r/PregnancyAfterLoss • u/AutoModerator • 2d ago

Daily Thread Daily Thread #1 - December 26, 2024

This daily thread is for all members who are pregnant after a previous pregnancy or infant loss. How are you?

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go here, along with regular updates. Stand alone posts are Mod approved only and have set requirements.

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u/KrystleOfQuartz 2d ago

In week 36. Just had my strep swab and wasn’t expecting her to be so rough! She asked me if I wanted a cervical exam and I said absolutely not. I’m really hesitant in having them because I’ve read they are pretty un-necessary until you’re in labor. I also heard you have higher chances of infection. I’m going to be scheduling my 39 week induction soon. My doula keeps giving me all these little tips. She said to make sure it’s scheduled for the morning not nighttime. That way you’re not already going into the experience exhausted.

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u/Brave_Painter_4363 2d ago edited 2d ago

Can confirm induction in the evening and labouring overnight is exhausting. That's how I delivered our angel. I was so out of it, I kept wanting to slip into micro sleeps but the contractions wouldn't let me. Meanwhile husband zonked out on the sofa in the room right when I needed him to buzz the midwife for pain relief as the intensity ramped up.

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u/KrystleOfQuartz 2d ago

Congrats to you! And thank you for confirming this. It’s interesting to me they don’t offer the daytime option unless you ask for it!

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u/Brave_Painter_4363 2d ago

I don't think you meant to congratulate me.

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u/KrystleOfQuartz 2d ago edited 2d ago

I’m so sorry- When you said “that’s how I delivered our angel”- I thought you meant it differently. My apologies and condolences.

Were you induced at 39weeks aswell?

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u/Brave_Painter_4363 2d ago edited 2d ago

I was induced at 25+5. She lost her heartbeat and was born sleeping.

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u/KrystleOfQuartz 2d ago

I’m very sorry for what you’ve endured. My heart goes out to you and yours. And I wish you the very best on this pregnancy. I do find your response triggering. Within this community, I see how it can be a challenging balance between staying hopeful and positive for yourself and others , vs relaying and comparing your situation to someone else’s and instilling fear. That may not have been the intent here but the receiving wasn’t positive. I understand wanting to own your trauma; you are validated.

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u/Brave_Painter_4363 2d ago

I shall amend my comment, in case others feel the same.