r/cats 1d ago

Mourning/Loss Vet is coming in the morning... 🥲

My boy was unwell recently and had antibiotics. He's had tummy issues before which recurred with the meds. He was doing OK, not eating me out of house and home like normal but taking food. Then on Monday, he went off his food completely.

Appetite stimulants didn't work like usual so I've been syringe feeding him since Tuesday night. But today he really started kicking off about it and I didn't want to force him if he didn't want it.

On one hand I wanted him to rally; on the other he could come good only for this to recur again, except then I wouldn't be off work like I am now and able to care for/be with him.

My sister came over just now and said he seems checked out mentally. Even since yesterday he's lost a bit of his sass and spark.

I just got off the phone with the mobile vet; he's coming in the morning. I know logically it's the right thing to do but I'm trying to not fixate and just cry all night so I don't stress him out.

I wish I didn't know the exact time the vet was coming, but I also don't want to drag it out.

I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just venting, I just hope he can go peacefully and I'm not doing it too soon. He's over 18, a rescue, and he almost died two years ago (suspected a cancer) but he pulled through so yes we got bonus time. But it still hurts

His name is Roger 💗 and he is the bestest old boi 😭

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u/TinyAdmin 1d ago edited 1d ago

I feel for you. I just had to put my 14 year old kitty down a little over 2 weeks ago. She was battling Chronic Pancreatitis among other health issues. After 6 months of health struggles and thousands of dollars in vet bills without improvement, it was time. I’m here to say that you just know when it’s time for them to pass peacefully. You see their personality change and you see them struggle. It’s not the life they want, and you don’t wish low quality of life for them either.

Please know you’re doing the right thing. Roger knows he was loved. The kindest thing you can do for him is just let him go without pain.

Saying goodbye, if only temporarily, is the absolute worst part about owning a pet. But, it’s worth it when you factor in all the love they’ve given over the years! Hugs. ❤️

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u/Jetsetter_Princess 16h ago

Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss too. What's your kitty's name?

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u/TinyAdmin 16h ago

Her name was Cocoa, but we always called her Cocoa Bean or Miss Bean. She was a calico. My husband and I brought her home as an 8 week old kitten after my aunt discovered a litter of kittens had been born in her horse barn. She was part of our family her entire life before saying goodbye!

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u/Jetsetter_Princess 16h ago

Pretty Cocoa. I'm sure she's over 🌈 knowing what great humans she had 💗

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u/TinyAdmin 15h ago

🥹 Thank you. I know your Roger is at the rainbow bridge 🌈 thinking the same thing. Hugs to you as you navigate life without your special friend. May all your pictures and memories be a source of comfort to lean on while you grieve!