Who is saying it’s noble or for purposes of bravado? It’s done for many reasons, none of which are as you depict. Shame, self preservation, lack of skills to share, lack of trusted people to share with and many other deeply personal reasons. I commend you being one of the apparent lucky ones to not have experienced this though.
Exactly. Sometimes our "war" is working on past trauma and it's not something we want to talk about outside of maybe therapy. Sometimes the war involves a daily battle where you just wish you could NOT think about the thing for one damn day. Or have a happy moment without your brain being like "hey bro, remember that horrible thing that happened? No time to be happy!' Also people may not understand your struggle and if talking about it makes you feel like you're reliving it, you may keep it quiet.
Obviously it doesn't need to be that deep, as others have pointed out, but it's definitely a reason we may be fighting a war we tell (almost) no one about.
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u/goodguybryan Apr 06 '23
Awesome!!!