r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 1h ago
Humor/Meme My tastes in men and women. Bi_irl
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r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • Sep 01 '24
Meta Opening Up: Delineating Definition Parameters Update
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WHAT IS THIS ABOUT?
The time has came to open up in relation to updated delineated definition parameters plans for how to operate as a community dealing with more diverse types of visitors having access to our place, that is why our subreddit is now changing status from being a totally private community to being a somewhat restricted community.
WHAT ABOUT QUESTIONS?
We are always open to answering questions and clearing doubts, but before doing anything, you better read the entirety of this very important masterpost that delineates updated definition parameters that are the fundamental bases for the guideline rules for how our community is expected to operate.
WHAT ABOUT DEFINITIONS?
People can have their brains wired NATURALLY ORIENTED to have preferences like dominance and topping, but being a male, top or dominant are things that are NOT NECESSARILY naturally masculine, just like there is no such a thing as something INHERENTLY masculine, because where and how the definition lines dividing binaries like masculine from feminine and woman from man are drawn are pretty blurry, as in they are socioculturally constructed.
Socioculturally constructed means, in another words, as in made up by humans, varying at different points of space and time, depending, at a smaller scale, on an individual to individual basis, and, at a larger scale, on a culture to culture basis, so that means that THE DEFINITIONS OF THINGS ARE NOT SET IN STONE DEFINITELY DEFINED BY THE UNIVERSE.
WHAT ABOUT MASCULINITY?
That is a remarkable warning disclaimer to remind that whenever someone calls something, like being a top, dominant, male, etc. as something masculine, just remember that things are only SOCIOCULTURALLY gendered as masculine inside the sociocultural context of meaning of the history of the world that we live in that we have to deal with.
What matters more is that if YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF masculine for simply being just a trans, altersex, intersex, androgynous, dominant, or top adult that is a woman-ish person, then you came to the right place when you joined our inclusive subreddit community.
WHAT ABOUT DIVERSITY?
When I was in the early planning stages of building this subreddit community, I had to think long and hard before deciding how and where to draw a line to delineate very broadly what masculinity even means so only then I could write a description of who is the masculine demographic that the focus to build a safe space should be centered on.
Our subreddit has been totally private and not yet optimized for accessibility, but will remain a PERMANENTLY INTENDED MOSTLY SAFE FOR WORK, inclusive, diverse and mixed safe space built FOR EVERYTHING CENTERING AND CELEBRATING ADULT PEOPLE WHO AT LEAST PARTLY SOMEHOW IDENTIFY WITH UNCONVENTIONAL WOMANHOOD, including top, verse, dominant, switchy, gentlewomanly, girlboss, punky, tomboyish, futchy, butchy, ursine, crossdressing, androgynous, intersex, altersex, transy, transbianish, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish people.
WHAT ABOUT FOCUS?
That means that our group safe space is centered focusing on you if you are AT LEAST a top OR verse OR dominant OR switchy OR gentlewomanly OR girlboss OR punky OR tomboyish OR futchy OR butchy OR ursine OR crossdressing OR androgynous OR intersex OR altersex OR transy OR transbianish OR genderfluid OR genderqueer woman-ish adult person that identifies with, at the very least, one of our hundreds of subreddit user flair identity label words terminology.
WHAT ABOUT INCLUSIVITY?
Sacrificing our private subreddit community status is a worthy enough step towards our main goal of breaking closed community echo chamber thought bubbles to build a lively, sustainable, inclusive, diverse, mixed and shared safe space, because by opening access to our subreddit for more diverse types of visitors we are less likely to turn into a closed community echo chamber thought bubble as well.
We already have been inclusive of transy, transbianish, transfeminine, transandrogynous, transmasculine, detrans, retrans, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish adult people.
WHAT ABOUT OPENNESS?
Minors, binary men, completely conventional women, genderless people and visually impaired people are not the primarily centered specific demographic of this subreddit, but we should be having no problems with them having access to our safe spaces, ONLY AS LONG AS EVERYONE follows the basic respect safety guideline expectations written down that are listed in the subreddit rules section of our community to help sustain the health of this inclusive space.
