Really struggling finding my place in my bumper group. There are some loss parents, but way more naive non-loss parents. Seeing a first time mom set up the crib at 6 weeks pregnant 😶 My group had a “mantra” question, like what mantra are you using to get you through this first few weeks? Someone’s way “you aren’t special enough to be a statistical anomaly, calm down.”

And that make me feel like shit! Wow am I special then because my daughter died 😇🖕🏻

Feeling some pregnancy rage today!

Im wondering how many DPO others got false negative pregnancy tests followed by a positive. Does anyone have stories of getting false negatives followed by a positive 13 DPO or more?

Trying to keep some hope alive I may be pregnant. I had a MMC at 8 weeks in august and TTC this past cycle. I started my period on October 5th and have had some mild cramping for last week and intense mood swings. I usually have 28 day cycles, but I didn’t get a positive LH surge test till day 16. I’m now on day 28 of my cycle and testing negative on pregnancy tests but also my period hasn’t started. I know I just need to wait. But I’m wondering what the chances are that either an intense period is on its way or I’m pregnant and just had a late ovulation so it’s going to take a while to get a positive test.

Thank you!

I’m on my 3rd loss and I’m just curious how many losses everyone has had before their rainbow baby?

TW- miscarriage/D&C/natural MC (that’s why I marked NSFW)

Hi all! I’ve had 2 MCs this year. One in Dec, this was a natural MC and I was only like ~4.5-5 weeks along. I then got pregnant the cycle immediately following it and lost that one. It was an MMC so we didn’t find out until 9w3d but it had stopped growing at 6w1d. I tried miso and it failed so I had a D&C around mid March. We’re now trying again and haven’t had luck. I tracked my LH last cycle and had a surge but then didn’t get pregnant. So, how long did it take you all after a D&C to get pregnant? What is your advice? This may not be the sub for this, but I feel like it’s the best place for it.. feel free to delete if not for here. I’m just stressing now that’s never going to happen again. So again, any advice or insight is helpful!

— also, sorry it’s tagged as Intro.. I didn’t know what else to tag and it’s required so I just picked that one. Haha!

update! I ended up concieving the first cycle after my loss. thank you all so much for your responses. & to those reading this later after experiencing the same - have hope it’s coming!💓🌈

just curious! I had my loss Dec 1st and still have a very small amount of HCG in my system (less than 5). I read that it’s common for women to get pregnant relatively quickly after miscarriage. just curious if any of you had such luck. just need some positive stories. I lost my baby at 8w 2d (MMC.) currently 3dpo and hopeful!

I have PCOS and so my cycle lengths vary. This past cycle, I ovulated on day 25 and today got a faint positive a few days ahead of my missed period (yes, I know this is still early days and am bracing myself for chemical - let’s put that aside for now ☺️).

I am wondering: 1. Does late ovulation affect egg quality? 2. Has anyone ovulated late and still gone on to have a healthy pregnancy and birth? 3. For those with PCOS, did you take progesterone early on pregnancy to support chances of a viable one?

In case this is relevant, I have 1 living child and my miscarriage (Dec 2023) was after her and before this one. Thank you!

I’ve had this feeling of absolute dread the last few days, and sure enough here I am. Facing down something super bad. I went pee last night, and when I was done peeing, a small gush of something came out. It was not a lot, but enough to make me go “what was that”. When I went pee again later, I noticed a drip coming definitely not where I pee. It’s been absolute torture of a night, I can’t tell if I’m still leaking anything. Everything I’m reading is not good. My drs opens here in about an hour. I’m shaking, throwing up, it’s awful. Has this ever happened to anyone and things been ok?

I had a MC in May and am now 5 weeks + 3 days pregnant again. I know its still early and my opinion may change, but I'm seriously considering not telling anyone about this pregnancy (if we make it past the first trimester) to anyone outside of my sister, mom and 2 close girlfriends. Unfortunately many who knew about our miscarriage either weren't supportive, or said incredibly hurtful things in response. I'm already terrified to lose this pregnancy as well, but now in addition to that Im finding myself feeling protective over this pregnancy and want to keep it very private. What have other people done? Did you have a baby shower? Did you announce and if so, when?

