r/stopdrinking • u/stupre1972 468 days • 1d ago

Sobriety - a cautionary tale

460 odd days ago, I stopped drinking.

460 odd days ago, my wife lost her drinking partner.

Directly or indirectly, so did her parents, my sister, brother in law and a number of friends.

Today, we have had a get together of 10 of us and what would have been a very boozy get together (historically double figure bottles of wine plus various other) has been a very gentle affair where the grand total is 2 bottles of wine and a half dozen bottles of beer.

All of that because I stopped and others followed....

So a word of caution - your (and my) sobriety can have positive effects way beyond your own little world.

Ladies and Gentlemen of the sub, I raise a glass (of hot chocolate in my case) and salute you all - Be you on day 1 or day 1000 - and say once more IWNDWYT

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u/Enough_Spirit6208 363 days 1d ago

I wish :) I mean, I can see the gears turning for a few people, but not those closest to me. My very smart college aged daughter is right beside me and that has been awesome. But I don’t think it would ever occur to my partner to slow down. I’m jealous but also so happy for you.

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u/VariousPop 663 days 1d ago

Same. It's actually causing some issues because my husband has no plans to stop and I really don't like to be around him when he's drinking now.

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u/Enough_Spirit6208 363 days 1d ago

Ah i just peeked at a few of your posts. I think we’d have a lot in common. I saw one where you said you need some hobbies and I swear I wrote something identical. So two years and no luck? Are you doing ok?

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u/VariousPop 663 days 1d ago

Well, somewhat. But I'm also dealing with some other mental health issues, so it's not always easy to find motivation. Plus I'm something of a homebody in general, and I am usually too tired in the evenings to do much of anything. I'll have to peek through your posts now too. :)

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u/JL_Adv 261 days 1d ago

My daughter and I are going to learn to crochet this year. Apparently there are online crochet groups! If I find a good one and you want to join, let me know!

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u/VariousPop 663 days 1d ago

Thank you! I actually just signed up for a class. It's one of the things I've wanted to learn for awhile. 

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u/Enough_Spirit6208 363 days 1d ago

Im sorry to hear that. I wish all good things for you.