WHAT ABOUT MATURITY?
Our safe space is intended to PERMANENTLY CONTINUE being mostly Safe For Work (SFW) because our community is NOT a subreddit with the focus centered on pornography, but we still allow the important freedom of mature sensitive content being shared here as topics for dialogue ONLY AS LONG AS properly tagged as Not Safe For Work (NSFW) with Content Warning (CW) disclaimers and hidden appropriately.
Following our main goal of also sustaining an inclusive, diverse and mixed safe space that protects the wellness of everyone, including minors who should not have access to mature sensitive content, our community must operate based on the following safety guideline expectations written down that are listed in the rules section of our subreddit:
Guideline rule number 12: Sharing spoilers and content without caution will be met with appropriate consequences.
Do not forget to share any licensed content only if together with appropriate attribution credits to the source and particular specific requested conditions complied to avoid problems with legal rights, add appropriate content disclaimers, and hide spoilers and other sensitive content that may be Not Safe For Work (NSFW) or potentially triggering to someone.
Guideline rule number 10: Do not promote pedo, zoo or necro things.
Do not even share content that could potentially promote the sexualization of minors, animals or the dead.
WHAT ABOUT SECURITY?
Some exceptions were already made here and there before to allow some completely conventional women, trans men and genderless people, especially if they were loved ones of some of the community member users, to have access to come inside our subreddit, and, as of yet, we have gotten zero problems with them being here among us to back this up.
Completely conventional women, binary men and genderless people are welcome at our subreddit community ONLY IF they understand that they are not the primarily centered specific demographic that this safe space was built to focus on and BEHAVE RESPECTFULLY AS ALLY guest pals of the gals and pals, in another words, If you are not a gal, then you must, at the very least, be a pal, as in a respectful ally, in order to be welcome at our safe space.
Following our main goal of also sustaining an inclusive, diverse and mixed safe space that protects the wellness of everyone, we recommend that individuals or their posts should be reported for removal if they fail to comply with the following safety guideline expectations written down that are listed in the rules section of our subreddit for how our community must operate:
Guideline rule number 1: Focus on the topic.
This is a mature space centered on adult people, so you better behave accordingly like one.
Guideline rule number 2: Do not disrespect the boundaries of anyone.
Respect is when you give what you want to get back.
Guideline rule number 3: Do not be judgemental.
Live and let live.
Guideline rule number 5: Intolerance is not tolerable.
The tolerance of intolerance is the end of tolerance.
Guideline rule number 6: Abuse will be met with appropriate consequences.
We do not welcome abuse in general (verbal, emotional, psychological, financial, physical, sexual, discrimination, and self-harm).
Guideline rule number 7: Discrimination in general is NOT welcome here.
No discrimination in general (sexism, misogyny, misandry, transphobia, enbyphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, polyphobia, aphobia, xenophobia, racism, classism, ageism, ableism, fatphobia, fat shaming, slut shaming, kink shaming, bigotry).
Guideline rule number 8: Do not encourage divisive attitudes.
Acknowledging differences is alright as long as you do not put people against each other.
Guideline rule number 9: Do not promote harm.
No promotion of any type of harm (aggression, violence, suicide, addictions, eating disorders, misinformation, intellectual property rights infringement and other violations).
WHAT ABOUT ACCESSIBILITY?
Providing image descriptions for any shared visual content to be added to our growing transcription post flair section is NOT SOMETHING OBLIGATORY, but is VERY MUCH necessarily APPRECIATED since our subreddit community is not yet completely optimized for accessibility inclusivity.
Following our main goal of sustaining an inclusive, diverse and mixed safe space, our community must operate based on the following guideline expectations written down that are listed in the rules section of our subreddit to accommodate visually impaired people alongside other people as well:
Guideline rule number 13: Disregarding the promotion of accessibility inclusivity will be met with appropriate consequences.
