I 20f am scared of the future.

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[u/Icy_Worldliness_194]

Bro. You’re a bloody kid, with all due respect.

Life will unfold as it should, worrying about things just makes you go through things twice.

You’ve got a great job, you’ll find someone when the times right. Please don’t worry about that.

Life is supposed to be enjoyed, the years fly by after 21. Just try and let your hair down and enjoy things rather than worry.

You sound like you’ve got your head screwed on, you’ll be just fine x

[u/halfmeasures611]

you will be alone

you will fail

these things are unavoidable

work on feeling that when they happen, you'll be able to pick yourself up and keep going on

the people who succeed in life arent the ones never fail. theyre the ones who fail and keep getting up

[u/Mags1211]

You do understand that the destination of life is death, correct?

When you fully grasp, accept, and understand that the destination of life is death then you can fully appreciate that life is a journey. The journey is what’s important, and what you need to focus on rather than the destination.

The journey of life is full of wonderful possibilities and experiences. Stop focusing on what negative things can happen, but on what positive things can happen to you. The journey is full of potholes, that you will fall in, and fences you have to climb. You’ll stumble and fall numerous times, but you focus on getting up and improving each time you fall or fail.

The path of success is full of failure. Accept it and embrace it. Failure makes us all stronger and better.

Learn to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are, great qualities and bad ones. No one can ever accept you, for you, until you do, yourself. Once you do, then you’ll meet, and fall in love with, someone who loves you for exactly who you are. Then you can share your journey of life with a true companion, love, and friend.

[u/Upper-Plane5653]

My dear don’t be scared I know it’s how the saying goes but before you know it It will be in your 40s and you will say where did my 20s go Live love travel find your happy 💙💙

[u/Few_Tough_7748 → u/Upper-Plane5653]

Thanks a lot really, I really needed this. Sending you a hug

[u/The-Wanderer-001]

You just need time and life experiences. I felt the same way when I was 20

[u/RandomRomul]

Type in Reddit : woman falling escalator

You clinging to a solution to fear is exactly the same situation.

The only way to beat anxiety is regular body relaxation and by watching all the thoughts and sensations anxiety causes, without trying to change anything.

If you run from anxiety in any way, it'll run after you. Stay with and it dissolves.

[u/NihilsitcTruth]

Life is what it is. Life will happen you will make choices and it will play out how its going to... best you can do is try to make the right choices.

[u/One_Necessary_6394]

You can’t be afraid you just gotta go with the motions and hope for the best as life goes on

[u/Ticklefish2]

Hey there, the best remedy for worry is for you to bring your attention fully into the present. Now is the only time there is. There is no 'future'. Just a series of moments in the 'now'. The past is just a series of memories.

Everything you think of as 'the future' happens in the now. No exceptions. So all you have to focus on is dealing with what is in front of you. Respond to the needs of the moment.

By all means plan for the future and do what needs doing to help set yourself up for success.

Rest assured that as you face each moment, whatever you need for that meoment will be there. You will find your way. Have faith in that.

Every time your mind strays into the future or the past bring it back to 'the now'. A way to do this is to pause and connect with one of your senses. Then look at what needs doing now. Maybe something. Maybe nothing. You have to be present to see what is needed.

Only look back into the past or consider the future if its to solve specific problems, e.g. like setting up your plans for 'the future'. The rest of it, the doing and living, all happens in the 'now'. Keep your attention there and you will know what to do.

If you are into reading, a good book that might help as well is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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[u/HarpyCelaeno]

That’s a normal feeling. You’re gonna be fine though. Just stay off drugs and alcohol. Exercise, eat well, and make friends. Don’t let your fear dictate your life. Know that when you’re doing something scary you’re improving yourself. We’re not supposed to be comfortable all the time.You’re gonna be OK.

[u/sui_generic7]

Stay focused on what matters. The mind wanders and that’s okay. Just redirect it to the task at hand.

[u/loztriforce]

We grow up being told success is college and a career and stability and a family and a white picket fence and a house and all that, but especially these days, you look around and there's a stark reality present: hurdles abound.

A lot of people leave HS and go out seeking what they thought they wanted, only to find many years later that it's a dead end. That shit happens, sometimes it's one's midlife crisis.
There's only the present that we have control over, so try not to worry about what the future holds.

But note that what you currently think of as failure, you may come to look back upon and not see it as such.

[u/Time-Improvement6653]

Shit sucks all day long. 😅 I definitely wouldn't want to be 20 in this clusterfuck of a society.

[u/toodleoo77]

Life has many twists and turns. What causes suffering is when people cling to an idealized fantasy life that may or may not (probably won’t) unfold. This fixation causes you to miss out on your actual life that is happening right now.

It serves no purpose to worry about things you can’t control. It’s wasted energy.

I have found stoic philosophy to be very grounding. r/stoicism

[u/sbmmemelord]

Go live in Syria for a week. You’ll appreciate everything you don’t currently

[u/ReserveReasonable999]

Be smart make smart decisions I’m 32m single no relationship or kids saved my money now I own 2 houses 3 cars will be able to retire in next 20ish years hopefully sooner. Just keep being smart don’t be stupid and do things for feelings or just the experience. Being alone isn’t bad at all. Just find ur hobbies and do em. Distract ur self sure it sucks not having a snuggle buddy but it’s absolutely miserable to get off work and now have to go back out to do something just to make significant other feel like u care or keep them happy.

[u/shitzstupid]

Looking at your profile you need a man’s touch regardless of how much you may hate men. Testosterone is good for both genders and when you lack it, you start to stray, worry unnecessarily and become senile. Testosterone grounds you and keeps you centered. Hit the gym, work on your degree and live life outside your friends and needless relationships. You’ll be fine kid

[u/toodleoo77 → u/shitzstupid]

wut

[u/Few_Tough_7748 → u/shitzstupid]

Dude, I do not hate men at all, most of my friends are straight males, and I love them, they are the best friends anyone could have, not being attracted to men does not men to hate them.

[u/Icy-Pollution8378]

Oh well