r/bi_irl *fingerguns intensely* 10d ago

BišŸ¤—irl

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u/Ckinggaming5 bi, shy and wanting to die 10d ago

i suppose the first one is just like "ok neat" and nothing changes besides them being bisexual

and the 2nd one is more actively supporting them about it

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u/VenomBars4 10d ago

Exactly this. Imagine your partner actively reading articles and posts about how to support bi partners rather than just saying ā€œneatā€ and pretending it doesnā€™t exist.

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u/GreeceZeus 10d ago

Alright, I still don't get it, but maybe only because my bisexuality isn't a big part of my identify but... what would I need support with? What ARTICLES would they read? Hell, I'm mostly on this sub because hot guys and girls are often posted but I don't even know what I have to do due to my bisexuality... what should I expect from my partner?!

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u/VenomBars4 10d ago

I canā€™t tell you what to expect, but partners can at least be educated about what itā€™s like navigating this world as a bisexual person. For men specifically, this includes ideas about masculinity, closeted queerness, and gender roles.

The social stigma is that bi men are just gay men in denial using women as ā€œbeards.ā€ Just the idea of a heterosexual partner attempting to put themselves in the shoes of someone who has viewed the world through a queer lens their whole life is important to me, because theyā€™re trying to understand, accept, and know me better.

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u/brother_of_menelaus 10d ago

Yeah I mean itā€™s a meme so itā€™s not exactly a fully fleshed out idea, but I think you nailed it - itā€™s about trying to understand what itā€™s like to be viewed in society as a bisexual person and just trying to empathize - and identify - the hardships they might face due to that. Itā€™s not like, watching Magic Mike together.

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u/VenomBars4 10d ago

The last sentence is perfect