Sharing whenever possible simple image DESCRIPTIONS for any visual content is very much appreciated because they contain more detail for the necessary context understanding than simply sharing just image transcriptions, but since sharing image transcriptions still is something better than nothing, image descriptions are not required to be very detailed nor required to follow any specific model template, but the models for meme templates shared by r/TranscribersOfReddit are very much appreciated.
Guideline rule number 9: Do not promote harm.
No promotion of any type of harm (aggression, violence, suicide, addictions, eating disorders, misinformation, intellectual property rights infringement and other violations).
Guideline rule number 8: Do not encourage divisive attitudes.
Acknowledging differences is alright as long as you do not put people against each other.
Guideline rule number 7: Discrimination in general is NOT welcome here.
No discrimination in general (sexism, misogyny, misandry, transphobia, enbyphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, polyphobia, aphobia, xenophobia, racism, classism, ageism, ableism, fatphobia, fat shaming, slut shaming, kink shaming, bigotry).
Guideline rule number 5: Intolerance is not tolerable.
The tolerance of intolerance is the end of tolerance.
Guideline rule number 3: Do not be judgemental.
Live and let live.
WHAT ABOUT EXCLUSIVITY?
With all that being said and done, in another words, the delineated definition parameters for how our community should operate are being updated towards making the access to our subreddit community become more welcoming, public and inclusive for anyone out there, but only users that have already been approved upon sent mailed request will be allowed to post anything because our subreddit is now changing status from being a totally private community to being a somewhat restricted community.
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • Sep 08 '24
Meta [MUST READ] Content Update: How To Contribute To Our Communities
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NEW COMMUNITY MILESTONE ACHIEVED:
I am happy to announce that the majority of our posts have been moved to the post section list flaired as "Transcribed" following a mass addition of image descriptions to almost all visual posts added to our large collection of added posts also following the opening up update on the delineation of the defined parameters that are the fundamental base for the list of guidelines rules for how our community should operate towards our goal of promoting a healthy, welcoming, public, accessible and inclusive safer space to everyone described with further detailing at the masterpost at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/GalsAndPals/s/ThYYu0t701
While we should celebrate because our community subreddit achieved more than 1300 member users with the addition of more than 100 new member users in just one single week and a large collection of diverse posts growing with new additions almost daily of which more than 100 visual content posts have received the addition of image descriptions towards our goal to promote accessibility and inclusivity, we have been still struggling with lack of diversity in content contribution in terms of user activity to keep our community living and thriving, since almost all have been made by the moderation.
HOW TO CONTRIBUTE TO OUR COMMUNITY:
Sharing is caring, because sharing new content like posts and comments IN and OUT of our subreddit is the bare minimum enough to support our space living and thriving, so feel free to share our content out there to invite your adult lovers, friends, partners and acquaintances to join our community subreddit if you feel they would enjoy being here.
Anyone is welcome to be in our community subreddits and contribute posting, but ONLY AS LONG AS they are RESPECTFUL WITH EVERYONE AND HAVE already had a sent MOD PERMISSION REQUEST APPROVED, because our subreddits have changed status from being totally private communities to being a somewhat restricted communities after the opening up update.
Posting and sharing more content linked to gender and racial diversity and simple image descriptions beyond just image transcriptions for our inclusivity goals would be very much appreciated in special as already solicited before.
The best exemplary contributions of content to our community are the ones that somehow comply with all of the expectations of the whole list of guidelines that are written down listed in the rules section of our subreddit, including especially:
Guideline rule number 12: Sharing spoilers and content without caution will be met with appropriate consequences.
Do not forget to share any licensed content only if together with appropriate attribution credits to the source and particular specific requested conditions complied to avoid problems with legal rights, add appropriate content disclaimers, and hide spoilers and other sensitive content that may be Not Safe For Work (NSFW) or potentially triggering to someone.
Guideline rule number 13: Disregarding the promotion of accessibility inclusivity will be met with appropriate consequences.
Sharing whenever possible simple image DESCRIPTIONS for any visual content is very much appreciated because they contain more detail for the necessary context understanding than simply sharing just image transcriptions, but since sharing image transcriptions still is something better than nothing, image descriptions are not required to be very detailed nor required to follow any specific model template, but the models for meme templates shared by r/TranscribersOfReddit are very much appreciated.
