r/calmhands • u/LibraryNo6479 • 4d ago
Need Advice Help NSFW
Well I relapsed again never this bad in my life and I don’t know if my nails will grow back or even if properly because I’ve cut down to almost no nail and it’s grown back but this is new to me and the pain is bad it feels like a ingrown toenail is there and throbbing all over
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u/anxiousassmf 4d ago
My toes hurt for you. Can you get to a doctor? Keep them clean. You don't want an infection. Other than basic pain relievers, keeping your feet above your heart will help a bit.
Editing to add, it looks like you may have a fungal infection based on your post about a month ago, a doctor will be able to tell you more
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u/LibraryNo6479 4d ago
I went last time and they said I had nothing at all and just gave me an anti infection just in case and I knew it was fungal so I guess imma just get some anti fungal cream and put it on everyday with a bandage and stuff
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u/GearboxTheGrey 3d ago
No you should go to a doctor this can get infected really bad and your doctor might be able to help with the pain. Don't put anti fungal cream on it just because as this is not a fungal issue.
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u/LibraryNo6479 2d ago
So infected = cooked great well I went to the doctor n they gave me a super strong antibiotic ointment
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u/No_Host_3345 3d ago
ugh seriously i am so sorry. this hurts to look at. i am so so sorry youre going through this. i can promise you- healing is possible and you have the strength to pull through in this. i am finally wearing color nail polish on my nails after YEARS of having bloody nubs close to yours.
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u/Substantial_Quail161 3d ago
my boyfriend does this to himself as well. can you tell me why you do this to your toenails? i wanna get some understanding why someone would do this. my bf is embarrassed by it but wont stop. maybe if i knew a deeper meaning to this i can help him. i’ve asked him why he does it and he just says he’s been doing it all his life.
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u/LibraryNo6479 2d ago
I don’t even know I just been doing this my whole life as well like since elementary school and I still bite my fingernails like If it “doesn’t feel right” “doesn’t look right” “uneven” yada yada yada but I don’t know if it has to do with anything else I got like adhd and just a bad habit that I constantly go through which is a negative feedback loop that I want and don’t want to break
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u/LibraryNo6479 4d ago
The pain is so bad how do I get it to stop
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u/SickStrawberries 4d ago
Go back to your doctor ask for further help, maybe even pain medication. You said before that you likely had a fungal infection but now you need to know if it is safe to use this medication on open wounds like this.
Bandage these up and do as little as possible to irritate the wounds. If it means you need to take time off work, then you may need to do that.
Finally, look up what mental health services are available in your area with availability and book an appointment. You are self-harming and need additional support.
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u/why_not_bort 2d ago
I’ve made my toenails look like this before, more than once. It hurt really bad.
The only thing that got me to stop was, honestly, focusing on picking other parts of my body (like my scalp). It’s been like two years, and my toenails have all grown back and look normal. But I still get intense urges to do this to them again. I don’t know if the urges will ever go away.
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u/sora_fighter36 2d ago
Please talk to a doctor to ensure your wounds heal safely. Please talk to a therapist who might help you figure out what causes you to engage in these patterns that aren’t serving you well
They can also help you figure out things to do instead
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u/Silent-Flower-2483 1d ago
Have you tried getting on anxiety or adhd medication? Have you talked to a psychiatrist?
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u/LibraryNo6479 7h ago
Yes I got adhd meds but it kinda helps like eh cause sometimes I don’t want to help myself an then I regret it but I still do it
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u/ElectricPlanchette 4d ago
Dawg this needs an NSFW tag or a warning or SOMETHING