r/breastfeeding • u/Forsaken_Willow22 • 2d ago

Christmas ruined over breastfeeding

Just a rant - I’ve had some supply issues in the beginning. Baby was full term but just tiny and while she had a good latch it just took her a while to get strong enough to empty the breast.

While waiting for her to get strong enough on her own (which she is now yay!!!) I’ve cried many times, had to supplement, and even paid $$$$ to see a lactation consultant. So it’s been a journey.

We are finally to a place where she ebf except getting one bottle a day around 5pm because baby daddy wants to have that bond with her. I rarely pump because I hate it so I just do my own thing.

Cue yesterday - we get up and he immediately wants to give her a bottle… I had just fed her!! She wasn’t hungry. She wasn’t fussy. She was fine. So I tell him she’s fine and doesn’t need one. He lost it and said I’m just controlling. I swear I don’t understand why there’s gotta be so much drama with breastfeeding. I’m sure if she was exclusively bottle fed there would still be drama. It’s so stupid. Thanks for listening lol

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u/lazybb_ck 2d ago

There are so many other ways that dad can bond with the baby other than feeding a bottle.

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u/frogsgoribbit737 1d ago

While I agree, many people here emphasize the bond they feel while breastfeeding so if you feel that way I do think its messed up to not allow the father of the baby to feel some of that too.

I don't personally feel that breastfeeding is more bonding than bottlefeeding (ive done both) though so I do think the whole argument is pretty sillt.

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u/derelictthot 1d ago

Ive done both too and in my opinion breastfeeding is totally unique, not greater but absolutely different, a hormonal, physical and psychological connection. He gives baby a bottle so he can bond that way every day, obviously it's important for dad to bond with the baby too but comparing the two bonds is apples and oranges, that's why people say there's other ways for dads to bond with the baby, so forcing a feed when there is no need for one and then getting aggressive with his wife over it is literally pointless and not okay.