This is a topic that really puzzles me considering my father hangelala vizuri akijua there's something we're lacking. I came by one of those kids who usually ask you just to buy them lunch. While looking for a restaurant, I sparked a conversation just to get to know a bit about him.

He told me he's in school, the mom works as a mama fua which made sense why providing some meals might be an issue. Especially with Kasongo around. I asked him about his dad and he told me he does not have a dad. I asked him what happened and he told me he left wakiwa wadogo.

Which begs the question, how do people just go about their business while knowing this is the kind of life their kids are leading out here?

I (F) have been drinking each day this week coz it is Christmas, I took a break from my business, and I just want to have the fun I might have missed out on all year.

On Christmas, I got so wasted that I nearly ducked a friend of mine who doubles up as my client. I was so embarrassed the following day that I can't stop apologizing.

As if that wasn't enough, last night I went out with friends and I began hitting on some random girl. I made out with this girl so aggressively that she had to beg me to stop it.

Later in the night my friends suggested that we have a 3some and I agreed to it coz sina akili. Luckily though, the girl passed out, while we were driving to mines, and my friend and I agreed that we shouldn't do it without her. So he dropped me home and left.

A while ago, this man I met at the party told me that I kissed him and also ate all his pizza. On a normal day, I don't eat pizza! And I hate kissing!

I've thought about my actions this week and resolved that alcohol is not for me. Either that or I am just on heat.

I'll just get a decent man to date and fcvk whenever instead of trying to fvck my friends shamelessly. Godamn! So yea Nimeacha pombe!

Tell me why l just discovered that my mother is on reddit?? she's semi active too, she was especially active during the months of June to September; like how dare she?? as mother she supposed to be boring and shii. What l found especially distressing is that some of you thirsty ahh ninjas, had slid in her dms; seriously guys???? l think it was the divine that made me grab her phone and l saw that app, after some questioning ( l discovered that it was a family friend who coerced her to get this app) l have deleted it with IMMEDIATE effect. She got me fvcked up out here.

I just realised that I haven't had s£x for 17 months now. I have been single for a little over 2 years now out of choice and some historical stuff I keep to myself. I engineered my previous separation just to have time for self development. Balancing between school, work and demanding union was hectic, I had to let one go. Then, I always have a special kind of connection with one girl I met that dragged my head into self development, we met at a time when I wasn't seeing myself working smart to be something in future. I was a casual worker for a construction site and comfort. She changed all that.

I have a burden of meeting her sometimes later in life when I will be in another stage. So far, am doing well, sitaki tu diversion of body pleasure.

Msiniambie nikule raha, nitakufa tu.

Whatever it is you are doing, keep doing it. Put your best foot forward and maintain a positive image because people are watching. You may think they don't because they don't mention it but trust me, they are watching.

I realized this recently when we had our office party and people got drunk and started yapping. I got a couple of positive reviews from colleagues about how I was showing up and it was really eye opening. Before that I thought I was invisible and everyone was minding their own business but clearly I was wrong.

There's a plug who sells co**e and borrowed me money a couple weeks back but has refused to pay me back and I know he's still pushing. Funny thing is I have a lot of his details including his wife's shop in Nairobi and pictures of him and his family. He's a small timer so Im not scared he'll get me... Should I do it?

So we are ending 2024 and there is something I still find weird and allow me to share it and maybe there is someone out here who is sharing my mind or another one us finding it ok Now, You meet a young person, relatively young, let's say a Gen Z or Millenial, then the first question they ask is "Wewe ni m.... meaning wewe ni Mkabila gani? I find this question weird and disdainful, lkr how important is my tribe in our engagement? Whether I am a Kiuks, Kalee, Luhyia, Makonde, Luo ama Somali, how is it important? Can't you engage me like a Kenyan, kama tunavibe then that is it kama hatuvibe inakuwa hivyo.. Tusivuke to 2025 with this mindset

I made two females pregnant.

So, there are this two girls that we've been casually having sex with, one is a single mother(no strings attached). She really like sex, we had always had sex with CD, unfortunately one weekend the packets were few and we decided to do morning glory without CD, 1.5 months later, she's pregnant.

