All my life My dad only has ever had negative things to say. He acknowledges but a criticism always follows No matter how good I did Or how hard I tried There was always something 20yrs later I just told him I've become successful. And his response was negative. It sucks and I can't tell anyone FML I don't know why I keep trying But I also realise in 20yrs he prob won't be with us, and that sucks So I just take it. Because I don't want regrets

Hello, i’m a 17 year old and moved to Australia with my mum back in late 2020

We originally planned to come to Australia with my dad and brother but my dad ended up passing away and my brother got into some whole other complicated thing with his girlfriend and their baby, she wants to stay in the UK with her baby and my brother doesn’t want to leave his baby so he’s also staying there.

We really struggle with money, my mum works everyday 7 days a week, two jobs, she works at home 5 days a week for medibank and works at specsavers on the weekend. I work a casual job at domino’s but I don’t make too much as I only get one shift a week.

At most we can afford about $40 a month I would say for food, and we often get food from foodbanks. I don’t know what it is called but she got some free gift card things for Cole’s and stuff too but it was only about $15 . She’s paying off a house and a lot of other things she has to use after pay 9 out of 10 times anytime she will buy something.

I don’t know what to do we struggle so much and i’m still in high school. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Hi. I am 21 years old, I have been off and on homeless since I was 17. Sometimes I will find a room to rent but nothing long term. I do not have a car. I am signed up to go to community college in january. I just got my high school diploma so that is good. I have been doing commercial fishing part time, I will make $4-5000 and then stop going because I need surgery on my shoulder and it hurts really bad when I go out fishing. Wait til the 5 grand is burnt then I go back out again and make another 5 grand. Does anybody know a job I can get that I can do on my laptop. I need to make $20 an hour to survive. Rent where I live for a room is approx $1000 a month. I don't do drugs or smoke but I have been getting pretty drunk all of the time over the last year lol. Which yes, I know, drinking is bad don't do it but honestly idgaf anymore.

I have been working on detachment and building self-confidence for over a year now, and I’ve made significant progress. But every now and then I realize I'm still not where I want to be yet.

Recently, I had an argument with my partner and have been dealing with a toxic family member. These situations are affecting me more than I'd like. I understand that being completely unbothered all the time isn’t realistic, but I don’t want negative emotions to get in the way of my well-being, influence my actions, or make me miserable.

What steps can I take to stay more in control during these moments?

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Hi everyone!

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(19M) So, I have been struggling for a long time with something I am not even sure is social anxiety, leading me to not be able to enjoy life and have an easy time meeting new people, especially girls (never had a kiss or anything further than that) and this is killing me mentally. I have tried to sum up my behavior and hope you guys can help me improve. I just wanna be happy and enjoy life. Here goes:

I stumble with my words and tense up and get a hot and blushing feeling and look insecure when talking to girls

I overthink my words in conversations and end up not even saying them, creating awkward silence

When I am finally able to keep a conversation going, I end up acting like I'm cool and just seem overly full of myself, and end up letting the conversation die

When people talk to me in general, I often don't have much to say and my tone sounds boring and not easygoing

When I talk to people I often can't find the words to say stuff, so I end up saying stuff like "Ummm..." and stretching words a lot with a really weird voice tone. It feels like my brain is fried or frozen

It seems like I can't break the glass barrier and "get under people's skin" when talking to them, in other words creating a genuine connection

I can't keep eye contact in conversations or when looking at people on the streets when walking (especially girls)

I have a natural resting-bitch-face and people think something's wrong with me as if I am pissed or bothered by something or sad or overly serious

Whenever I am supposed to go meet new people or to a social event I overthink a lot to the point my heartbeat gets faster when I am actually approaching that said place/event

I am scared of celebrating my birthday because I don't know how to react genuinely to presents or to happy birthday wishes, I wouldn't seem genuine or actually happy

I’m about to start my master’s next year while working a full time 9 to 5 job. During my bachelor’s, my sleep schedule was disrupted , but now I’m managing to sleep around 11 pm and wake up at 7 am as habit since last May .With my schedule getting busier, I want to make sure I can keep a consistent sleep routine. Any tips on how to balance a busy work and study life while keeping a healthy sleep cycle?

what are some of your fav books have you guys read?? looking for pretty much anything, but i want to begin letting go of little things and becoming more in tune with my emotions. thanks!

