Daily Thread #1 - December 26, 2024

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[u/Mangopapayakiwi]

26 weeks and some days. I have been thinking about announcing my preganancy on social media but idk, it brings up pretty dark feelings. I want to talk about the miscarriage because honestly it helped me so much to read of other friends’ experiences. It feels weird to discuss the miscarriage and this current pregnancy in the same post. I know more and more people who simple never announce and then boom have a baby.

[u/KaylaAnne → u/Mangopapayakiwi]

Maybe a slightly different circumstance, but I chose to announce on my socials and I did talk about the baby I lost. I wrote about how complicated our emotions were, we are excited but still grieving, and my feelings on the term rainbow baby. Everyone responded really positively to my post.

[u/Brave_Painter_4363 → u/Mangopapayakiwi]

I'm one of those who's just not announcing at all this time.

With our angel, my father announced to everyone explicitly against our wishes, and then just a couple of weeks later had to tell all those people what had happened. We were furious our parental wishes had been disrespected and so now no one gets to know anything.

[u/Mangopapayakiwi → u/Brave_Painter_4363]

Yeah I just found out earlier today that my mother announced it on facebook 😤😤

[u/Brave_Painter_4363 → u/Mangopapayakiwi]

Argh. Some grandparents-to-be just go loopy and completely ride roughshod over what you want to do.

[u/Mangopapayakiwi → u/Brave_Painter_4363]

She’s one of those facebook boomers (like an ipad baby but worse). She still doesn’t thibk she did anything wrong 😭 and I’m the one who is too rigid.

[u/Brave_Painter_4363 → u/Mangopapayakiwi]

Funnily enough, my father is also a boomer and just has no idea what he did wrong.

With our angel, he asked for weeks to be able to tell people, and when we kept saying no he eventually said at 20 weeks "I'm just going to ignore you and tell everyone" and immediately started making phone calls.

[u/Mangopapayakiwi → u/Brave_Painter_4363]

Ugh that’s so hectic. I can only assume/hope it’s old age affecting their cognitive skills (for real, not a joke).

[u/NagybolToth → u/Mangopapayakiwi]

I feel you. Not even my family know that I’m pregnant (I’m living abroad). I feel like I'm jinxing it if I tell anyone. I’ll probably tell my success story after my baby is here.

[u/Mangopapayakiwi → u/NagybolToth]

Someone else I know just announced the birth of her baby without ever announcing her pregnancy! She had a second trimester termination last year. I also live abroad and told my family and friends mostly in person at 16 weeks. Idk I understand all different choices I just don’t know what’s right for me.