r/kingsnottrash • u/connorlukebyrne • May 08 '20
Relationships Remember Kings, never cheat on a partner. You know you're better than that.
There's a lot on this sub about the evils of porn, but I feel that there is another way that people fall victim to their urges. There is few ways to completely nuke your life quicker than cheating on a girlfriend/wife.
If the love is gone from the relationship, break up and move on. You'll be safe in the knowledge that you've done the right thing, and you'll save everyone a lot of heart ache.
If you cheat you'll hate yourself. You'll know that you're a person that cannot be trusted.
If you cheat you'll damage another person's self esteem so badly that they may never fully recover.
If you cheat everyone you know will respect you less. They will know you're weak, callous, and untrustworthy.
I've come shamefully close to cheating myself on occasion, when the opportunity presented itself, but thankfully I've always resisted temptation. If a beautiful woman shows interest in you, let it boost your confidence and move on. Go home to your loving wife and be a good husband. If you're drunk, or otherwise not at your best, remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.
Being tempted doesn't make you a bad person, but going through with it will eat away at you. The porn industry has many people convinced that it is natural to allow themselves to be blown about by the whims of their libido, but it's not, be better than that.
I've seen too many otherwise good men completely ruin their lives for the sake of a pretty face as a few hours of pleasure. A huge portion of divorces are instigated because of adultery, and we all know how men get fucked in divorce proceedings.
Don't cheat Kings, you know you're better than that.
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u/WeAreLostSoAreYou May 08 '20
Cheating is the consequence of a bored mind and lack of principles. You should be contemptuous of the idea that you could cheat. Like it should be something so beneath you it’s laughable. Take it from someone who made these mistakes.
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u/Cahoots32 May 08 '20
We should worry more about being cheated on tbh. No hate for girls but Literally all my guy friends have been cheated on. No joke.
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u/WeAreLostSoAreYou May 08 '20 edited Feb 12 '24
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u/YoungWhiteAndEnglish May 08 '20
Based. I like this sub for its self improvement aspect but we got to wake up to the reality of the world in 2020. Women are much more likely to cheat and/ or branch swing now a days.
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May 08 '20
Confused as to how someone can find more than one woman that attracted to them that they'd risk cheating.
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u/TheIncelRepublic May 08 '20
Also, don’t stay in an enclosed room with another woman by herself.
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May 08 '20 edited Jul 17 '20
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u/TheIncelRepublic May 08 '20
Yeah, that is really good of him. Even if you don’t agree with what he says, being alone with a woman in a room will lead to seduction. This would solve a lot of cheating issues, also if you get in a relationship, you should try distance yourself from your female friends.
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u/kleinpioneer May 08 '20
Seeing alot of comments focusing on the wrong side of things and putting the focus on "women cheating" and "how can I get more than one girl to like me". That is your first problem to tackle kings, focus on improving your own confidence. If your with someone who's ends up cheating, think of how you met them and try to meet the next person in a different way. Dont be nervous seeking out new friend groups, because women are not all the same just as us men aren't all kings. The "how can I get more than one girl to like me" is a terrible mind set. 1, stop putting yourself down, be proud of what your worth and someone out there will find it attractive. 2, why on earth does it matter if more than one likes you, ya going to be a polygamist?? Find self worth, and be proud of it! And if you cant find it, work to create it king!! For with confidence comes attraction. Focus on one person if you're set on getting into a relationship aswell, that's what this post is about. I'm someone who has been a shit person and cheated on a few previous relationships when they havent cheated on me. Focus on what the post is about please, but please take care of your selves kings.
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u/RichMetagross May 08 '20
Still my biggest regret is getting with my GF at the time's best mate. That mate then proceeded to falsely accuse me of some horrible shit so I guess thats karma
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u/connorlukebyrne May 08 '20
At least you recognise your mistake. I've seen some repeatedly make this mistake over and over, even though it never works out well, simply because it's too painful to acknowledge what they've done wrong. Now you can decide to be better, and I'm sure you already have.
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u/BigReRe May 08 '20
Cheating is one of the many corrupting acts. You cannot trust any future partners to not cheat if you have cheated. That projection is something you'll have to fight for a long time.
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u/sadcatullus May 08 '20
Why? Sleeping around shouldn't be encouraged for women and men.
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u/fuckmingaseatpingas May 08 '20 edited May 08 '20
Nah lad, gotta smash a coupla nice lil slutties when you’re young. It’s good for you as a man. I’m 22 and have a fam now but I’m glad i got it out of my system.
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u/DaLaohu May 08 '20
At least you're honest about it. I hate the guys that lived like that and got married and pretend they're sad about it.
The way I see it is that it's too separate legitimate lifestyles both with their own consequences, and both entirely exclusive of each other. A man's gotta decide which way he wants to live quick.
I took the virgin-till-married path and gotta live that. I went through, and am still recovering through, some bad thoughts about that decision over the past few years. But, I'm more convinced now that my frustrations are born of porn than anything else. Fortunately, I was never dumb enough to cheat through all it. I just take out my sexual frustrations on my wife, now.
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u/fuckmingaseatpingas May 08 '20
Legit aye I was never a cheater per se, but I’d be casually slipping one up more than one girl at once, during that time in my life I was living in Sydney by myself, partying A LOT, moving weight, lots of random hook ups etc Defs true about a man needing to decide his life path quick, I met my gf and my life changed aye she gave me stability and is just amazing tbh so as soon as all my most recent legals were sorted in 2019 I moved to Canada from Aus, we got a place and conceived our son not long after.
Now I’m a family man who just stacks $$ for my son with my own business and parties once in a blue moon haha, now that all that’s out of my system I can just focus on being a dad and a partner/building a good life for my fam. I feel like for a lot of people if they don’t experience shit early on it causes problems in their marriages later in life, but everyones different haha
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u/baseball_bat_popsicl May 08 '20
Cringe. Sex is only worth it in a committed and fulfilling relationship.
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u/fuckmingaseatpingas May 08 '20
Nah, it’s good to get experience up. I’m so glad I had fun before settling down and starting a family. Not living your life is cringe 🤷🏻♂️
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u/anonymousdude7 May 08 '20
Glad to hear that you were able to stop yourself from cheating