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Hi guys/girls, My first proper post here & yes I'm really down. Quite a few years ago I weighed 26 stone. Managed to get down to 16 with the intention getting down to 13 stone. I met a girl ended up in a relationship then split which hit me hard. Had a bit of a breakdown. Sorted myself out but never dieted or exercised since. Had a couple of relationships in between but now I'm single.

I can't seem to get myself motivated or take an interest in myself. I try dieting but then end up snacking or just stopping completely. I exercise but don't put my full effort in no more. I started my own business this year but due to a medical condition had to stop then got a normal job which ended before Xmas. I just don't know what to do I don't know where to start I don't know how to get that motivation/mindset back that I had all them years ago. I'm done with relationships cause the women I seem to go for either just wanted me for what I had. Didn't take an interest in me. Was always me making all the effort. Or they were too insecure always accusing me of cheating when I hadn't. Example I was sat with my parents one weekend she was at home & was texting me saying I'm cheating. I actually called her said I was with my parents & actually got one of them to say he's with us. She still accused me.

I thought I'd post here get it off my chest & see if you guys can help advise. Appreciate it.

So here's a short explanation of my current situation:

I'm a 25-year-old female who has recently ended a two-month relationship. Although it wasn't very serious, I believed he was the one for me, and losing him makes me feel like I might never find someone who fits me as well as he did.

Around the same time, I also quit my job due to stress from the manager and the overall toxic environment. I noticed myself becoming increasingly socially awkward there. On my last day, I went to the bathroom to cry seven times within nine hours at the office.

Now, I'm unemployed and uncertain about what to do next. I'm still searching for a job, but to be honest, whenever I apply, I secretly hope I don't pass the screening process.

I genuinely want to be happy and feel something. I've tried everything: cleaning, tidying, avoiding social media, reading, writing, working out, trying new hobbies, talking to friends and family, and joining activities like language exchange clubs or events. Despite all this, I still don't feel anything. Am I done? Is life over for me? I don't know what to do anymore. Do you have any advice for me?

I’m a 21 year old guy and I’m trying to start my life but feel like I’m failing in every aspect. I have my own car and I’m almost done with EMT school and will be starting my career with that soon but I’m still living at home. The problem is I still wish I was 17 and could hide from every responsibility I have. I grew up in a rough situation and I definitely didn’t have the teen experience most have. My teenage years were spent walking on eggshells and trying not to get yelled at for even existing so I feel as if I missed out on something and I’m trying desperately to experience it. I feel immature compared to others my age as I’ve never had a serious relationship, I love to crack jokes and have fun, and I’m not 100% sure what I’m doing with my life. I don’t know what kind of advice I’m looking for but anything is welcome. Thanks in advance :)

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Constantly find myself excusing and bargaining with myself, holding no boundaries even towards myself. I’m to blame for not having the life I desire. There’s simply no one else I could put the blame on, but me. I find myself trying to lessen the disappointment with myself by patting myself on the back for not drinking, as if it was my only problem. I’ve smoked weed, I’ve taken Xanax and I continue to vape, because hey, at least I’m not drinking, right? It’s all a form of neglect, self sabotage if you will. I know that none of that will take me to the places I wish to go. So why do I keep trying to force myself to believe that I can do any of it. I feel like shit after. So I sell myself short for what? For a few hours of “fun?” It’s simply not worth it and it makes me realize that mentally, I’m weak. I falter when substances are around. I falter when I have a chance for instant dopamine. I think I need to delete this all social media apps because it feeds the same receptor that all my other bad habits do. Social media is like a drug to me as much as weed, Xanax, alcohol and nicotine are. It should be as easy as just NOT doing it. So why can’t I? Any advice or support for me as I deeply try not to cave into all of my urges. It’s a must if I want any kind of future that i am happy with. If it’s so important to me then why the fuck is it so hard?

