r/breastfeeding • u/Forsaken_Willow22 • 2d ago

Christmas ruined over breastfeeding

Just a rant - I’ve had some supply issues in the beginning. Baby was full term but just tiny and while she had a good latch it just took her a while to get strong enough to empty the breast.

While waiting for her to get strong enough on her own (which she is now yay!!!) I’ve cried many times, had to supplement, and even paid $$$$ to see a lactation consultant. So it’s been a journey.

We are finally to a place where she ebf except getting one bottle a day around 5pm because baby daddy wants to have that bond with her. I rarely pump because I hate it so I just do my own thing.

Cue yesterday - we get up and he immediately wants to give her a bottle… I had just fed her!! She wasn’t hungry. She wasn’t fussy. She was fine. So I tell him she’s fine and doesn’t need one. He lost it and said I’m just controlling. I swear I don’t understand why there’s gotta be so much drama with breastfeeding. I’m sure if she was exclusively bottle fed there would still be drama. It’s so stupid. Thanks for listening lol

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u/Sareya 2d ago

IF your baby’s father is not normally a hard headed asshole, give him some grace. He’s probably stressed and sleep deprived too. If this is a common occurrence then you may need to muscle up some strength to tell him off.

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u/Forsaken_Willow22 2d ago

He’s only hard headed about this. Otherwise he’s an amazing dad. I truly think he just loves her so much and has anxiety constantly. So he’s just worried she’s not eating enough but can’t rationalize that she CAN and DOES communicate when she’s hungry.