The other, we've been flirting online, she visits we did the tests n sex obviously two weeks later, she's pregnant.

Both want to keep it, obviously with demands, single mother wants to move out from her parents house by feb, she'd like to get a house and upkeep, the second girl want to move in to my house. Although I can afford their demand, I wonder how they'll take the news, should I let them know right now ama I just wait mpaka wapate watoi.

Yes you heard that right.

I'm 23 black (F) and went jobless this year. Contrary to the 'get a job' Mofos who'll line up in the comments, I have not seen such luck yet

Recently got an offer that was a light at the end of the tunnel( interestingly) I had reached out to old male friend of mine for some cash (nothing major) and he offered to buy my booty pics specifically. I was shocked and pissed off, was gonna block him when he said that since I show my ass cheeks anyway at the beach, wearing panties on IG etc, this way I get paid for it.

I could say my ass is more shape than size, big still but not too much and round. Would give it a solid 8/10 no exaggeration.Men always seem to be fixated on it when I'm walking about and I've been grabbed now and then against my wishes.

Had to admit I was surprised at his reasoning lol It made sense. I was on such hard times that I thought what the hell (this once) and he paid 10$ ! Wtf 🤣

Laughed it off until next month's bills came🥲

I told him if he needed any more (that is without showing nudity aka pussy) to hmu and he referred me to some of his friends who came with requests...ranges from clapping to slapping to grabbing to squeezing,all of it And honestly, I never would've guessed this is how I'd close off my 2024. I was a secretary wearing office skirts and ish!

Waiting and applying for jobs obvi to get me out of this weird simulation where I slap my ass around for strangers.a Sometimes, they'll get me to squeeze my boobs over an baggy shirt

Anyways , my current situation is slightly better and is improving but could use every dollar I can get so I still do them from time to time. I still haven't transitioned to full nudity nor am I looking to, the furthest I've gone is maybe doing a vid pushing a pencil in there. I don't show my face and don't even speak so that my voice isn't recorded. I also started using my male friend's PayPal to avoid giving out personal info - yes, the one who gave me this 'job' to begin with!

My friends and fam don't know this is what their daughter does, if only they knew they have been gracious recipients of booty money🤣🤣

Just wanted to get my sins out before the end of the year

What weird non obvious things have you done for cash? Let it out now before New Year's!

Yesterday on one of my many quests I stumbled into this farm using solar for irrigation. The guy running the place was a young man, probably below 30 and the set up was impressive. Before things went south in 2022 this was my dream with back up electricity. Seeing someone else implement such a project around my age and with such great vision was inspiring af. Seeing young going against the odds and succeeding is inspiring. It shows that nothing is impossible and opens up your mind. Nikisema look up to the right people I'm talking about such things. Si lazima you look up to a multi millionaire. It's people like this driving entrepreneurship, change and doing things differently. He's a guy who started small, reinvesting and looking for financing opportunities.

Tujitume guys.

We are just coming from the hospital my girl was hospitalized yesterday Aki baddies wanakuja Na mashida zote mara anga ooh severe pain cramps,mara poor eyesight Sasa Jana it was diarrhoea cause she ate something that I also ate and it was severe .

There was a day she fainted because of straining in the toilet yaani hii engine iko Na mashida one thausand eiyy shukisha.Mwili Ni Safi ,figure Ni Safi 10/10 but it doesn't work unashanga white blood cells zinafanya Nini End of rant

I highly advocate for responsible internet use. But you can't control the Internet and what's said there. It's a very complex ecosystem. There are nuances when it comes to the limits of freedom of expression. The internet and social media collectively pose a serious threat to the national security of any country. So governments worldwide monitor the internet heavily, as they should, because sometimes things can get ugly fast if they're complacent.

In our case, the agencies involved, NIS, DCI should be aware of the threats posed, assess risks and come up with plans to ensure safety of Kenyan citizens. If someone posts something inflammatory online, they could just be flagged and monitored to ensure they don't harm the general public, which is normally in cases of terrorism, which are very rare in our country.

