r/getdisciplined • u/KingSlayer-86 • 18d ago

💬 Discussion Any goals/ideas for 2025?

Here are mine.

  1. Be mindful of my diet. Cut out any sugar, carbs, fat as much as possible. I’m 29M so I figure now’s the time to start watching my weight and diet, although I am healthy.

  2. Go back to counseling. It’s not for everyone, but in my case life was a lot better when I was seeing a therapist. I recommend it to anyone who’s on the fence about it.

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u/barefootguy83 18d ago

I've been building habits slowly.  Once I master a new one for 2 months I add another.  My first one cut porn use down to 30 mins/week on a specific day+time, then I added in getting up early 6 days/week.  My next one will be reading 3 days/week for at least an hour each time; I'm still trying to figure out the best days+times so I can be consistent.  Over the next year I want to:

  • scale back my phone use to specific times/day
  • cultivate a more robust+consistent home calisthenics routine
  • have specific days+times for organizing+cleaning my clutter/apartment 
  • have specific days+times for my hobbies and creative pursuits

It takes time for each of these things to become habits which is why I'm doing them 2 months at a time.  So far so good.  

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u/Stunning_Gur_7179 17d ago

You should look at the book atomic habits. I'm working so hard on cutting porn, it's not easy especially when the cues are everywhere. I have also noticed I watch porn when I am stressed from work. I am proud of you. Also, do you think there is a link between frequent porn use/masturbation and ADHD?

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u/barefootguy83 17d ago

Yup, read it twice, great book.  Love the systems and identity change concepts.  I think there could be a link to ADHD but for me, learning that has been less important than simply reducing harm.  I'm a big fan of harm reduction approaches to tackling vices; allowing yourself a small outlet for urges (sleeping in, porn, etc) but having 80-90% of the time devoted to healthier habits.  I can only speak for me, but it's the only thing that has worked long-term.  

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u/Stunning_Gur_7179 17d ago

That's great to hear that has worked for you. I believe I have a very addictive personality. So total elimination of cues within my room has been a game changer. Sure you cannot totally eliminate sexual cues in our world today. What other books do you think have helped you?

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u/barefootguy83 17d ago

You know, I actually get most of my fresh ideas from podcasts.  I'd like to say they're from books which is a big reason why I want to make reading more a habit.  I once heard on a podcast the idea of thinking of your ideal day and working backwards/out from there to design your best life.  I liked that because all the work we're doing really is in an effort to live well on a daily basis.  I like structure a lot and like using a week (Monday-Sunday) as a realistic framework in which to build new habits.  What books have helped you besides Atomic Habits?

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u/barefootguy83 17d ago

Also, check out Mel Robbins and her 5-second rule; helped me a ton.