I hope this post is allowed here. I was removed from a TTC sub for asking for advice from women who were TTC? Lol

Anyway.

TW: Loss

My husband and I decided to try for our first baby in March. To our surprise, we got pregnant right away. I couldn’t believe it. Unfortunately, I miscarried around 12 weeks in May. I decided we would wait 1 cycle before trying again, to make sure we were both up for it and to see if my body regulated itself well. Again to my surprise, my period came like clock work and appeared to be the same as it was pre-pregnancy/loss (4 day cycle, light/no bleeding on last 2 days). Ive tracked my ovulation for my next two cycles (that also appear to be very regular) and made sure to baby dance a lot during my peak fertility. I’m in the middle of my third cycle now, am 11DPO and it’s appearing we are not pregnant again after our second month of trying. I have noticed I don’t appear to be having EWCM during these last two cycles. I know it can normally take several months of trying, I guess I thought because my doctors told me I would be more fertile after my D&C and it was so easy the first time that maybe I’d get pregnant again right away. Genuinely asking if anyone had a similar experience and still conceived or if they ended up being diagnosed with some form of infertility? Not too concerned as of now, but it’s been on my mind and I wanted to get others thoughts or hear about their experiences. Thank you!

I don’t feel ready to buy anything yet (only 7 weeks) but I was in target with my husband and I figured I would try to look at clothes and see how it went. Well it went horribly. My stomach dropped and I started to cry and had to leave the section. I feel like I won’t be ready to buy anything until I’m like 38 weeks or something 😞😢

Posting from a new account, as people IRL know my other one and don’t know about this pregnancy.

I had a MMC at the end of August, tried two rounds of miso, nothing happened, had a D&C. My doctor told us to wait one cycle to start trying, but alluded to the fact that if it took awhile for my period to come back to not feel like we had to wait.

I was tracking OPKs once I had a negative HPT for the sake of avoiding, but realistically we were not being super cautious, and I just found out a few days ago that I’m pregnant - so basically six weeks from d&c to the positive test.

Obviously I’m cautiously excited, but also having intrusive thoughts about how I was supposed to wait until after my period and things might be more likely to go wrong etc etc etc.

I guess I’m just looking for any type of reassurance (positive stories of conceiving before period) or advice on how to calm my brain.

Over the last week I have had a few instances of brown discharge, that is thick with some sort of tissue. Then it goes away. This has happened 3 times. No red bleeding, and always happens after a cervix check, sex, or orgasm. I’ve gotten a dye stealer, I have the craziest symptoms.. and had just started to get excited. I know the tissue is the most concerning part - but CAN this be ok?

I have had 2 losses, both in IVF pregnancies, and I’m scared for the next pregnancy there will be very little joy and only anxiety. How have people managed to make pregnancy after loss joyful, esp if you don’t have any living children?

Have had three miscarriages since June 2021, and am now 30 weeks and change into my 4th pregnancy over here. Baby seems healthy and I remain relatively low risk asides from a few minor things, so I’m very grateful for those facts. I’ve been a long time lurker and grateful for this sub so I haven’t felt so alone IRL.

Anyways- just came in to share/vent. Tonight my husband and I did a birth prep class offered by the hospital online. Everyone was asked to type in the chat box a brief intro: their names, if this was first pregnancy, if boy or girl, and when we were due. After a long line of people saying “first pregnancy” and a like ❤️ of each intro, when I wrote “fourth pregnancy, but first child”…radio silence. And then there was no more responses to others’ intros.

I understand there can be a lot of reasons for that lack of similar excited response, but just wanted to share what happened with a community that understands how it felt to me. It already sucks to be labeled with recurrent pregnancy loss, and it has also sucked to be saddled with processing extra feelings of bitterness/ anxiety/ fear during this pregnancy. I’ve not shared on social media. I’ve not found out the gender. I was even scared to have a baby shower for a long time and then felt weird about it since I hadn’t told most people still. I finally felt ok about inviting close friends last minute, but it’s too late for most of them to come now.

