r/selfhelp • u/Stunning_Ad3240 • 1d ago

How do I stop being so competitive?

Hello, I’m a 17 year old girl who is extremely competitive and I feel like it slowly drains me. I always strive to be the best in everything. I can’t stand someone knowing more about a certain topic or being better than me not only at but also outside school. The bigger problem though is that I’m most competitive when it comes to my closest people. My best friend getting a better grade? Fuck no. My sister getting skinner? Absolutely hell no. I will be the best. The skinniest. The smartest. The most praised. That’s it. I can’t stand it anymore. Anyone trying to do something that I consider as my thing? Fuck you, I will try my best to ruin your chances at getting better at it. I know I’m a bitch, I know it is terrible, I know it should not be happening I just can’t help it. I’m trying to stop being like this so hard but it just seems so hard, nearly impossible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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u/Global-Fact7752 1d ago

You need to seek therapy for this.

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u/Madeithappen00 23h ago

No offense, but may come from some insecurities. Try to identify why you always need to be the best and be honest with yourself. May save you expensive therapy session.

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u/The_Love_Doktor 1d ago

I was the same way…

Do you know what causes this? Do you know why you have the urge to be better? Identifying that is key…

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u/goqo 21h ago

Is it funny to you? Your description of yourself’s pretty funny.

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u/nooneinparticular246 17h ago

If you were alone on an island who would you be and what kind of person would you be proud of becoming?

If you only define your value in relation to other people you’ll have a bad time.

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u/patrickshana 16h ago

Dude I am 20, in a medical college rn. It's an off lecture. The whole class is chit chatting... I am sitting on the first bench and scrolling through reddit.