r/stopdrinking • u/stupre1972 468 days • 1d ago

Sobriety - a cautionary tale

460 odd days ago, I stopped drinking.

460 odd days ago, my wife lost her drinking partner.

Directly or indirectly, so did her parents, my sister, brother in law and a number of friends.

Today, we have had a get together of 10 of us and what would have been a very boozy get together (historically double figure bottles of wine plus various other) has been a very gentle affair where the grand total is 2 bottles of wine and a half dozen bottles of beer.

All of that because I stopped and others followed....

So a word of caution - your (and my) sobriety can have positive effects way beyond your own little world.

Ladies and Gentlemen of the sub, I raise a glass (of hot chocolate in my case) and salute you all - Be you on day 1 or day 1000 - and say once more IWNDWYT

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u/Beachbaby77 1d ago

Oh wow! That’s amazing! My parents are the ones who say, “Why can’t we still drink? We aren’t the ones with the problem”.

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u/stupre1972 468 days 1d ago

I have never asked anyone in my immediate circle to stop - i have actually told my wife that if she wants a drink to have one and that i will do 'me' (she is sitting beside me with a glass of Port right now).

I think part of it is that i have not tried to put limits on anyone, and in so doing, they have not been able to (or wanted to) push back.

Just as we say IWNDWYT, I say to my friends and family - you do you and I will do me

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u/hexonica 1d ago

Well done, congratulations. This is the way, be as positive as possible. Everyone is in a different place.

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u/wediealone 1d ago

Thank you, appreciate your kind words. Enjoy your holidays!