r/NewParents Nov 26 '24

Babies Being Babies Did our parents just accidentally neglect us as newborns?

625 Upvotes

I feel like I know so much and my parents are always surprised at my level of care. Did they not do the same? How long were we crying in the crib?

r/NewParents Oct 11 '24

Babies Being Babies What are you convinced people are lying about?

426 Upvotes

There are so many things that everyone seems to have in common about their babies but I’m not having the same experience with mine. Examples include

  1. The 8 week shots are easy, LO just sleeps and may get a tad fussy, nothing Tylenol can’t fix. (LIES! My baby has been fussy since the shots and has been trying to sleep but keeps waking up screaming. So far the only help is comfort nursing. -this is the inspiration for this post)

  2. Put your baby to bed drowsy but awake (LIE! Mine must be 200% asleep before you even consider putting her in the crib)

  3. Blowouts mean the diaper is too small (LIE! She can and will have blowouts as much as she pleases, no matter the size)

What are you convinced is a lie? I want to hear the big stuff and the petty stuff!

r/NewParents Aug 06 '24

Babies Being Babies What delusional thought you had before you had a newborn?

405 Upvotes

Before my daughter was born

I really thought the hospital had a cpst or at least nurses that specialized in car seat training

They did not, I had to figure it out myself and it was not easy.

Another one, I honestly thought before I became a mom that newborns are so easy and when my daughter was a newborn it was freaking hard

What about you guys? What’s your experience?

r/NewParents Jun 11 '24

Babies Being Babies What delusional thing did you thought before becoming a parent ?

285 Upvotes

I really thought it be easy taking care of a baby

That was when I was pregnant

Now I know it’s not easy

r/NewParents 15d ago

Babies Being Babies It really does happen to everyone.

837 Upvotes

Today while getting my 7 month old daughter dressed and her diaper changed I dropped the diaper, in the 2 seconds it took me to turn to the right bend down and pick it up my wriggle worm rolled off her changing station. I quickly turn around see my poor nakkey baby face first on our hardwood floor, and she starts screaming. I quickly scoop her up checked her over no blood but there is a bump and bruise forming. I comfort her and call her ped line. They do advise since it was a 2.5 foot fall just to take her to the ER to be checked out. The PA looks her over she’s great, pupils are dilating normal, she’s laughing at him making funny faces, no cerebral spinal fluid in her nose. He’s not worried tells me what to monitor for. She’s totally okay. She’s now happy playing on the floor with her toys after shoveling sweet potato fries in her mouth like there was no tomorrow. I just wanted to post this so some parent out there who just had their first fall can know you’re not a terrible parent, babies just have the worst survival skills.

r/NewParents Jun 04 '24

Babies Being Babies What are some things nobody told you?

332 Upvotes

I’ll go first: everyone tells you that baby boys pee as soon as air hits them but nobody prepared me for my daughter peeing and it pooling everywhere and drenching all her clothes 🙈

r/NewParents Sep 02 '24

Babies Being Babies What baby thing will you NOT miss?

238 Upvotes

Everyone tells you to “enjoy them while they’re little” and all that, and we all know that it’s entirely normal and healthy not to enjoy every moment. So what part of life with a baby are you counting down the minutes till it’s over?

For me, it’s feeding. My 9mo insists on feeding herself but drops her finger foods after a couple bites and after she manages to get a spoonful of mushier stuff in her mouth, she celebrates by repainting our wall with its contents. Oh and she can’t quite hold her bottle yet but at least bottle feeds take like five minutes instead of an hour like the newborn days 😵‍💫 but I am very much looking forward to enjoying meals with a child who can feed herself and not take random massive bites and almost choke!

r/NewParents Aug 21 '24

Babies Being Babies Does anyone else NOT count their babies feeds and naps?

285 Upvotes

Hi!

Just wondering if anyone else doesn’t count their babies feeds and naps?

How is it going for you?

I have a 3 month old and just caught up with the mother’s group, and it felt like everyone was discussing how many feeds and naps their child had… and I had nothing to contribute.

We just do everything on demand. Some days she feeds lots, some days she sleeps lots… I really couldn’t tell you her patterns.

This is what works for us. She’s happy and healthy and putting on weight and that’s the only thing I’m interested in.

EDIT: Hi, I’d like to be super clear that I’m not judgemental at all of mums who have routines!!! I was feeling lonely and like an outsider due to my lack of explicit routine, so my intention was to reach out for a sanity check! Good job to everyone - this baby thing isn’t easy!!! X

r/NewParents 7d ago

Babies Being Babies Does anyone actually have an infant (not newborn) they can “take anywhere”?

