General Discussion Planning to move out of my home as soon as possible. Even if I have to live paycheck to paycheck.
I'm currently 16 and few days ago I have made a decision to pay for my university education and move out of my house as soon as possible and I am okay with it. I want to go and study Japanese culture at the university and unfortunately there are only 5 public universities with that line of study in my country which means that for a single position there are 40 candidates and because I doubt that I will get in I decided to study at a private university (which of course costs money). The reason I want to fund that education myself is because of my shit of a father. Long story short he's a piece of shit who always has a problem with something or just simply doesn't care and I know for a fact that he fucked me up so bad Im gonna need therapy when I'm older and I do not want a person like him to dictate my life. I don't want to kneel before him and beg him to let me go to my dream university and even more I do not want my father to be able to control me because "he has the money". He hardly gives a single fuck about me and I know for a fact he doesn't love me. And I do not want an egotistic hypocritical piece of shit like him tell me what to do. Nobody in my life knows about this decision yet and I most likely won't tell anyone. But I know it is possible and I already have a plan. I have a bit of money from my communion and from my birthdays because I hardly even touched it. I have signed myself up for a surveys filling program from which I can make money. I'm planning on getting a summer job and a seasonal job at an animal farm during next school year for 2 months on weekends. And I know I basically have a job in my pocket at my local linguistics teaching studio once I finish my high school education because I already have a C1 certificate and am going for C2 at which point they hire you automatically if you apply for a job. I do not care if I have to live on basic nesesities I simply want to get as far away from a man who I hate with my whole heart. No matter what it takes. I suppose this is kinda a rant. But I just want to get that out of my heart. I suppose I sound kinda insane but when you have a same dream ever since you turned 10 and finally realise there might be a way it feels nice. But also a bit scary.
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u/Millennial_1989 1d ago
It’s okay to move away and separate yourself. It’s actually recommended if you have the skills and know how. I would just say to make sure you have a back up skill, just in case the career doesn’t pan out. That’s not to say you can’t do it, just realistically you need to pay bills so it’s always good to have multiple ways to make money.
That being said. Life is hard, and scary, but it’s only because you haven’t done it before. If you are determined, resourceful, and hard working, you will be just fine. When things get difficult or scary, just push through to the best of your ability, and learn from all of it.
Be very careful of those you surround yourself with, that’s going to be the part that can bring you down, fast and hard.
You’ve got this!