Adding simple image descriptions to posts sharing simple text images is something NOT OBLIGATORY, but is VERY MUCH APPRECIATED, because that not just helps to promote accessibility inclusivity for visually impaired people, but also does help search engines algorithms to recommend our content to help new people out there even if they are not joining us as member users.
The following template models are meant for general use as image descriptions for simple visual content like screenshots of written posts, while the r/TranscribbersOfReddit subreddit has a storage of specific image description model templates better suited to describe more specifically nearly every visual meme in particular.
POST TITLE SECTION IMAGE DESCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE:
A much appreciated exemplary image description written at the post title section complying with the expectations of the whole list of guidelines that are written down listed in the rules section of our subreddit all at once by describing enough important details for context understanding, including source credits, while still being simple, is the example shared at the r/DollsAndPals subreddit at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/DollsAndPals/s/e8GaDFv9HK
Post title: Image Description: Colored Illustration By The Famous Sapphic Brazilian Artist Called Jenifer Prince Centering a Femme Light Skin Brunette With One Cheek Marked By The Red Colored Lipstick Of The Femme Light Skin Blonde That She Is In Love With
POST TITLE SECTION IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE:
There are times in which nothing else is possible beyond just adding an image transcription to the post title section by copying as exact as possible a written comment and attributing the source to comply with the expectations of the whole list of guidelines that are written down listed in the rules section of our subreddit all at once by describing enough important details for context understanding, including source credits, like in the following example:
Post title: [Author(s) Name(s) Here]: "[Post Transcription Here]"
GOLDEN ADVICE TIP: You can use a search engine online to find the source to be able to simply copy and paste a long written comment of a screenshoted image post to do a simple image transcription faster with way more ease.
POST CAPTION SECTION IMAGE DESCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE:
Another much appreciated exemplary image description written at the post caption section complying with the expectations of the whole list of guidelines that are written down listed in the rules section of our subreddit all at once by describing enough important details for context understanding, including source credits, is the example shared at the r/GalsAndPals subreddit at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/GalsAndPals/s/QDDTx2Mq6T
Post caption: Screenshot of an old post in which is written, with whiteish light colored letters against a dark black colored background, the quote “I don’t feel like a man trapped in a woman’s body. I just feel trapped” from the page 158 of the famous award winning book released in the year 1993 entitled "Stone Butch Blues" written by the revered american intersectional social activist author named Leslie Feinberg who described hirself, in hir own words, as "an anti-racist white, working-class, secular jewish, transgender, lesbian, female, revolutionary communist", shared by "FreeCeCe McDonald" ("@Free_CeCe") at "Xitter", at the following link: https://twitter.com/Free_CeCe/status/534537849832349696
POST COMMENTS SECTION IMAGE DESCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE FOR POSTING:
[Hashtag]IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Title: [Post title]
Image description: Post shared by u/[Poster username] at the r/[...]AndPals subreddit sharing a [Complete with your creativity].
Image caption: [If the post has an image caption section].
Post comments section image description for posting example shared at the r/GalsAndPals subreddit at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/GalsAndPals/s/805TlAFS1G
IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Title: Love breaking gender boxes (.^)
Image description: Post shared by u/cutelilreno at the r/GalsAndPals subreddit sharing a version of the "Disaster Girl" meme image in which a little girl with dark colored eyes, brown colored brunette hair and light skin, tagged, with white colored letters in all caps, as "ME", is smiling devilishly, while a house tagged, also with white colored letters in all caps, as "GENDER" is burning in the background.
POST COMMENTS SECTION IMAGE DESCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE FOR REPOSTING:
[Hashtag]IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Repost title: [Post title]
Image description: Repost shared by u/[Reposter username] at the r/[...]AndPals subreddit sharing a [Complete with your creativity].
Image caption: [If the post has an image caption section].
