r/AskMenAdvice • u/Complex_Memory_7320 • 1d ago

Patriarchy Hoax Opinion

So I have been reading that women were traditionally been opressed by men. Although to some context it is true. Whenever I think about it becomes hazy and I can't digest it. Like my ancestors and many more worked so hard all their lives so that we in present can have a better future, just to be called oppressors in modern times. Also for marraiges were women weren't treated fairly there were also men who got women like that. So it's basically comes down to like there are good people and bad people. Also now I see many countries that have baised laws have their birth rates below 2.1 . Breaking the family unit apart is the best way to break us apart in future. I guess many of us had a decent family to teach us things from both perspectives. I can't speak on this way more although I guess it would be mundane. I don't mean to come out as offensive to anyone just my thoughts and want to know about it from different perspectives.

Edit 1 :- Thank you everyone for sharing your perspective I'll try to look into each one. Also again a heartful thank you for letting me now the insights. Try to keep a unbiased view. Wish you a great time ahead. Edit 2 :- I'll be closing this thread after few days. Got much needed insight .

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u/AggravatingIssue7020 man 1d ago

Women had no chance to divorce as usually only men worked etc , that's very unfortunate.

But tell me one thing, which gender usually went to die in wars?

Haven't touched a history book in a while, I forgot:-/

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u/CommunityDefiant4292 1d ago

There are reasons why women couldn’t work… The legal frame was set up that way ,  And also with kids, and financially and professionally… Read up on history 

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u/AggravatingIssue7020 man 1d ago

I know, I am sorry if that was misunderstood.

The women were dealt the shit cards historically.

I agree with that. They had no way out, it's very sad.

The men were also dealt shit cards, a little corrupt elite would start wars, never the people.

I think patriarchy is some proper bs, but I'll not be raising women any higher than eye to eye height.

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u/CommunityDefiant4292 1d ago

Men also were given shit cards ,  Here’s the list  the lack of proper wages,  the lack of safety at work , with bosses locking doors in warehouses,  Taking away wages for some minor accidents/ incidents/ breakages  Families (come to mind in appalachian  coal mines , Western silver mines, had to live in the mines provided housing, buy from the mine provided shops…all at prohibitive fees Banks were more like shark loaners…

And the legal frame their wives were beholden to, meant that the wives’ financial participation in the household was insignificant and insufficient.  The numerous children born meant also money was spent on food and not schooling … Poverty was a hamster wheel.

Info :  What does that last statement means ?  Copy of your last sentence  “  but I'll not be raising women any higher than eye to eye height.“