[20M] I grew up with a very difficult childhood. My father was emotionally unavailable, abusive, and distant. I was raised in a prison where he worked as the principal, and my older brother also mistreated me. Because of this, I have no connection with my father, and I’ve recently realized I may be dealing with something called 'father hunger.' I’ve always struggled with attachment issues, and I’m wondering if anyone else has been through something similar. How did you start healing from father hunger or emotional neglect? How do I form healthy attachments, especially if I get easily attached to people? Any advice on how to fill this emotional void and heal from these experiences?

Hi everyone,

I’m a high schooler who’s passionate about mental health and psychology, especially for teens. A little over a month ago, I started a project called Diary of the Mind, where I write about teenage mental health and psychology topics that I thoroughly research.

One of my main goals is to create a space where teens can share their own mental health stories anonymously and help others feel less alone. I’d love to hear from you about what you think would be most helpful or impactful in such a space.

Since it’s hard for me to reach a wider audience at school or through local channels, I thought this subreddit could be a good place to share and connect. If you’re interested in learning more or contributing your story, I’d be super grateful. Here’s the link to my site if you’d like to check it out and share your story: diaryofthemind.com. You can find the way to submit your requests on the homepage.

Thank you for reading and supporting mental health awareness.

EDIT : I’m updating the contact forms, so please send your requests through this email - diaryofthemind.com@gmail.com. Thank you!

hello lovely people:) I feel like I could really use your help because I’m just so, so tired lately. I’m used to pretending I’m fine, but especially during holiday time, it becomes- practically - a torture. I don’t know why I constantly feel this overwhelming sadness, especially ’cause my life is pretty normal, and I’m so embarrassed about it - but I cannot make it stop. It’s like I’m drowning in my own mind. since I don’t have anyone I could talk to about this I decided to share it here - maybe someone would be willing to write me some tips on how to cope with these kind of devastating thoughts. to anyone readings this, have a lovely day/night, whatever place you’re in<3

i was told that i’m always very emotional and act out of impulse every time someone triggers me or treat me in a way I didn’t like, is there any way i can change my mindset or any tips you might have that can be helpful? greatly appreciated 🙏🏻 if you’re a similar individual, it will be great if you could share too about your experience thank you!

Just to clarify: I'm a 25 year old male, I have a good full-time job, I exercise frequently and have legit hobbies/interests. I'm not a (complete) loser.

However, I LOVE gooning and masturbating (NOT watching porn) I discovered those 2 things about a year ago and have been hooked ever since. Before I started, I put a high level of value/interest in a women's looks when considering a potential GF. As I'm sure you're all shocked by, I have never had a girlfriend.

I don't think my overall views/attitudes towards women have changed since I started.

Also, if I wasn't gooning, I'd probably be spending that time watching TV or YouTube or playing video games.

Hello, I’m a 17 year old girl who is extremely competitive and I feel like it slowly drains me. I always strive to be the best in everything. I can’t stand someone knowing more about a certain topic or being better than me not only at but also outside school. The bigger problem though is that I’m most competitive when it comes to my closest people. My best friend getting a better grade? Fuck no. My sister getting skinner? Absolutely hell no. I will be the best. The skinniest. The smartest. The most praised. That’s it. I can’t stand it anymore. Anyone trying to do something that I consider as my thing? Fuck you, I will try my best to ruin your chances at getting better at it. I know I’m a bitch, I know it is terrible, I know it should not be happening I just can’t help it. I’m trying to stop being like this so hard but it just seems so hard, nearly impossible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Hello, first time posting here!

So I am a 25M and it's been years I've had a hard time getting up but those days I really feel it because I am unemployed so I don't have to get up. Basically, I struggle not falling back asleep, but then, when I'm finally awake, I just stay in my bed. This sounds insane because I can do whatever I want with my days. I would say I usually stay between 30 minutes and an hour fully awake in my bed doing nothing (no phone near me, the only thing I can do is be in my head, be bored, wanting to get up). But I want to get up, this is just a struggle... It happens every day.

Does anyone have any advices?

Also I don't feel depressed, I'm chill overall with a good mood, but at the same time I'm not that excited about my days as a 5 years old hearing anime on tv down the stairs.