r/doomer • u/Previous-Minute-2871 • 1d ago

I hate how my dreams were crushed and turned into mediocrity

I never knew what I wanted to "be when I grew up", college and work were definitely out of the question, then I discovered a passion for music and drawing, but I just couldn't succeed at it, everything was summed up in mediocrity and things that only I could value, there is no difference between my art and jerking off, nothing, my art is worth the same as a cumshot.

Unfortunately, this world is a lottery, a gamble, it all comes down to genetics, if you weren't born with the right one, forget about the effort, it's over.

I try to live my life in peace but this bitterness just won't stop, it sucks to know that you're going to be a mediocre nobody until the day you die unless by a divine miracle.

Life is a pathetic thing for the average person, only stupid normies can deal with it with all that bullshit they believe.

And don't even get me started on the merits of being below average, geez...

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u/Reddituser8018 1d ago edited 23h ago

I never shot for the stars, I've always shot for a semi comfortable life where I can do my hobbies.

It would be cool to really follow my dreams but I know it's just completely unrealistic and not worth doing.

But I could maybe achieve a middle class life with a good work life balance where I can do my hobbies, have a wife and kids. Anyone can realistically achieve that with enough work, but it's still going to be mediocre. You will still have to do a 9-5 doing some shit you hate every day wondering where the time is going.

Only to be old and in pain finally about to get a break except you are now to old to do anything.

I realise that in reality, I'll only have about 25% or less of my life to spend doing what I actually enjoy doing. Just gotta accept that's a fact, that your dreams are dead and find some happiness in that 25%

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u/yeggha9 22h ago

Me too

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u/Head_Caliguila728 8h ago

Same with me just my dreams were lil different. Rest same as you.

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u/BreathsBand 4h ago

I toured and tried to make a living from music, my passion for almost 15 years (ages 16 - 29). I opened up for huge bands, had label showcases and thought my band was next up to get signed and ‘make it’. That happened through 2 different bands, 3 times total (long story). After the last one I was so jaded and I had been trying to fit a mold of what it took to ‘make it’ for so long I just had to walk away. I barely picked up a guitar for almost a decade, finished college, entered the professional world (whatever that means) and eventually met my wife and started a family.

I thought that was it for my passion, it was buried deep and ate at me everyday. But then my wife suggested I look for a band when we moved to a new city, see how that went (2018) and now in almost 2025 I’ve got a solo project (Breaths) and have released records with multiple labels with that and my alt rock project Roseneath. More recently (about a year ago) I put together a new live band and am playing with bands I love (again), but without the pressure of it being successful. I have a great career (which I don’t love but it allows me to finance my life, family, hobbies, etc.) and I’m creating the best music of my life at almost 43.

TLDR: life is crazy, it has ups and downs but don’t forget your passion. Also don’t rely on it for financial success, do it because you can’t not do it…because you’d go crazy without it (like I almost did).