r/facepalm 'MURICA Aug 28 '24

🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​ i'm speechless

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

I genuinely feel like moving to the US just to open a restaurant and pay my staff a living wage

Edit: This is probably the most controversial comment I ever posted.

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u/Lolovitz Aug 28 '24

Servers don't want your living wage, you won't be profitable enough to pay them the massive amounts they get from tips. Tipping amounts are crazy in USA .

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '24

Yeah, it's a good deal for the servers who can make more in a single shift than the back of house makes all week.

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u/MrPoopMonster Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

When I worked back of the house, if you didn't tip me out i didn't give a fuck about your tables. They could wait for their food until I had no other orders up. If I'm not getting tipped neither are you. And because I was harder to replace guess who got fired if it ever became an issue for the owner. Not me.

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u/TheLateThagSimmons Aug 28 '24

If tipping disappeared overnight and restaurants had to pay a living wage it would be 15-20 an hour in most cases. 30 an hour is a slower Monday for me. We’re fine with the status quo.

Yup.

I understand all the complaints. As a craft cocktail bartender, if tipping went away over night, so would pretty much all of us. Not out of spite, but because it's some pretty respectable pay at the end of the week.

No restaurant could afford to pay us that kind of money.

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u/TheRelevantElephants Aug 28 '24

Bartender here. I average about $40/hr. Why would I ever advocate to have my pay cut in half like so many people in this thread suggest?

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u/Septem_151 Aug 28 '24

Because it puts the pressure of paying wages onto the customer instead of onto your employer. Because it’s the right thing to do, and tip shaming is predatory.

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u/TheRelevantElephants Aug 28 '24

Yeah that’s not a good enough reason for me. I don’t pressure people to leave tips, and they’re optional. You don’t have to but you also don’t need to cheer on cutting my pay so you feel better

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u/Lv_InSaNe_vL Aug 28 '24

But no bar is gonna be able to pay $40/hr. Bars aren't extremely profitable businesses in general, so either the bar is just going to suddenly make no money, or drinks are going to get way more expensive.

How much would you pay for a beer to get rid of tips? We charge $4 for a domestic draft at my bar. Would you pay $6? $8? $12? $15? For a pint of miller?

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 Aug 28 '24

If a business can't pay it's employees a proper wage and stay profitable, it should die. That's capitalism, baby.

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u/Lv_InSaNe_vL Aug 28 '24

You didn't answer my question. We charge $4 for a domestic draft right now.

How much would you pay for a domestic draft in order to eliminate tipping?

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u/Honest-Letterhead949 Aug 29 '24

5$, that would be equal to a 20% tip for the customer

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

Your question is irrelevant. If a business cannot pay its employees a living wage, whilst also providing customers a product at a price they will buy it at, it should die. The market decides it so.

It's not the customers responsibility to eliminate tipping. They will simply eat/drink elsewhere. We're hardly talking about an essential service here.

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u/Lv_InSaNe_vL Aug 28 '24

No, the question of "how much should a restaurant price it's menu items" is incredibly relevant to this question.

You have fixed costs as a business owner, and especially as a restaurant or bar, highly variable revenue.

So I ask again. You, as the customer, how much more would you pay for a beer if it meant getting rid of tipping.

Because the staff still needs to get paid, and the lights still need to stay on, and the liquor still needs refilled. And that money has to come from somewhere.

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 Aug 28 '24

The question isn't relevant because I simply wouldn't buy a beer at the kind of price that they would need to sell it at, to pay their employees a liveable wage. These businesses should not exist.

The business should go under because its not profitable. The owner should eat the loss of their poor investment, and not force their staff to have their living be reliant on the kindness of strangers. The staff should get other jobs at businesses that can keep their own lights on, without exploiting staff.

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u/Ecstatic-Turnip3854 Aug 28 '24

That must be why all the bars are closing so fast….oh. Wait.

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u/Alarming_Comedian846 Aug 28 '24

Well no, they're propped up by tipping. I get it, reading comprehension is hard.

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u/Cactus_Everdeen_ Aug 28 '24

no you don't, that's just what the sticker price says, the real price is MUCH higher.