Post comments section image description for reposting example shared at the r/GalsAndPals subreddit at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/GalsAndPals/s/jfLjVSaz23
IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Repost title: cries in bisexual
Image description: Repost shared by u/madamesunflower0113 at the r/GalsAndPals subreddit sharing a screnshot of a post originally shared by "evan says blm" ("@frvnkiero"), in which is written, with light colored letters against a dark colored background, that "i am NOT a cottagecore lesbian. i am a haunted house bisexual >:-(", followed by four images of haunted houses below.
POST COMMENTS SECTION IMAGE DESCRIPTION MODEL TEMPLATE FOR CROSSPOSTING:
[Hashtag]IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Crosspost title: [Newer title]
Repost/Original title: [Earlier title]
Image description: Crosspost shared by u/[Crossposter username] at the r/[...]AndPals subreddit of a (re)post shared by u/[(Re)Poster username] at the r/[Community name] subreddit sharing a [Complete with your creativity].
Image caption: [If the post has an image caption section].
Post comments section image description for crossposting example shared at the r/GuysAndPals subreddit at the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/GuysAndPals/s/e9648CWp8M
IMAGE TRANSCRIPTION AND CREDITS:
Crosspost title: Dudes In Castlevania Be Like:
Repost title: bi_irl
Image description: Crosspost shared by u/DoNotTouchMeImScared at the r/GuysAndPals subreddit of a repost shared by u/GroundbreakingWeb360 at the r/bi_irl subreddit sharing an image posted by u/Plushie_101 at the r/Castlevania subreddit made of a photograph of a masculine and young looking person with long, wavy and golden blonde colored hair and light skin in a fit body with a hairy and exposed bare torso with abs and wearing pinkish colored lipstick that is captioned at the top with white colored letters as "Dudes at Castlevania".
You can use your creativity to modify and simplify the model templates for image descriptions as much as you want, but only as long as you still attribute credits properly to crossposters, reposters and posters because we all are legally obligated to comply especially with:
Guideline rule number 12: Sharing spoilers and content without caution will be met with appropriate consequences.
Do not forget to share any licensed content only if together with appropriate attribution credits to the source and particular specific requested conditions complied to avoid problems with legal rights, add appropriate content disclaimers, and hide spoilers and other sensitive content that may be Not Safe For Work (NSFW) or potentially triggering to someone.
You should also definitely check the "Transcribed" post sections to familiarize yourself with examples of how and what content is posted in our communities.
The moderation is always open to answering questions and clearing doubts.
No need to be shy as we do not bite.
r/GalsAndPals • u/synthresurrection • 1d ago
Transbianish My mother could never handle the truth.
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r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 1d ago
User Introduction New Visitor Introduction Masterpost: Who Are you?
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Welcome aboard to all new visitors!
If you have been waiting for a moment to introduce yourself, the comments section of this post right here is your chance, but you should check out before our sections of long, creative, diverse and inclusive lists of silly and cute identity label words user flairs and "User Introductions" posts to familiarize yourself with ideas and examples of how to better identify yourself.
No need to be shy as we do not bite, but you should also still make sure to remember the basic safety guideline expectations of the list of guidelines that are written down listed in our rules section to help sustain the health of this inclusive safer space, including especially:
Guideline rule number 15: Do not share possibly compromising information.
Possibly compromising or personal identifying information should not be shared in public (real name, location, e-mail address, phone numbers, passwords, documents, medical and drug use history, etc.).
ADVICE TIP: You are free to change your user flair at any time by choosing that option from a menu that drops down from the three vertical dots icon at the top right corner right next to the community banner in the main page of our subreddit if you are using a mobile device.
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 1d ago
Vent [VENT RANT] The Binary Dualities Of Women: Ecofeminism Versus Utilitarianist Capitalist And Sexist Reductionism
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This is a vent rant post that I have written because I am tired that is just so common in this unsustainable and exploitative capitalist and patriarchal worldwide reality that we have been living for guys to reduce the value of the existence of women to whether or not they are useful as want fulfillment objects that are either holes or poles that are either possessions or disposable depending on whether they are perceived either as saints or as whores.
