Welp, I'm pissed

[u/AshBasil]

I work in a group home for disabled clients. At a house meeting a few months ago, my boss said something transphobic so a coworker and I (both trans) walked out of the meeting.

After walking-out, I texted her and politely let her know that it wasn't appropriate, which she was very coy about. Instead of growing as a person and doing better, she talked shit about me to (at least one) coworker, who proceeded to make a fake Facebook account and attack me online.

Because of this, I reported her to admin and HR, who promised they handled the issue. That's whatever, but this coworker is being such a dick that it's making work a very toxic environment.

Then tonight comes around (I work graveyards) and my shift partner called out for the evening for a medical emergency. Boss did not even try to find me relief and when I called her thismorning to ask if I would get any help with the hardest part of my shift, she caught herself in a lie and lied further. She said she didn't think that she could find anyone that late and then said that she couldn't get anyone that late. Multiple coworkers have let me know they were never contacted and that they totally would have helped me.

I'm so done with her bullshit.

[u/No_Consideration3145]

Ugh, I hate transphobes at work. During the pandemic I had a job where we were all still telecommuting, but we would all have a brief staff meeting on Zoom to divide up the work every morning. Well, ignorant mid-level manager gets going on transphobic bullshit with ignorant low-level manager, and they go back and forth for a good few minutes because some policies are changing to be more trans-friendly.

Now I would be mad about this regardless, but it also happens that my oldest child is transgender. I was too gob-smacked to say anything at the moment, and we weren't on camera so they didn't realize I was upset. But I made sure to confront them both the next day. They were both all "wow, I don't remember what was said, but I am sorry." Which thanks - but we shouldn't be in this situation where you would HAVE to apologize. Also, they may not remember what was said but I could give it to you line by line to this very day.

Ignorant low-level manager used to make fun of one coworker's accent, too - she was from South America. Mid-level manager, high-level manager, and HR were all aware of that. They did nothing.

It was very satisfying to leave that place behind. My current workplace is very queer-friendly, and I spent the next June wearing rainbow every single day for Pride Month.

I also later heard from another coworker that ignorant low-level manager was bitching about me later, saying I was on their "shit list." 1) You are on MY shit list, to the point that 2) I have spoken to HR and the union about you, 3) you are saying that to a brand new employee you are actively training, WTF is wrong with you?

You know, just, fuck that boss of yours. I know what people get paid to work in those residences, and it isn't enough for the basic level of work that is asked of you. You CERTAINLY aren't getting paid enough to also put up with her bullshit (because numbers don't go that high).