r/stopdrinking • u/FlakyFlatworm • 1d ago

14 years sober today

I did it. You can too. Life is so great without alcohol. The Big Book Promises will come true.

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u/ThrowDeepALWAYS 375 days 1d ago

Congrats! I have a question.

At what point can we just say, i don’t drink? It feels like counting everyday will get tedious and cause tension. The tension gets more and more intense until you snap like a rubber band.

Can we just let it go at some point? Or is this a life sentence of just counting and counting until we die?

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u/Killah_Kyla 362 days 1d ago

I feel like you can start now. I have an app on my phone that does the counting for me. I don't keep track of the days.

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u/ThrowDeepALWAYS 375 days 1d ago

Hey you’re almost at 1 year. That’s awesome. I just hit that marker and it’s great. I know people go back to drinking after 1 or even 10 years. I just don’t want to make it my life’s mission to count days and report back to the group. It feels like I’m humble bragging after a year. I plan to just live my life. I don’t want to be labeled and talk about it forever. I hear a radio podcaster who says he has 27 years of sobriety. I feel at that point, why keep harping on it? It feels like he could snap at any moment. I feel this is a major flaw in our mindset. Let’s just graduate already and get on with life!

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u/Killah_Kyla 362 days 23h ago

I guess at that point it's not bragging; it's just a fact. Maybe he feels no tension.

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u/FlakyFlatworm 12h ago

Me too, it's just a fact, I feel no tension at all. I do like to make note of Dec 26 though.

I remember so clearly the last Chrismas I ruined for everyone around me, in 2010.