r/cats 1d ago

Mourning/Loss Vet is coming in the morning... 🥲

My boy was unwell recently and had antibiotics. He's had tummy issues before which recurred with the meds. He was doing OK, not eating me out of house and home like normal but taking food. Then on Monday, he went off his food completely.

Appetite stimulants didn't work like usual so I've been syringe feeding him since Tuesday night. But today he really started kicking off about it and I didn't want to force him if he didn't want it.

On one hand I wanted him to rally; on the other he could come good only for this to recur again, except then I wouldn't be off work like I am now and able to care for/be with him.

My sister came over just now and said he seems checked out mentally. Even since yesterday he's lost a bit of his sass and spark.

I just got off the phone with the mobile vet; he's coming in the morning. I know logically it's the right thing to do but I'm trying to not fixate and just cry all night so I don't stress him out.

I wish I didn't know the exact time the vet was coming, but I also don't want to drag it out.

I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just venting, I just hope he can go peacefully and I'm not doing it too soon. He's over 18, a rescue, and he almost died two years ago (suspected a cancer) but he pulled through so yes we got bonus time. But it still hurts

His name is Roger 💗 and he is the bestest old boi 😭

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u/Froggienp 1d ago

If you can see the need, it is NEVER too soon. Cats hide their discomfort and pain very well. I had a very good vet tell me that by the time we realize/decide it’s usually time or past time - holding on longer becomes for us, not them.

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u/Jetsetter_Princess 16h ago

I didn't want it to be about me, only him 💔