Weekly Introductions Thread - December 22, 2024

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This thread is for new members who are now pregnant after a previous pregnancy or baby loss.

Please introduce yourself, tell us about your TTC/loss journey, and give us details on your new pregnancy. Share your line porn if you want!

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[u/New-Tennis1593]

Hi everyone, I just found out I'm pregnant again after 7 years of infertility, 10s of Thousands of dollars in infertility treatment, 12 timed and medicated cycles, 3 iuis, an egg retrieval, 4 transfers and 3 miscarriages.... We were taking a break after our last MMC because I was struggling with it all and I wanted to enjoy the holidays without the stress. I am obviously happy and excited but freaking out and in shock. I feel like I just started grieving my last loss in August. I don't want to go do betas, it's like paralysis and disbelief and I'm scared if I start the testing and the meds to keep the pregnancy going I'm just going to loose it again. Not sure how to get passed it.

[u/Realistic-Channel450]

Hi everyone! I'm 5 weeks pregnant today after a chemical in March and a MC at 8.5 weeks in July. Hoping to have our first child. I have a lovely gynocologist who gave me a scan already on Wednesday even though we couldn't see much! Of course though now it's the holidays! And she's closed for 2 weeks. She has very sweetly given me the first appointment when she's back on 6th of Jan when I'll be 7 weeks and if we can see a heartbeat then, it's good news. But obviously this is going to be the longest 2 weeks ever, even worse than the TWW! And I keep dwelling on the possibility that we won't be able to see a heartbeat and I'll have to miscarry all over again. All while trying to keep it a secret from family over the holidays. Feeling quite overwhelmed tbh, if anyone has any advice about how to deal with the anxiety in the lead up to the scan, I'd be super grateful! I do feel like I have more symptoms than last time at this stage so that's giving me some reassurance. Looking forward to hearing everyone else's stories. 

[u/New-Tennis1593 → u/Realistic-Channel450]

I don't have any advice just solidarity. I also had a miscarriage at 8.5w in August and now pregnant and have to hide it from family over the holidays. I'm dreading it.

[u/Realistic-Channel450 → u/New-Tennis1593]

Thank you! Solidarity back to you! Really hope we both get through it. I'm just taking naps and letting them wonder! 

[u/Squiggly_Jones → u/Realistic-Channel450]

Great to hear that you have a supportive doc in your corner!

[u/Turbulent_Tension177]

I'm 28f married to my husband 29m for 10 years. We have 2 living, 10m and 9m, we've been trying again since 2021. For the most part, it just wouldn't work timing wise. We had 3 miscarriages, one of which was almost in the 2nd trimester. That one specifically is the one that broke me...

I am 5 weeks 3 days, just taking it day by day until I can breathe again. I'm feeling anxious, excited, my husband is excited and keeps telling me to look on the bright side. He's ready for another baby. He wants it to be another boy. I'm just so nervous because I don't want to... you know...

Easier said than done, but I know I need to stop thinking about it. That's a self fulfilling prophecy if I keep focusing on it.

[u/lunietoonie1008]

Hi everyone, I’m here after a MC at 7 weeks in September. This is our second cycle after MC. Just got a positive at 10DPO on Wednesday, now I’m 14DPO (period was expected yesterday) and my apps are saying I’m 5 weeks today. Just trying to stay calm and put only positive energy into this pregnancy. I called my OB on Friday and they’re calling me back tomorrow to get my appointments scheduled. I’m just so anxious that something is going to be wrong. I’ve continued to take pregnancy tests each day. The digital ones all say positive and all non-digital clear blue early results are positive. I have pregmate tests too and those have all come up with very light lines, but I know they’re not meant for early testing. I just want the lines to keep getting darker! So far my only symptoms are exhaustion, a tiny bit of cramping, a little nausea yesterday, heightened sense of smell, and just got sick with a cold yesterday/today. I have to remember that there’s no reason to expect anything is wrong and to just stay positive

