r/kingsnottrash Feb 01 '24

Relationships Well gentlemen, Kings and other crazy things

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I don't know if any of you remember me but I have let you all down. I've let myself down and I've let my message down...

I have seriously fallen off since being "permanently suspended" from reddit 3 years ago now. My life has spiralled. Not because of the ban, it just came during a terrible time in my life and I thought it was a sign to get off of the Internet once and for all.

In the mean time I've been fired from work, been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and soon to get tested for autism.

I'm sorry lads. Now as I type this. Things are in perspective sort of.

Maybe I'll pick my life back up and go hard...

We'll see. I'll try to be here more.

r/kingsnottrash May 08 '20

Relationships Remember Kings, never cheat on a partner. You know you're better than that.

202 Upvotes

There's a lot on this sub about the evils of porn, but I feel that there is another way that people fall victim to their urges. There is few ways to completely nuke your life quicker than cheating on a girlfriend/wife.

If the love is gone from the relationship, break up and move on. You'll be safe in the knowledge that you've done the right thing, and you'll save everyone a lot of heart ache.

If you cheat you'll hate yourself. You'll know that you're a person that cannot be trusted.

If you cheat you'll damage another person's self esteem so badly that they may never fully recover.

If you cheat everyone you know will respect you less. They will know you're weak, callous, and untrustworthy.

I've come shamefully close to cheating myself on occasion, when the opportunity presented itself, but thankfully I've always resisted temptation. If a beautiful woman shows interest in you, let it boost your confidence and move on. Go home to your loving wife and be a good husband. If you're drunk, or otherwise not at your best, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.

Being tempted doesn't make you a bad person, but going through with it will eat away at you. The porn industry has many people convinced that it is natural to allow themselves to be blown about by the whims of their libido, but it's not, be better than that.

I've seen too many otherwise good men completely ruin their lives for the sake of a pretty face as a few hours of pleasure. A huge portion of divorces are instigated because of adultery, and we all know how men get fucked in divorce proceedings.

Don't cheat Kings, you know you're better than that.

r/kingsnottrash Jun 07 '20

Relationships This might be a dumb question to ask, Kings, but what are your feelings about getting back together with an ex?

39 Upvotes

Let me just preface this with saying that I've always made it a point to never get back together with an ex-girlfriend, no matter how much I would want to, and I will always stick to that.

That out of the way, my recent ex-girlfriend called me out of the blue and asked me if I wanted to get back together (we were together for 2 and a half great years but she broke up with me to go to grad school and she's just finished). Another reason we broke up was our conflicting views on children, but she says she's started to come around to my side. The thing is, I don't fully believer her when she says that.

I reiterated to her about my feelings on dating an ex, and when I was explaining it I started to wonder what users on this sub thought about the practice, or whether or not my stance is reasonable?

r/kingsnottrash Sep 21 '20

Relationships Why People Like Anime Girls: A Cultural Analysis

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r/kingsnottrash May 11 '20

Relationships Purpose over Pussy

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191 Upvotes

r/kingsnottrash Apr 26 '21

Relationships Feeling defeated

39 Upvotes

Hi kings,

Recently with the way liberalism is going I feel almost ashamed to be masculine, I feel that men these days are vindicated for simply breathing or doing what we enjoy.

I’m just looking to find someone who isn’t on their phone 24/7 or messaging guys non stop. I don’t know if I’ll ever find that these days.

r/kingsnottrash Jul 04 '20

Relationships Online dating as a traditionalist in the incredibly progressive city of Victoria BC?

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So I’ve been online dating for a few months now. I now it’s certainly not ideal but due to covid and stuff I’ve been unable to return to my home country where I study and live. I have been looking to date before this but so far have had little success. I’m a 18M I’m decently attractive, 181cm, have a bunch of hobbies, a well rounded personality and have recently finally “found myself” to a certain extent anyhow. I get a reasonable amount of matches, only a few of which both parties decided to progress to the stage of continued contact and calling each other. Obviously none of these worked out in the end. However even regardless of how many matches I get my problem is that I can find nobody I actually particularly like.

I live in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada which happens to be literally the most liberal/progressive place in the world. There are 3 main types of profiles common in my area.

  1. No bio, I don’t care how attractive you are if I know literally nothing about you, other than that you are too lazy or boring to write a bio, I am not going to bother to put in any effort.

  2. “6ft+ guys only! Looking for adventures! Good time not a long time🥴”

  3. “(Put word salad of sexuality’s and gender identity’s here) My entire personality is that I like weed and the office!”

Obviously those are generalizations but they are really not far off. I guess I’m a rather nerdy introvert. Nerdy as in I like history, politics, writing and reading into fictional worlds and sometimes play video games, not that I base my personalty off a TV show. I’m also politically a traditional conservative, perhaps even reactionary in some areas and although I’m agnostic I probably have a lot in common with christians. In fact I’ve gotten a long with self-described catholics the best. It’s a shame most of them happen to be just south of the border and not in this culturally-bankrupt country.

So I’m looking for advice on how to find people who I could actually relate to... I know online dating sucks in general but even when I was back in university physically the story was not too different, though I did click with a politically apathetic, history nerd at one point. The general advice I find from other subs is to join a club and make friends first but as a true introverted (as opposed to just socially awkward) and someone who is pretty autistic, I have a hard time making and caring about making friends in general though I am improving recently. Then it raises the question of what club? I literally don’t know where to find people I relate to in this city. And I have certainly looked. So any advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated!

r/kingsnottrash Jun 27 '21

Relationships This is how to stop yourself from being reactive in social situations

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r/kingsnottrash Jul 03 '20

Relationships Not r/relationshipadvice, but I need some relationship advice.

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Hey guys

I hope this is the place, I’ve been following this sub for a while. I’ve been lifting, learning a new language, and doing my best to take responsibility and embrace genuine manhood with all its triumphs and obstacles.

But I do need to talk about this. Today I broke up with my girlfriend. I’ve told my close friends and family, but honestly this isn’t something I want to open up to them about. Without going into too much detail, this girl was my partner of 3 years, we shared everything and were best friends, but this just wouldn’t work. It was entirely peaceful and mutual, and we have nothing but respect and love and no regrets whatsoever, but due to circumstance this couldn’t work. I don’t feel that upset as I right this, but I worry that it just hasn’t hit me yet. I’m not emotionless and whilst I know that this is the best outcome for us, I genuinely don’t know what I will feel tomorrow or next week or next month, and that’s a scary thing. Maybe I’ll feel exactly as I do now, upset but in control and coping, or maybe it will “sink in” and I’ll be in pieces tomorrow evening. This isn’t r/relationshipadvice, but I’d love some relationship advice. Any thoughts would be appreciated. God bless you all, and never give up doing the best you can.