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u/Eamonsieur Aug 29 '24

A pint of draught beer is typically £8($10) in Scotland and loads of people drink several pints every single night. There are pub chains (i.e. Wetherspoons) that charge less, but the beer they serve is pish water. If there is a demand and the product is good, people can and will pay for it.

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u/Lv_InSaNe_vL Aug 29 '24

Haha our import drafts (things like Guinness and Yuengling (America's oldest brewery) or some reason??) are like $8.

And I guess I've never measured but a draft at my bar looks to be about the same size glass as a pint glass so I'm assuming they're relatively close.

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u/EvelcyclopS Aug 28 '24

Because some people don’t make $40/hr, some people make $5/hr.

If your places customers can afford those levels of tips they can pay for it on the bill which would pay a higher wage for you. Nothing changes

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u/KonigSteve Aug 28 '24

So then waiters should be understanding if I don't tip these ridiculous percentages because they make plenty.

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u/cassova Aug 28 '24

I'm sure working a fancy cocktail bar vs a shitty Applebee's will give you a different perspective. You're being down voted for pushing for system that benefits a few.

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u/GlassyKnees Aug 28 '24

Yup. Theres a lot of people out there telling me how I should make a living, and how my boss is exploiting me, and how I deserve a living wage.

I already make a living wage, with tips.

Hell, I make more than 95% of the people complaining "for me" that I dont make a living wage.

I guess I didnt make ~450 last Friday, not including my hourly. *shrug*

Getting pretty tired of people just looking for an excuse to not tip.

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u/TheRelevantElephants Aug 28 '24

Yeah we should get those real jobs that pay less than what we make!

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u/GlassyKnees Aug 28 '24 edited Aug 28 '24

Thats one of those things that irks me the most.

I got some kid working 9 to 5 in an office for 12 bucks an hour who is absolutely miserable, who is understandably short on money, telling me I should go punch my boss in the mouth and demand to be paid a living wage, when I already make like 45 dollars an hour and get to sit around flirting and drinking 3 nights a week and make twice what he makes.

Brother I already make a living wage and have a fucking awesome job. I love my boss. I love my job. What I dont love, is being told I'm stupid, exploited, my job is easy, my life is so hard, my boss is an evil arch capitalist, and I should quit if I dont like it.

Me and these "End tipping! Pay a living wage!" people live in two different universes.

And absolutely none of them like it when I say "Hey if you're miserable at your office job, you should quit, and become a bartender".

Its wild.

And that they position themselves as some sort of egalitarian left leaning workers rights kind of person, when theyre actually acting like crazy religious conservatives trying to tell everyone else how to live, how to work, whats good for them, and who they should hate.

Just stay home. Its not complicated. They'll have more money, I'll have more fun at work. We all win.

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And like, none of them realize that there are ZERO servers and bartenders in the "End tipping" movement.

How insane would it be if there was a steel plant where all the steel workers and floor managers were happy with their pay and their job, and then thousands of people who have never worked at a steel mill show up with torches and pitchforks to protest the horrible pay and working conditions at the steel mill.

Brother we're fine. If we arent fine, we'll handle it ourselves. And if we cant handle it ourselves, THEN we'll ask for help. Until then, chill the fuck out.

But then you realize, its not about me or anyone in the service industry or trying to improve our lives, its because they just dont want to tip. They want us to be as miserable and underpaid as they are.

How about we start a movement to get all the miserable underpaid people a better lot in life, so they can afford to tip more?! If they make more money, we in the service industry will make more money. I'm 100% on board with them being paid as well as me, and having as much fun at work as I do. Im 100% against me being paid as badly as they are, and being as miserable as they are.

And that said, I'm not tipping at a fucking Walgreens either dawg. I agree thats dumb. I agree there are lots of people underpaid, I agree the minimum wage should come up, I agree there at lot of shitty bosses out there, I agree large companies are trying to pay their workers the absolute bottom of the barrel.

But what the hell does that have to do with stiffing me.

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u/HomestarRunnerdotnet Aug 29 '24

I ain’t reading any of that wall of text. But the fact you typed it out, I respect that.

