a supportive father for exemple i remeber that when i was around 6 and my sister 24 (at the time 11) ur father will pass all the time that we were at his appartement crying on his bed and not doing anything forcing my sister to take care of me and feed me i forget to say it but my father 59 (i think) and my mother (55) got divorced when i was 5 and my father got diagnose whit a depression and seance then my father wasnt the same i remeber the time there was a fire alarm (something to know about me is that im totally terrified bye loud noise like fire alarm) and my sister had to calm me down cause i was having a panic attack and make my father get out of his bed and get out of the appartement but there is a other thing my grandparent are really close mind they are religious and my grandfather dont like lgbtqai+2 but the thing is that im lesbian and non-binary and my father know it but evrytime my grand father make a comment my father never defend me so redit whit all that in minde am i in the wrong here? pls i really need advice im juste feeling presured and depresse right now hope its ok to poste here

Went to Christmas at my sisters house.

At breakfast they served coffee and other breakfast foods.

My girlfriend does not drink coffee but she drinks caffeinated drinks from Starbucks that are not coffee, so she ate breakfast and after breakfast I asked my father if we can stop on the long drive home at Starbucks, and he said no as he wasn’t willing to stop. I then asked to borrow the car as we drove together as a family and we went to pick up Starbucks.

When we got back to my sisters house to say goodbye I had a bit of a disagreement with my sister, she said she would never leave someone’s house to go get a drink, especially when your a guest in someone’s home. My father had the most disappointment and gave me a hard time about getting my girlfriend a drink for the ride home. He said it was rude.

What are your thoughts, are me and my girlfriend impolite?

Basically my parents should not be together they fight all the time and it makes me worry so much because apparently he has hit her before in the past and things and I know he has shoved her . My mum has very fragile mental health and has tried to take her life before so I really worry about her trying to do something like that again, my dad has anger issues and has always been an emotionally unavailable father .It’s almost like I am my mums therapist because she always tells me about all there troubles and whenever they have an argument they involve me and it makes me end up of having panic attacks and things . Some day I’d like to move out but my mum I’ll say things like “ I don’t know what I’d do without you” and saying I’m the reason she’s alive . It scares me even when I go away for a few days and leave them together. They should probably be separated but my mums only income is from my dad and we don’t really have any family outside of this . I feel so trapped and like I’m constantly alert . I have trouble sleeping, have severe anxiety and struggle with dissociation,I think it stems from having this going on ever since I can remember. Please if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated. As I feel trapped.

My sister has cluster mental illness and is a life long drug addict. Meth being her drug of choice, leading her to being a street ho. She said she wanted to 'try the life ', but assures me that, get this, 'while everyone things being a drug addiction is 'glamorous', it's really not. yes, she said this.

Her son is was exposed to freebase at least a few times in utero and is now a sociopath with no work history, a bum, a pill addict, an embarassment. The sister and son literally imprisoned our father, got him to transfer the will to her and then left him to die with bed sores. It was horrible. She adopted out another son early on who became a drug dealer bum, and was involved in at least one robbery, assault where a man was injured, maybe died.

My brother never worked, a hopeless drunk, so crazy he actually got full disability, will never get a drivers lisence. He fathered and abandoned two boys. The oldest I spoke with briefly, bitter angry but managed to lead an ok life I think . The younger, who I facebooked once for him to tell me what a worthless slug his dad is. He received a decades long prison sentence just before thanksgiving, happy holidays. He has a rap sheet, ended a person while drunk driving and found wiith meth. . I'm like 99% sure , my horrible sister, was supplying him or in cahoots as she has been busted for distribution, possession etc recently. Same shthole small town, so yea, great aunt there.

I will never show my face in my home town out of shame, I have no plans of connecting with any of them as it's hopeless. Our upbringing wasn't peaches and cream, but it cannot alone explain this toxic mess. Something else is going on. Bad genes I fear. My own kids have some issues, mild ADD and some depression, but so far, the criminal gene isn't manifesting itself, although one was a little iffy for a minute.

I guess I'm wondering of anyone else has similar stories and need to vent. . And if you have siblings somewhere near normal, non criminal types. Please value them, warts and all. I miss having siblings, niblings in my life from my own background. Its lonely, like two empty spaces where people were supposed to be. But it's obviously not meant to be for me in this lifetime, so I move on and am OK, but it's still sad and tragic and a part of me feels so so sorry for them for creating such misery for themselves and others. It's all so unnecessary.

I’m so tired of living in this hell I have to call home. I’m 20 years old and my mom still abuses me both physically and verbally. I tried everything to find my own place but it’s just so damn difficult. I’m crying my eyes out after my mom just slapped me in the face thrice after an argument. I just found my old diary and read a sad poem I wrote after my mom beat me with a garden hose. It was written in 2013, I was only 9. Her slapping me doesn’t even hurt physically anymore, but it hurts me so bad emotionally. I don’t get how you can abuse someone as a child, teen and now adult. How can I respect and love myself when my mom doesn’t. My dad knows this is happening and still decided to just live his life happily in our country of origin whilst we are struggling here. I’m so so tired. I just want them to say they are proud of me for going to university, becoming a teacher assistent, having a high GPA and just for being their daughter. Why is it that I am unlucky with not just one, but both parents. I can’t stop crying and I feel so broken. Now that I’m getting older I can see signs of being traumatized and damaged in the way I interact with other. What did I do to deserve this? When will this stop

24F. I moved out for college at 18. Moved back in to work at 22. Moved out recently for grad school abroad. My parents make me so sad with how much they constantly make me feel bad about not living at home. I have come home 3 weeks for Christmas. And I’ll be back in February for a week for a wedding

Am I the only one who watches their parents do way more for everyone else even people they aren’t related to? My parents never do shxt for me ever. If they do I tell them no first and it’s the strangest most awkward interaction ever. Like they just are weird. If your parents are there for you be lucky and grateful please.