r/BlatantMisogyny • u/Spiritual-Escape-904 • 18h ago

Misogyny How common are subway shoulder checks?

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u/UVRaveFairy Feminist Killjoy 18h ago

It is not a fun experience, like to keep a good amount of personal space in public, anyone crossing it is assumed a potential problem.

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u/Spiritual-Escape-904 18h ago

Ya, it doesn't sound very fun, like its not like they have sticky notes outing them on their forehead when they come towards you, so u usually don't see it coming.

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u/UVRaveFairy Feminist Killjoy 18h ago

Martial arts training and grow my nails out for two types of people.

My lovers and my enemies.

Also popular when giving scratches too cats / dogs / etc.

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u/Spiritual-Escape-904 18h ago

Saw this, and thought it would be informational.

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u/existencedeclined 18h ago

I've never been shoulder checked or shoved by men but I have had assholes who would randomly just scream in my face as they walked past me.

It was always a man that did this.

Now I walk with pepper spray clearly in hand and funnily enough, no one screams in my face anymore.

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u/Computer_Vibes 11h ago edited 11h ago

I've been shoulder checked by a grown ass man while I was walking in a city with a goth outfit on (I assumed he did it to me for being goth because people have gotten beaten up for being goth)

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u/The-Shattering-Light 17h ago

Wish I could take this for people - I’m ADHD and spent most of my life running into random parts of the environment, so now I’m super resistant to pain, and very durable.

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u/shattered_kitkat 7h ago

I can honestly say they did this to me in school in the 90's in Florida. It's not a new thing, unfortunately. Now they pick the weaker women; back then, they picked me because I was different. I read a few years ago (10 years or so) how guys would do this in big cities, too, though it wasn't as obvious.

A fun social experiment I saw was to watch people walking in a city. Most of the time, a woman walking alone will alter her path for others, but men hardly ever alter their path except for other men, especially if said man was perceived as stronger or more important. (A guy in jeans will swerve for a guy in a suit or a muscle builder.) If a woman doesn't alter her path, men will run into her or wait until the last second to move, almost always resulting in calling the woman rude names. It worked pre-Covid. Not sure how it will now.

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u/Spiritual-Escape-904 3h ago

Doesn't sound like fun. From what I heard it's a really big problem over there. The fact they have to categorise them is insane.

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u/shattered_kitkat 3h ago

I can't speak for those in Japan, only from what I have seen in the US. But no, it's not fun. It is 100% a power play meant to "put women in their place" and make the aggressor feel better about their shitty life.