r/breastfeeding • u/Forsaken_Willow22 • 2d ago

Christmas ruined over breastfeeding

Just a rant - I’ve had some supply issues in the beginning. Baby was full term but just tiny and while she had a good latch it just took her a while to get strong enough to empty the breast.

While waiting for her to get strong enough on her own (which she is now yay!!!) I’ve cried many times, had to supplement, and even paid $$$$ to see a lactation consultant. So it’s been a journey.

We are finally to a place where she ebf except getting one bottle a day around 5pm because baby daddy wants to have that bond with her. I rarely pump because I hate it so I just do my own thing.

Cue yesterday - we get up and he immediately wants to give her a bottle… I had just fed her!! She wasn’t hungry. She wasn’t fussy. She was fine. So I tell him she’s fine and doesn’t need one. He lost it and said I’m just controlling. I swear I don’t understand why there’s gotta be so much drama with breastfeeding. I’m sure if she was exclusively bottle fed there would still be drama. It’s so stupid. Thanks for listening lol

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u/Forsaken_Willow22 2d ago

This too!! We’re almost 5 months in and she FINALLY goes 2-3 hours between feeds but by time she got up from her first nap I was ravenous! Hadn’t eaten anything. Like I don’t get why they don’t understand.. especially moms. I guess they don’t remember what it was like to have a baby??

At least it’s over now!

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u/teacherlady4846 2d ago

My mom formula fed and I know she can be a bit sensitive about it so it took everything in me to not make a bitchy comment that she wouldn't understand what breastfeeding hunger is like. Mostly I can't stand being yelled at, I got yelled at a lot as a kid and now that I'm 30 it infuriates me to be treated like a child

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u/Forsaken_Willow22 2d ago edited 2d ago

Thankfully, my own mother doesn’t do that. But his mom does. she breast-fed for two months and then switched to formula. she loves to tell me “ that’s not normal” about anything breast-feeding related. And I’m like you have no idea what’s normal and what’s not.

Edited to fix typos.

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u/teacherlady4846 2d ago

Damn, I'm sorry. My MIL BF all four of her kids, the last one until she was 3 years old, so she's very understanding