81 Upvotes

Because my three month old son loves his schedule and routine and I’m wondering are there babies out there that can nap anywhere and be out of the house all day with no routine?

edit: is your baby breastfed?

r/NewParents Nov 28 '24

Babies Being Babies Everyone always says "just wait till they walk, you're life will be over"- why?

209 Upvotes

Does anyone else get told this? I've been told this countless times. I'll express to someone how exciting it is that my 10 month old is crawling/standing/exploring and I'm usually met with something like in the title. Whenever my son becomes more mobile, he becomes happier and I love how active and curious he is. I think I'll probably feel the same once he walks too. Has anyone else felt similarly?

r/NewParents Sep 15 '24

Babies Being Babies Having more than 1 kid...

328 Upvotes

How? Why? I don't understand.

EVERYONE I know keeps asking me about when baby #2 is coming and it's driving me nutso. My husband and I feel pretty firmly that we are one and done. I think we've agreed there's like a 2% chance we have a second.

I really don't know how people with multiples do it. Everyone I know with more than one child seems absolutely fucking miserable all the time - including all the people telling me that I'll "definitely want another one." In comparison, everyone I know with just 1 child seems so much happier!!

We have a delightful little girl. She is a dream, so easy, sleeps good, is always happy and content. This has really only added to people saying we will definitely have another... But to me it's like we aced on the first try, why do it again? Lol

Anyway not really sure the purpose of this post. Mostly just to vent. I am in absolute awe of those of you with multiples that are rocking it, don't get me wrong. I just don't think it's for me!

r/NewParents Nov 03 '24

Babies Being Babies I'm literally crying

897 Upvotes

My 2mo just offered her hand to me and it really hit me that she's a little human with her own personality growing.

She was munching on her hand as one does when they realize they've got hands lol and I was just watching her, waiting for her to start fussing for boob. But instead she put her hand out in front of my mouth and after a bit, she kept going back n forth like she was showing me how to munch on her hand lmaoo

The little screaming terror is turning into a smiling sweetheart and it feels like it was overnight. She enjoys just hanging out with me now, shows all kinds of emotions, and very clearly loves experiencing life outside of the house. Part of me is sad because where tf is the time going. But the other part, loves her more and more each day. Every little thing she does just makes my heart explode.

r/NewParents Aug 30 '24

Babies Being Babies What’s something that is way harder than you expected it to be?

261 Upvotes

For me it’s baby sleep. I knew the newborn stage would be hard and that I wouldn’t get much sleep, but I didn’t know it lasted for so long!!! I used to nanny a 4 month old until she was over a year (occasionally overnight) and she always had slept from 7:00pm-7:30/8am ZERO wakes and napped for hours during the day. That literally tricked me into having a baby because I was like oh this is so easy, I just have to get through the first few months! Come to find out she was just a unicorn, and my baby is the opposite. Also all the stupid wake windows, capping naps, dropping naps, ect. Literally it’s always changing, you never figure it out. My baby has literally never slept through the night and I feel lied to 😂 anyways that’s all. What has been way harder than you expected with your babies?

r/NewParents May 23 '24

Babies Being Babies I was called an “awful and unfit mother” by a stranger yesterday.

606 Upvotes

I (21F) was on the bus with my 13 month old baby, she’s recently stopped taking her dummy so nap times can be hard at the moment. I had to go to work and take her to nursery, and was already running late due to her being fussy. The journey includes a 10 minute bus ride, she cried and cried on this bus ride, but I thought eventually, she will sleep, and didn’t take her out. I felt so embarrassed as she never usually cries like this, I tried comforting her without taking her out. Just before we approached our stop, a man called me an “awful and unfit mother” and that “people like you don’t deserve children”. I know that all he saw was a snippet of the 13 months that I have been a parent, but I have just feeling better after PPD and this has completely knocked my confidence as a parent. I had to drop my baby off at nursery with both of us crying and then enter work crying. I understand that he probably has his own experiences that caused him to make that comment but I feel so anxious about going to public places, even if people don’t say it, I wonder if they’re thinking that too?

r/NewParents Jul 28 '24

Babies Being Babies How old is your baby and what are they obsessing over today?

120 Upvotes

Mine is almost 11 months and this week it’s fans, switches, and ripping glasses off ppls faces.