I could have pretended this was my first, but that feels like a big lie. I also recognize it’s not that deep lol emoji reactions to intros in a chat box 🤪 and that third tri is full of lots of emotions. But man, that was another tiny little reminder of how this journey of mine has been so different than most others’. ❤️‍🩹

I’m exactly 6 weeks tomorrow. I had a MMC in April, discovered at the 8 weeks ultrasound, and had to get a D&C. Now I’m pregnant again, and I can’t stop wondering if I’ll have another MMC. Im 6 weeks, and while that’s still early, I have zero pregnancy symptoms. No nausea, no fatigue, no cravings, nothing. Maybe my boobs are a little bigger. When I had the MMC it was the same, barely had any symptoms.

Did you guys have more than one MMC? What are the odds of that to happen? My first ultrasound with this pregnancy is in two weeks, and im so anxious.

Thanks.

I have been trying to conceive for the last four months now for baby #2. I got pregnant right away with my first no problem and no pregnancy complications. I have now gone through 3 chemical pregnancies in the last 3 months. My doctor did check progesterone and that was normal during my second loss. I ended up taking baby aspirin for my last cycle and that didn’t work. I’m still taking baby aspirin, vitamin b6 and a prenatal. I’m now going to add vitamin d, CoQ10, acupuncture, and a progesterone cream. I cannot get into the fertility doctor until after this cycle since my hcg was higher this time. They advised to take this month off and then start their tests the next month. Part of me doesn’t want to wait and miss out on another month. Im also 35 and husband is 41. I am wondering what I should do or if anyone has experienced similar situations?

When you had your losses, did you have a feeling? Like a 6th sense.

I’m not talking about symptoms. I’m talking, just a feeling.

I’m 15+3 after 2 16 week losses last year. I don’t know if it’s my anxiety or an intuition I’m having but I just feel like baby isn’t okay.

Update. I just listened to her heartbeat on my at home Doppler. It was 145bpm. (It was 150’s last week) Part of me wants to relax and celebrate but then the other part of me keeps expecting the worst

I know these at home dopplers aren’t completely accurate and I feel a lot better BUT I remember that with my second loss last year, his heart rate was 156 one day 88 the next and then gone the next.

I’m not sure why I keep venting here, whatever happens, happens I get that. I just can’t stop spiraling.

I had a D&C two days ago for an anembryonic (blighted ovum) pregnancy at 6.5 weeks. (Non-viability was confirmed very early due to low, plateaued HCG and plummeting progesterone.)
My partner and I are both 31 years old, and we conceived on our first try, which felt so freakishly lucky we couldn't believe it. Then all of this happened, and now I'm trying to sort out my mind about trying again, despite a total absence of concrete medical data on how long one should wait after a D&C. (Our doctor says we can start trying whenever we're ready, including before a period comes, but I know that views vary wildly.)
So, for anyone up to share, I'd love to know: When did you start trying after your D&C? How many cycles did you try before you conceived again? How did that pregnancy go?
Thanks in advance to this community xx

Hello. I’m Wendy, 29 yo. I joined this group looking for honest opinions and hopefully comforting stories. I’m currently 7w 3d pregnant. This is my second pregnancy after losing my first one in March.

I had a very light spotting on the night of my 5w6d. It was a few pink - creamy droplets in the toilet. Of course I immediately freaked out because of my last MMC (Embryo made it to 7 weeks but I didn’t know until 11 weeks when I started bleeding).

Anyway. I went to the doctor the next day, being technically 6w now. She ordered a HCG test for that day Wednesday and then Friday.

Results for Wednesday were 34,496 (6w pregnant) And for Friday were 46,406 (6w 2d pregnant).

Doctor said we can remain hopeful since even though it’s not doubling, it’s rising and I haven’t had any more spotting at all. But there’s no way of telling until next Wednesday when I’ll be 8w with an ultrasound.

I’m starting to prepare for the worst. I’ve also noticed some of my pregnancy symptoms are not there anymore in the last 2-3 days (breast soreness, extreme fatigue, nausea).

Could this be happening again??

Thanks for reading

UPDATE: Went to my ultrasound this morning. Everything went well. Baby has a strong heartbeat and perfect size for 8 weeks. I can finally breathe.

Thank you all so so much for your kind words and advice.

