r/cats 1d ago

Mourning/Loss Vet is coming in the morning... 🥲

My boy was unwell recently and had antibiotics. He's had tummy issues before which recurred with the meds. He was doing OK, not eating me out of house and home like normal but taking food. Then on Monday, he went off his food completely.

Appetite stimulants didn't work like usual so I've been syringe feeding him since Tuesday night. But today he really started kicking off about it and I didn't want to force him if he didn't want it.

On one hand I wanted him to rally; on the other he could come good only for this to recur again, except then I wouldn't be off work like I am now and able to care for/be with him.

My sister came over just now and said he seems checked out mentally. Even since yesterday he's lost a bit of his sass and spark.

I just got off the phone with the mobile vet; he's coming in the morning. I know logically it's the right thing to do but I'm trying to not fixate and just cry all night so I don't stress him out.

I wish I didn't know the exact time the vet was coming, but I also don't want to drag it out.

I don't know if I'm asking for advice or just venting, I just hope he can go peacefully and I'm not doing it too soon. He's over 18, a rescue, and he almost died two years ago (suspected a cancer) but he pulled through so yes we got bonus time. But it still hurts

His name is Roger 💗 and he is the bestest old boi 😭

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u/13Warhound13 1d ago

I am truly sorry. Roger is a beautiful cat. In 2016 I had to have my cat Eddie put to sleep. It was the longest 10 minute drive to the vet but was a kindness before he got worse. It really will hurt but if you do it now he will be at peace sooner. Letting it go on for another few days would be worse for you both. In time it won’t be as bad but you had each other after he was rescued.

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u/Jetsetter_Princess 1d ago

Thanks. I just have to remind myself the shelter probably wouldn't have backed him as long as I did

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u/13Warhound13 1d ago

It’s not easy but if he had a cosy and happy life it would be better than the shelter. It was nice to see him dressed up as he looked happy there.

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u/Jetsetter_Princess 1d ago

When I got him at the shelter, he grabbed onto me and wouldn't let go. Now it's me who doesn't want to let go 😭

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u/13Warhound13 1d ago

He chose you. They say cats choose their owners. Eddie did that to me and knew before I did that we were going to be friends. Letting go is not easy but if he is at peace it may help you feel a little bit better the next few days.