r/breastfeeding • u/Forsaken_Willow22 • 2d ago

Christmas ruined over breastfeeding

Just a rant - I’ve had some supply issues in the beginning. Baby was full term but just tiny and while she had a good latch it just took her a while to get strong enough to empty the breast.

While waiting for her to get strong enough on her own (which she is now yay!!!) I’ve cried many times, had to supplement, and even paid $$$$ to see a lactation consultant. So it’s been a journey.

We are finally to a place where she ebf except getting one bottle a day around 5pm because baby daddy wants to have that bond with her. I rarely pump because I hate it so I just do my own thing.

Cue yesterday - we get up and he immediately wants to give her a bottle… I had just fed her!! She wasn’t hungry. She wasn’t fussy. She was fine. So I tell him she’s fine and doesn’t need one. He lost it and said I’m just controlling. I swear I don’t understand why there’s gotta be so much drama with breastfeeding. I’m sure if she was exclusively bottle fed there would still be drama. It’s so stupid. Thanks for listening lol

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u/teacherlady4846 2d ago

Hugs.

I got nap trapped until 11 am and had already fed my 3 month old 3 times that morning by the time I was able to go downstairs in my parents' house. I was FAMISHED. Like truly out of my mind hungry, but I knew if I didn't let my little one nap on me he'd be really cranky. So I'm finally able to get a snack and my mom yelled at me I had to wait: "we waited all morning for you, it's super rude that you would just take something before we're ready for breakfast" and I just started crying because they truly don't understand, like it was actually painful how hungry I was.

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u/Open-Mousse8072 1d ago

My husband doesn't understand the appetite that comes with breastfeeding. When my son was a newborn I was ravenous. He kept expressing concern at the amount I was eating. Keep in mind it was things like avocado toast, veggies, protein bars or smaller servings of meals we had made not chips, candy and junk. If it was I could understand. I told him I'm losing weight with how much I'm producing for him to eat if I don't eat enough nutrients the quality of my milk will suffer. Not to mention how offended I was that he had said anything to begin with on something he doesn't understand.

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u/teacherlady4846 1d ago

Yeah I'm a slim person with a normally big appetite, so my appetite now just seems outrageous. Like easily 3000-4000 calories a day. I'm also nearly 6 feet tall whereas my mom is 5'3"

I've literally got back in my pre-pregnancy clothes about a week postpartum but my mom is always like "you're hungry again??" YES.