But someone posting a silhouette or a meme or an AI generated picture doesn't fit the threshold of national security threat. It's more a sign of discontent and disconnect the public has with the performance of the government and it's leader. Still, if someone was to mock the president or post vile content about them, they simply need to take them to court and sue for defamation. Or in cases where the post is a thinly veiled threat, the individual can be put on watch by national security agencies and prosecuted in court if need be for threatening to harm another.

So the abductions are wrong and have no effect other than rile the general public. They're counterproductive, undemocratic and plainly stupid.

And more worrying is that abductions through secret police squads like these are prevalent in authoritarian countries. It's giving Gestapo vibes. And it doesn't make sense to me.

Ever since i joined campo, things have never been the same. Inadequate upkeep (the least), sick mom (bread winner), poor grades (starving up to three days) since it's a bit difficult to attend classes on an empty stomach. I realised my immune system was weakening every single day as stresses pilled (i even went for a full blood test and all elements were in the range except one under the white blood cells that was slightly higher, an indicator of stress).

As much as i was subconsciously aware of the detrimental effects of depression, i was ready for the worst. But I've just realised things will get worse, for a moment i just want to focus on the current situation. Of late, i had experienced social withdrawal, gotten very lazy, not eating at all etc.

Being stressed should be the last option whenever you're in a difficult situation, i now feel alive again when I've decided let nature takeover afteall who cares

You have 48 hours to break your relationship with that manipulator...

Do not enter the new year in a relationship with someone who has been manipulating you for their selfish gains...

If they are always taking from you but do not give back as much as they take, dump them. They are manipulating you.

If you always choose them over others but they can't choose you over their friends, dump them, they are manipulating you.

If they act offended each time you demand accountability, dump them. They are manipulating you.

How can you not ask your partner where they are without them getting offended? You have every right to know where your partner is and if they are not willing to be held accountable, they are manipulating you. Dump them.

If you are dating a single parent who cares more about their own children and restricts you from taking care of your own children, you are dating a manipulator. Dump them.

If they promise you a great future together but do not match it in action, dump them. They are manipulating you.

If they make you pay for their lifestyle without caring about your finances, dump them. They don't care about you.

If they always take a break from you when things are tough for you only to resurface when things are better, dump them. They are emotional manipulators.

If they disrespect you but respect others you might be better than, do yourself a favour and dump them.

If you are afraid to say NO to them, they probably have emotionally manipulated you to be their puppet. Walk away and regain your powers. You can't be in a relationship where you are afraid to say NO in order not to offend your partner. Are they your slave master?

If your life has become worse, bitter and unhappy since you have been with them, you have 48 hours to dump them.

Psychologists claim that the best time to dump emotional manipulators is just before you enter a new year otherwise it will be difficult to secure your freedom from them.

Now is the best time to type that break up message.... Oh wait.... I will help you type the message "hi, I'm sorry to end this relationship but I need to do it to focus on becoming a better version of me in the new year. Have a great life and know that I wish you well". Copy and forward to them. Take a deep breath and move on.

You can't start 2025 with manipulators in your life. If you don't give emotional manipulators QUIT NOTICE, you will continue to go in circles.

If you love yourself and value your peace and freedom, Dump them.

Advice from those who crochet how do you price your piece i am leaning on starting a crochet business to get me through campus, for example this piece, i used 3 yarns the total time spent on it is unclear since i did it at my free time but maybe a total of 6-10 hours each yarn was 70. So how would you have priced it ? Also do you have a hidden gem for cheaper yarns ? Forgive the dust around the middle part(white yarns) 😅

I'm starting to think I won't find the kind of person I'm looking for, but lemme use a good example of what I'm talking about.

There was this one chic that intrigued me, how she was passionate about her career path (real estate), made moves to get herself into an internship at a good real estate agency, and is now doing her thing. All the while we shared a lot of talks, which were mentally challenging topics so it was fun. Very engaging. Organized person that. Night life didn't excite her as much as others, like it doesn't excite me (doesn't mean I wouldn't go out to celebrate, or just chill outside from time to time). Basically, someone who doesn't live her life in front of a camera lens.

It was by chance that I discovered someone like that... and now I'm thinking running into someone with these traits is looking highly unlikely.

Ik they exist, but where tf are they, man?

