r/aspergers • u/sleepyamnesiaa • 20h ago

Reluctance towards family

Hi I know it's sound maybe mean.. but I don't want to look like I'm mean.. I like my family, but I feel so much distance of them.. like I only love my mom and I know she's good and safe person. But being with my family for holidays is always like being with strangers.. I don't know why I feel like this.. I don't want to be mean really, but I just don't even talk with them so much at holidays (they don't like to talk with me and I'm too scared to join in the conversation) I'm so curious if anyone of u have it too, so please tell me in comment, thanks and have nice day c::

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u/heyitscory 20h ago

If they don't make you feel liked, you don't have to feel bad for not being excited to see them

They treat you like an obligation instead of someone they want to be around, and regardless of how you feel about it, you're making the effort to be there.

Are you asking for permission to spend less time with them?

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u/sleepyamnesiaa 20h ago

I asked my mom, but she said that okay, okay.. and then we still spend much more time:// But I'll remind her next time

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u/heyitscory 20h ago

You're not your own ride?

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u/sleepyamnesiaa 20h ago

I mean I live with mom I have 18yr, and when I say that I don't want to go and she can say that I'm sick she said that no and yell at me so nope