I said something similar on a post about his killer having conjugal visits. Someone said imagine being the killer of Lennon in Jail. I replied i thought killing wife beaters make you a hero.
He wasn't though. He slapped his first wife Cynthia, once, and he was incredibly remorseful and freaked out that he was capable of doing something like that.
This is all based on first hand accounts from Cynthia herself. According to her, he never did it again.
And by all available accounts, he was never abusive towards Yoko. And I seriously doubt she would have put up with any bullshit. As much as the Beatle fandom loves to hate her (less so these days), she was the polar opposite of a demure, submissive partner. Their year long separation in the 70s was because she kicked him out, he didn't leave on his on volition.
If anything I would give John Lennon praise for being willing to admit his faults, publicly no less, and also put in the work to never repeat them. There's hours of interview footage/audio of him taking himself to task for the things he did and said...
I think any of us would be lucky to have even a modicum of he self reflection he at least attempted to have. Especially considering he was literally one of the four most famous people in the world from the age of 24 until his death.
He's an entire universe away from the Saint-like deity some have turned him into, but by just about every account, from those who actually knew him, he was far from the monster some on Reddit want him to be.
One of my best friends had his marriage fall apart because he had undiagnosed mental health issues and became emotionally abusive. He’s been very forthcoming about how poorly he treated his ex, but because he is honest and says he was abusive to her (true, but he never was physically abusive at all) people have heard that and think he beat his wife up a bunch and don’t want anything to do with him. It really sucks that one of the kindest people I’ve ever met is ostracized for his honesty. It reminds me of how people treat Lennon a little bit.
Anyone who doesn't think they're capable of being a terrible human being is a person who lacks the introspection to do anything about it when they inevitably are.
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u/chuck47x 15d ago
Imagine being motivated by a man who was known as a wife beater, cheater, and child abandoner lol.