Welcome to PAL - please read before commenting or posting!

[u/therealamberrose]

Welcome to r/PregnancyAfterLoss.

This sub is an offshoot of r/ttcafterloss. That sub unfortunately grew so much that there was a need for a new sub for those lucky enough to be pregnant again after their loss. We are an entire sub dedicated to those who are pregnant after loss (or their SOs).

Please read our rules and our sidebar to familiarize yourself with the customs and guidelines of our subreddit before posting and participating here.

We encourage you to do an introduction when you join (in the Weekly Intro Thread ), participate in our 2 daily threads (divided by AM and PM), and use our multiple Weekly Threads.

Standalone posts require Mod approval, which will have a delay. Standalones should be used for birth announcements, unique/complex issues that haven't been addressed in previous posts, and to share resources/articles. You may also use a standalone to announce you are leaving r/PAL due to another unfortunate loss. Other standalone posts will be declined and you'll be directed to one of our Daily or Weekly threads.

We want to foster a sense of community, which is why we have a centralized place for most daily conversation. This allows users to post and get replies, but also encourages them to reply to others in the same thread. We want you to receive help and be there for others at the same time, if possible. Most milestones should go in the Dailies, along with regular updates, anxiety posts, and questions.

Users here all share a common theme - we've experienced pregnancy or infant loss. That means that many topics you may have questions about have probably been discussed, so you may also find the Search function to be helpful.

Thanks for helping us create a great community.

[u/QueenOfNZ]

Thank you for the truly safe space you’ve created here for those who have experienced pregnancy loss. I’ve had terrible experiences with some of the other groups on here who claim to be a support network for women, but are focused on instead silencing women and their experiences to make moderating easier. I’ve had only a good experience here and I acknowledge that the way you have set up the sub creates a lot of work for your moderators, but that work is so important to ensure this is a safe space for women to share their experience, good or bad, without feeling silenced.

Thank you for the extensive work your team puts in, it is truly appreciated by those who have received support from this group.

[u/therealamberrose → u/QueenOfNZ]

Thank you for saying that. We take a lot of flack (most of which isn't seen) and it can be tough. The other MODS and I truly care about this community. I'm 4 years (this month) removed from my last loss but 6 losses on my journey impacted me as a person and I care to give back. <3

[u/liliannereid → u/therealamberrose]

Thank you for the work you do 🧡

[u/LivingCauliflower428 → u/liliannereid]

Yes, thanks to the mods for the work you do!

[u/munchkym]

Honestly, I really hate all the restrictions in this sub. To not allow posting except in super specific circumstances and instead directing people to numerous comment threads where there is minimal activity and things get buried is really counter to fostering community.

Just wanted to provide some feedback in case y’all wanted to consider some changes.

[u/BookDragon-213 → u/munchkym]

I agree, this group is honestly more restrictive than some of the Facebook groups I'm in which are not even about pregnancy loss (meaning they should be stricter about miscarriage stuff than this group).

[u/munchkym → u/BookDragon-213]

Yeah, I find it nearly impossible to connect here because of the restrictions.

[u/moriigamii]

Hi! I haven’t been able to post and I was wondering why?

[u/therealamberrose → u/moriigamii]

Sorry, just now seeing this as I don’t get notifications for replies. What are you trying to post? A standalone or just comments? Looks like you left a comment in a thread after you wrote this, so are you good now?

If it’s a standalone, please see our rules regarding standalones.

[u/Jamaicanspice]

Thank you

[u/Key-Syllabub-3068]

Hey I have a weird question. I had an emergency D&C on the 8th Nov. I went back into the hospital on the 30th nov with cramping bad and they took blood and told me my hcg levels were at 36. I think I had my first period on the 9th and 10th Dec. I have been feeling really tired and snacking a lot yesterday and today. I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive. Would have my hcg levels dropped to zero in the last two week or would they still be enough to show a false positive. I have done more bloods to see if my hcg levels dropped or increased but I won’t get the results back to Monday. Is there a decent chance I could be actually be pregnant?

[u/Remarkable-Let-6873]

Looking for how you’re dealing with a husband who says this pregnancy is the last chance and if it doesn’t work, he doesn’t want to try again. I’m 7w and he says he can’t take my anxiety again. We have one child, trying for second. 1mc and 1 year of trying. I resent his take, as it’s not him going through everything.

[u/Kindly_Bug_2711]

Hey guys I need some advice, has anyone had hcg levels only rise 45 percent? This is our last hope of having our baby 😭