[u/WiseRefrigerator1453]

Hi everyone, I'm here after a MMC of an IVF pregnancy that was discovered at my 8 week ultrasound the day after Christmas in 2023 the baby measured 6w4d. Prior to that I had 2 egg retrievals and we did a timed cycle with clomid. This year almost a year to the date of day 10 of last years tww I found out I was naturally pregnant and our minds are blown. While we are happy we are both still very much grieving/dealing with the loss last year. My OBGYN would not see me until 8 weeks so we've been to a private ultrasound every week since 6w and each scan has been good but every day I'm still incredibly anxious that we'll have another loss. Last week we went to the private ultrasound Tuesday  and the baby measured 8w2d but then Friday at the OBGYN the baby measured only 8w3d so that is what recently has me most anxious although the tech said the private ultrasound was likely inaccurate. I've had morning sickness since week 6 that lasts from late morning till evening but the last two days Ive felt reasonably fine and had more energy which is now also causing me anxiety. My next private appt is this coming Friday so just trying to hold on as best possible until then. I hate that I constantly feel like the other shoe could drop at any moment. I thought the loss was hard but PAL feels equally tough

[u/Substantial_Onion900]

Hello everyone! I’m 40 with a loving partner, no LC. Currently 11+3 after some chemicals and a spontaneous MC at 11+5 which was very traumatic as water broke while I was being filmed. Felt really let down by what remains of our public healthcare that offered no explanations, no checkups, no further testing and no crisis help – just a 30min sitdown with a nurse who wanted to talk about angels despite sharing our atheism. Even with the support of my partner and friends, it took me months to become a somehow fuctional member of the society. I am currently waiting for the 1st official scan at 13+3. I just wish I could find joy or even some sort of light in this pregnancy, but honestly not sure if I will be able to allow myself that before the 20-week scan, I am grateful for any tips on how to bend a heavy mind to happier directions. Not being able to exercise because of continuous nausea is a big culprit to my extreme lows, for sure…

[u/Professional-Let1676]

Hi all! I am 35 and have been struggling with infertility for 2,5 years. Our 4th IUI led to implantation, but I had a MMC in my 8th week. Now I'm pregnant again (5w today) and my anxiety is through the roof. I am supposed to stop my progesterone suppositories on Monday and I am afraid that my two symptoms (sore boobs and frequent urination) will stop, exactly as with my first pregnancy. I also dreamt I miscarried again a few nights ago. Being in the first trimester after MMC is another type of hell.

[u/anxious_teacher_ → u/Professional-Let1676]

I am 5w+1d also. Sending you strength ❤️

[u/Professional-Let1676 → u/anxious_teacher_]

Thank you for your kind words! Wishing that too for your journey <3

[u/TheHouseKey]

Hello! I am 6w-ish today after a miscarriage in early September. I have two boys (7 and 5), and we've been trying for our 3rd for more than a year on and off. We had no trouble at all conceiving the first 2, and it's been baffling us as to why this time it's been so hard! We got our positive test mid-August, and the miscarriage the weekend after labor day was devastating. My cycle after the miscarriage was abnormally long, so I didn't think anything of it when this cycle started going long. I tested for kicks, and lo and behold, a positive! We're trying to keep it from everyone until our first appointment next week, and it's so hard.

[u/anxious_teacher_]

Hi! 30 years old & 5 weeks today with my second pregnancy. I had a miscarriage at 5w4d in February, just before my birthday 😞.

We originally conceived quickly and it has taken a very long time to reach this second pregnancy. We did a fertility work up in September/October. We did one cycle of letrozole which was unsuccessful. I had to take a break this cycle to get my liver checked out (which was probably unnecessary but whatever) which would have been letrozole #2 with trigger shot. When we had to skip that, I said let’s go straight to IUI with letrozole + trigger which would have been next week… but I had a positive HPT on Saturday!

Betas on Monday & today have been good. Ultrasound today looked good. Starting to relax but it’s hard!