And for other future moms worried about mild spotting and HCG levels not doubling in 48 hrs … THERE’S HOPE ❤️

UPDATE 2: Currently holding my 3 week old perfectly healthy baby. Pregnancy was smooth, though I ended up having a c-section due to baby’s position. That wasn’t bad either. ALL THE BEST TO YOU

I was wondering who is drinking caffeine during their pregnancy?

Background: I did not drink caffeine during my first two pregnancies, both of which ended in miscarriage. I am currently 12w3d in my third pregnancy and not sleeping well.

I’ve read the data on caffeine and know its considered safe by many doctors to drink during pregnancy under a certain amount. But I feel so conflicted about drinking it because I also have reputable baby books (Mayo Clinic’s Guide to Pregnancy) which says I should not drink any caffeine and know there are other people who say to avoid it. Long story short I’ve been sleeping really poorly and also having crazy dreams that mean the little sleep I do get is not very restful. Im struggling to make it through the work day and dying for a coffee or something to help me stay awake.

I was hoping to hear from you all about what you’re doing in your pregnancy and what helped you make your decision.

I'm curious because some women tell me theres no way to ovulate 2 weeks after a miscarriage and to do so you MUST have a ZERO hcg, triggering a period after.. But most women get there period within 4 weeks after their miscarriage, ovulating 2 weeks before.

I've had women tell me that because I'm curious what's going on with my body and I might have had a chemical pregnancy and still feeling pregnant after my negative test and my period is 8 days late.. But they tell me there's NO WAY I could test positive 9dpo (assuming ovulation happened 2wks after miscarriage). I was positive for 7 days.

So, my question is.. How low does the HCG have to be to trigger ovulation before your first period?

I am posting a positive thread just so we can celebrate small victories of our pregnancies. We all know this is hard and filled with so much anxiety and worry and pain, but I want to take time to be grateful to be here again. With the chance of taking home a healthy baby.

My body is doing what it’s supposed to, I’m here again and it’s a new baby and New pregnancy. When I was suffering from my loss I wondered if I could get pregnant again and I did!

I was at the gym today and I gagged at some guys body odor and it was amazing! That’s my baby producing HCG causing it! Whoo hoo!

Let’s celebrate the small victories

I’m deliriously happy, I was honestly going in expecting the worst ya know? If I prepared it wouldn’t hurt me as much. I had a MMC earlier this year, baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks but my first ultrasound was at 9 weeks. I went in with a too full bladder this time around, they made me empty it out and then they found bean. I could tell straight away what was what and seeing the fluttering of the heart was such an awesome experience and it made me so happy. Doctor confirmed everything was on track, heartbeat a lil elevated at 167 but it should come down. This ultrasound was done at 9w4d I thought I was 9w5d already but one day ain’t a big deal. I slept so good when I got home, it was the best and most relaxed I’ve been since I found out. Here’s to a healthy pregnancy 🥂 for all of us

Hi everyone,

My first time posting here and couldn’t find a specific post regarding this. I was debating if I should post or not but perhaps, hearing from others who are further in their pregnancies or have recently had their babies might help me feel better. Do you you stare at the toilet paper after you wipe it? Like each time you go the washroom? I am 15 weeks into this pregnancy and I’m exhausted (mentally and emotionally). Having had two losses in less than a year has really played with my head. Every mild uncomfortable cramp with a discharge and I’m running to the washroom dreading for the worst. Rationally, I know and understand cramping is a normal part of pregnancy. The uterus needs to expand to accommodate for the growing baby. But my irrational side is just on overdrive. Am I alone in feeling this way? Am I losing my mind? I just feel like crying cause I hate feeling this way. I feel so sad cause I haven’t been able to enjoy this pregnancy with all the clouds of fear and anxiety hanging around me daily.

Thanks for reading and for sharing, if you.

I am a little over 4 weeks pregnant. I had my first labs done and my hcg tracks for where I’m at, but my progesterone is scarily low. I am on a progesterone supplement now. Absolutely terrified of going through another loss (it has been 5 mo since my miscarriage and d&c). Has anyone else experienced low progesterone during the first few weeks? I am trying to stay optimistic while also understanding the reality that this may result in another loss.