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u/eeksy227 Aug 29 '24

Tipping is not really optional if you’re heavily pressured to do it, and shamed, interrogated, get mad at, if you don’t. It’s like how mafia “protection money” is “optional” too. It feels like a shakedown every time at a restaurant and it sucks. This whole OP is a photo of a server trying to shame a non-tipper. So understand that although people are voluntarily handing you free money, there’s an underlying mobster-like culture that’s making a lot of them do it (but not always). Those that “happily” tip, or don’t think twice about it, have become so accustomed to the culture that they made themselves believe it’s voluntary, when it’s pure cult brainwashing.

Then there’s the general misunderstanding with what a lot of servers are making, where you see in this thread people are talking about the “poor, hardworking workers not paid a living wage” etc, which is why tipping is a necessary evil. Well if it was well known to all the public that servers make $40-100/hr, while customers make a fraction of that at their own job, then they’ll stop pitying servers and tipping so much.

I’m saying still tip (for now), but 20+% is too much, and a 5-10% tip is more in line with the income to job complexity is worth. Especially since tips are underreported in tax. In many countries, a server making the equivalent of $25/hr is a good wage for what the job entails, and compared to other jobs.

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u/GlassyKnees Aug 29 '24

Ask yourself, why did mafias come into existence in first place. Why were there bootleggers, loan sharks, and protection rackets. What circumstances and realities made those things a viable choice for people. Why did they persist for nearly a century and what ultimately broke their organizations.

Did it just arise out of the ether because people were scummy, or was there a demand they were filling that lent itself to strong arm tactics and protectionism.

Are people tipping out of pity, or to get better service and preferential treatment?

Think about it from my perspective. If I have 5 people walk into the bar, one guy who I know watches the game all evening and throws me 20 bucks to just refill his beer, and 4 people I've never fucking met before who look like tourists, who am I giving the better service to?

No one because its only 5 fucking people. But I'm gonna make sure that one guy is good.

Now imagine that 25 are sitting at the bar. Who the fuck do you think I am constantly making sure has exactly what he wants.

I dont give a fuck what you do in your country, when my country doesnt have a national healthcare system, rent controls, quality public transit, affordable housing, or a solid social safety net.

I'm trying to pay rent, and you idiots are trying to tell me I should make less money.

People who tip egregiously arent brainwashed, they get a literal benefit from it. I am incentivized to make sure it works that way.

It would be super cool if I had retirement, could go to the hospital, bike to a train station and not worry about being homeless. But I cant. I live in America. And no amount of "end tipping" is going to get me anything but paid less and worrying about how to pay my rent.

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u/eeksy227 Aug 29 '24

But there is a cap to how much more attention and preferential treatment you can give to someone in this setting. A big smile, some flirting, priority in taking orders, checking up on them. That might be worth $20 to some, others can do without that and still get the minimal amount of service they came for. The guy paying for better service isn’t technically fair, but I can live with that in the context of the scenario you described. I.e. no-one is really hurt by the tip; it’s not the same as paying off staff to be seated at a full restaurant, which means someone else gets bumped off. But in reality it’s not one guy in a room tipping $20 and the rest nothing, it’s everyone feeling the pressure to tip $10-20. Problems arise; if everyone tipped the same for preferential treatment then no one gets preferential treatment. Then that means they’re not paying for treatment, they’re paying because everyone else is paying, and because not paying gets them grief. So it’s a shakedown.

Egregious tipping isn’t brainwashing. They could be earning a lot so it’s not a lot of money to them, or priority service is more important to them than to other people, or they’re lonely and like the attention/flirting etc. But the general tipping culture is brainwashing in the sense that society thinks it’s normal, when billions of people live outside of the US and don’t think no about tipping the same way the USA does, and hundreds of millions of people actively find it bizarre or offensive to give a tip/accept a tip (see Japan).

Again, not saying to end tipping, just that the tips are too high to make economical sense. The amount of compensation should generally be commensurate with job difficulty. Generally the more difficult or skilled jobs get paid more. Then there’s the factor of how replaceable that employee is; the reason why unskilled labor is lower paid is because there’s a line out the door to replace the worker if they complain. So the different labor and entry requirements for your job means you shouldn’t compare (and say you’re paid double) to much as someone who needed a college degree and years of work experience to luckily land some desk job.

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u/SonderEber Aug 28 '24

It's great if you're one of the lucky ones to get that much, but many servers aren't.