r/antiwork • u/AshBasil • Oct 07 '24

Rant 😡💢 Welp, I'm pissed

I work in a group home for disabled clients. At a house meeting a few months ago, my boss said something transphobic so a coworker and I (both trans) walked out of the meeting.

After walking-out, I texted her and politely let her know that it wasn't appropriate, which she was very coy about. Instead of growing as a person and doing better, she talked shit about me to (at least one) coworker, who proceeded to make a fake Facebook account and attack me online.

Because of this, I reported her to admin and HR, who promised they handled the issue. That's whatever, but this coworker is being such a dick that it's making work a very toxic environment.

Then tonight comes around (I work graveyards) and my shift partner called out for the evening for a medical emergency. Boss did not even try to find me relief and when I called her thismorning to ask if I would get any help with the hardest part of my shift, she caught herself in a lie and lied further. She said she didn't think that she could find anyone that late and then said that she couldn't get anyone that late. Multiple coworkers have let me know they were never contacted and that they totally would have helped me.

I'm so done with her bullshit.

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u/CringeCityBB Oct 07 '24

I'm confused. How do you know that the coworker who is attacking you got the info from the manager? Like do you have proof the manager talked shit to the co-worker and was involved in some way in making this account to harass you?

If there's some kind of proof, might be worth going to a lawyer. If it's just conjecture, is it possible the manager is just an idiot who doesn't want to admit to micro aggressions?

Might just be worth finding a new place at this point cuz these people sound crazy.

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u/AshBasil Oct 07 '24

That's an issue. I brought the situation up to the boss directly and then was threatened about it online via a fake account. It was either 1 - the boss, or 2 - the coworker who began actively hating me and making work a toxic environment after that moment. It's easy to infer that it's one of them.

Either way you look at it, however, the boss fucked up big time. The two of them are very close and she either attacked me or he did after she told him about it. Nobody else who works in the group home is that stupid.

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u/CringeCityBB Oct 07 '24

But wouldn't the co-worker know about it because you got up and walked out after something was said? Like, I don't have any idea what was said, but I would think it's obvious that whatever was said was a trans issue when the two trans people get up and leave after it was said in front of everyone.

I dunno, you know it still might be worth talking to a lawyer because you never know what stupid things someone will say when being questioned by an attorney. But they usually want things to be pretty unquestionable. It's hard to get a manager in trouble for what another person does. But hr refusing to do anything is pretty significant.

Might also be that the manager just confided in this person that you confronted them and the manager wanted some kind of "oh, you didn't say anything bad" but the co-worker took it to the next level for political belief reasons.

Either way, no one should be harassed at their job. Sorry this is going on. I know how stressful it is and how shitty it makes your life from personal experience!