P.S.: Shit went south with the aforementioned example..

I've reached a point where nescafe is like a piriton to me. Others are turning it into code but I turn it to a slumber party 😄. Eish I need a good recommendation of another stronger coffee brand that actually works.

I want something that I sip and jump around like Tuko from Better call Soul. Niskie nkama niko mapuyaka 😄. And please don't recommend Coke and Khat 😂.

Sometime back I was on call with my sister talking about random stuff when she suggest I get a vision board to help me visualise life goals that I thought were important. I ended up getting one for 2000k. Bro! She changed my life for real! First of all nimeiweka place I see it nikienda kukaokota and afterwards nikishakaokota. For the images I made use of Pinterest instead of downloading pics zikae kwa phone waiting for when I'll need to change my wallpaper. The Vision Board comes with a set of pins to 📌 the 🏜️🏞️🌅🌄 so the package is complete. Siwadanganyi it might change your life just try

The only dating "advice" you need: - Prioritize yourself.

The only fitness "routine" you need: - Consistency.

The only networking "strategy" you need: - Adding value.

The only motivational "boost" you need: - Setting goals.

The only time management "method" you need: - Saying no.

The only self-improvement "plan" you need: - Daily learning.

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Are there men who are 'keeping' themselves for marriage (or just for the 'right' person) either for religious or personal reasons? 25f and virgin here, been keeping myself and I wanted to interact with men who have been on a similar journey. What was your motivation and how has the journey been?

Recently I was walking off my three chapatis in the village when I stumbled upon these two tricksters. Because I’m built big and strong, the little male trickster said in the voice of a cricket: “Unaweza tusaidia kuskuma hii maji?” If this ever happens to you, just say no and continue your merry way.

I didn’t. Because they looked so small. I felt sorry for their short arms and how the bones of their knees resembled coral. So in an SDA version of “Hold my beer,” I said “Hold my phone” (I was in a kikoi) and grabbed the wheelbarrow. I figured it couldn’t be harder than the Stairmaster in the gym. Plus, I run regularly. And swim.

Off we trudged up the hill. About 50 meters in I realised immediately that I should have lied to them that I have malaria or TB and moved on with my life. My chest was imploding, my back sore. I eventually stopped under a shade and tried not to breathe too hard because they were watching me. Another 50m and I stopped and sat down under another shade. I was in ruins. A bead of sweat fell off the tip of my nose. “How long?” I asked and he pointed at the shiny roof 100m away. He might as well have pointed at the moon. “Would it have killed you to live near the damn river?” I thought.

You might think I’m being dramatic but it weighed a ton. And you have to haunch forward and use your arms, back of legs, heart, spleen, and the gluteus minimus to move it up the hill. The hardest thing I did this holiday.

Yet these kids do this daily, maybe even twice a day. My son recently carried around a small paper bag containing bread, sugar, rice, and 1kg cooking oil, for 10mins. He looked like he had done a full marathon in his second trimester.

Anyway; the gym is a fraud. Push a fxcking wheelbarrow up a hill, then come rant here.

Also, normalize saying no to children.

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Just visited shags recently at my grandparents' place. Found my aunt and her kids already there. Shosh was battling with HBP and ulcers as usual hence can't survive without drugs. To my suprise, a muddy house in the middle of the farm that we converted to a store and a gallery seemed to be inhabited.

Everyone knows nakuanga nonchalant so they don't share with me any kind of information ata kuwe na sherehe i learn from neighbours if I'm lucky juu after all there's nothing i do if i get the news. So the aunt came with her man of god who tagged his wife with their kid. So every morning they come for prayers. Joini she goes there for kesha.

It makes me wonder why she'd go that far into accommodating someone who can't even sustain his needs cuz she includes them whenever she cooks. She'd often do nothing some days when she'll call the man of god telling him about her dream and needing an interpretation (she's more educated than the man of god ironically) . Since she's an adult about 35 years I can't offer any advice to her though the whole situation makes me regret coming here, can't wait to go back. The man of god even realised I'm not into that crap one day when they told me to join them into a prayer....as usual i act deaf whenever i don't agree.

I think as a society we should indulge in more healthy stuffs than this.