Thank you for coming to my Tedtalk.

r/NewParents Jan 17 '24

Babies Being Babies anyone else with a really easy newborn?

302 Upvotes

i might eat my words at some point but i had my son on january 10, the first three nights were.. restless but not unmanageable as he adjusted to life on the outside (he was 11 days late and would have been later if we didn’t end up needing an induction/emergency c)

he barely cries, only if he is uncomfortable or we are starving him (he eats every 1.5-2 hours). he would sleep through the night if we let him, but we have to wake him up to feed. otherwise he’s just happy to be here and super alert, loves to snuggle.

before we had him, people had given us the impression that it was going to be the hardest thing we’ve ever done but that hasn’t been the case yet. i know that as he gets bigger and his needs become more demanding that will change what that means but i think we got really lucky with an exceptionally chill baby.

i was actually concerned about it until i saw my doctor yesterday and she reassured me that he’s healthy as can be, and i have nothing to worry about.

now i’m just worried that he might be a demon toddler and he’s just saving his energy for that 😂

anyone else had a really easy going baby? what are they like now?

r/NewParents Aug 09 '24

Babies Being Babies Did anyone really have a schedule in the newborn stage?

214 Upvotes

FTM with a 3 week old. The days blur together. I feel like we are just in survival mode at this point from hour to hour. I do have a pretty clear morning time where we open up the blinds, turn on lights, and drink coffee/have breakfast. Other then that we sleep where and when we can manage, last night that was the living room. Feed when hungry....every hour ish. Clean when pooped, usually several times in a row...I just feel like there is no consistency.

r/NewParents Aug 15 '24

Babies Being Babies why are some babies…..like this

298 Upvotes

Mine and my boyfriend’s family have bought our LO all these different toys. toys that sing, squeak, glow and move around but you wanna know what his favorite toy is? it’s an empty plastic water bottle he likes it kinda deflated and likes to crush it in his hands. he’s starts to power up (shakes with excitement) when he hears that crinkle sound. What’s a random item your babies like ?

r/NewParents May 28 '24

Babies Being Babies Why did your baby cry today?

159 Upvotes

Mine screamed for 20 minutes to no avail....

All because she wanted to be held up to look out the window.

r/NewParents Sep 26 '24

Babies Being Babies Anyone else not love the newborn phase?

256 Upvotes

My son just turned 6 months old and is the absolute best part of my life. He is beginning to eat food, he’s attempting to crawl, he’s so freakin happy, I could go on and on over how amazing and fun he is. Newborns & young babies just aren’t my jam. Anyone else?

r/NewParents Jul 22 '24

Babies Being Babies If your baby’s eyes were grey/blue at birth, what color are they now?

77 Upvotes

My little one will be 6 weeks and has grey/blue eyes depending on lighting. My husband has blue eyes and thinks they’ll turn a lighter blue like his.

r/NewParents May 18 '24

Babies Being Babies What’s your favorite thing about the stage your baby is in right now?

220 Upvotes

Just want to add some positives and let people brag on their little one! Mine is the first smiles and cooing! He’s such a sweet boy and I adore it!! Didn’t think I could ever love someone as much as I love him!!

r/NewParents Jul 17 '24

Babies Being Babies Just Wait Until… Babies are easy… I remember… ARGH!!!

277 Upvotes

Just a general complaint. It drives me nuts as a new parent to hear over and over again, “Oh, the newborn stage is easy, just wait until four months.” And now being past four months, “Oh, just wait until they are walking, four month olds are easy.” Drives. Me. Insane!

Edit: I may have given the wrong impression to some (based on some messages I received). I have a very happy and pleasant baby and have loved the first few months of being a parent! My gripe is that these are the responses I get to saying she has been easy on her parents so far and that while we are— of course— exhausted, we are so happy.

r/NewParents 12d ago

Babies Being Babies Those of you who had gender disappointment in pregnancy, how do you feel now your baby is here?

70 Upvotes

I didn’t find out the gender of my daughter until birth but I was struck by how many gender disappointment posts there were on Reddit, mostly about boys.

This question is purely out of interest. There is no judgement here about gender disappointment. It’s clearly a very real thing.

r/NewParents Nov 20 '24

Babies Being Babies What do you wish your baby would understand?

137 Upvotes

My daughter’s 12m and takes forever to settle for night wakings. Screams on the first transfer attempt most of the time. So for me, at least in this very moment, it would be “there is nothing wrong with your cot. Trust me, it is much easier to get comfy in your nice, spacious cot than it is on your short and sweaty mom right now.”