r/confidence • u/Akashh23_pop • 5d ago

How do you fix your low-self esteem?

I think part of reason I seem to lack confidence is because I have low self esteem and I think this problem has occurred because I've never really challenged myself and accepted defeat easily. I also didn't go outside comfort zone. I seem to put off tasks and worry all day instead of doing something about it.

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u/MathematicianSlow183 4d ago

For me it was the realization that the vast majority of people are just thinking about themselves. Which I was guilty of as well. All I needed was to realize this and then I could argue away the anxiety.

Basically realized no one is thinking about me but me. No one is laughing at me except for me. No one remembers the stupid shot I've done but me. So it's just me that is holding me back. My low self esteem is because of how I think about myself.

So fuck that. I am allowed to think whatever the fuck i want about myself. If I want to hype myself up I can. If I want to say hi, how's your day to that hot barista just to be nice then I can. If I want to smile at a stranger as I pass by on the sidewalk then I can. If I want to try something I have never tried then why the hell not? Cause I might fail? As I have realized I am the only one that would care i failed. No one else. And that is something I want to care less about. So I go for it.