On one hand, the majority of the times in which a guy reduces the value of a feminine person to a hole that can be used to penetrate that is due to that guy gets some sort of sadist pleasant satisfaction only because he perceives that feminine person as inferior in comparison to him.
On another hand, the majority of the times in which a guy reduces the value of a feminine person to a pole that can be used to penetrate that is due to that guy gets some sort of masochist pleasant satisfaction also only because he perceives that feminine person as inferior in comparison to him.
Both type of guys who reduce feminine people to poles or holes useful for penetration perceive feminine people as inferior to them.
On another side, there are guys who treat women who they perceive as saints that are useful as wife material as if they were possessions because they also perceive them as irreplaceable objects that they only desire to use in controlling restrictive committed intimate relationships out of insecurities, like fear of losing that exists behind jealousy, because they have not learned how to lose, despite that protectiveness backfires because possessiveness only pushes away from you what you care about enough to protect.
On the other side, often the more freedom we gift to someone the more is likely for someone to care about us out of appreciation in reciprocation, but there also are guys who treat women who they perceive as whores for having a sexual life as if they were disposable because they also perceive them as replaceable objects that they only desire to use in casual intimate connections.
Both types of guys who reduce women to disposable or possessions perceive women as objects instead of equally as persons.
Ecofeminist analysis point out that the exploitation of feminine people is the same as the exploitation of "Mother Nature" in general, in the sense that the common sexist reduction of feminine people to objects that exist only to be used and abused is rooted in a capitalist utilitarianist approach to connections that is unsustainable for being selfish in an exploitative way, in as if the existence of "Mother Nature" in general and other feminine individuals only matter if they are useful as resources for at least something.
The reduction of the value of the existence of women has been so common worldwide for so long that even women sometimes forget about their own value and put up with selling themselves short for life standards that are lesser than what we all really deserve as the unique persons that each of all of us is in special.
I really hope that sharing this helps at least someone out there.
r/GalsAndPals • u/synthresurrection • 1d ago
Transy Cattle Decapitation - Forced Gender Reassignment Lyric Video(Cattle Decapitation says trans rights! Unironically my theological mood tonight)
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r/GalsAndPals • u/synthresurrection • 1d ago
Genderspicy Yeah, I love my genderqueer eldritch horrors straight from the pages of the Necronimicon(or however it's spelt)!
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r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 3d ago
Transcribed Happy Holygays: I Hope That You Find Someone Who Genuinely Loves You As Much As Utena And Anthy From "Shoujo Kakumei Utena" ("Revolutionary Girl Utena") Love Each Other (Image Details On The Comments Section)
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Alternative edited version of a meme image centering one colored official postcard Christmas illustration by the mangaka artist called Chiho Saito scanned by "Empty Movement" ("@ohtori_nu") at "Twitter", featuring, from left side to right side of the image, Utena Tenjou, an young woman with light skin, wide shiny blue colored eyes in a pointy face with a smiling happy facial expression, and long light pink colored hair styled with smooth bangs in a slim body wearing a red colored Santa Claus outfit, hugging Anthy Himemiya, an young looking woman with brown colored dark skin, wide shiny green colored eyes behind round glasses also in a pointy face with a smiling happy facial expression, and dark purple colored hair styled with wavy bangs parted in the middle in a skinny body, covered with tiny shiny stars, wearing a white colored angel outfit with big white colored wings together with earrings and a matching halo that are made of tiny shiny stars, meanwhile her tiny and purpleish colored pet monkey called Chu-Chu, with blushy pink colored cheeks and wearing one earring, is messing around dressed, in four different costumes, as Santa Claus with a red colored outfit, as a candle-holder holding lit candles, as a reindeer with brown colored antlers, and as a flying angel with a halo and white colored wings, all of them are characters from an old, japanese and queer franchise called "Revolutionary Girl Utena" ("Shoujo Kakumei Utena") that are in front of a dark purpleish colored background that has some starry sparkles, in between a white colored top caption, in which is written "i don't beleive in soulmates", and an also white colored bottom caption, in which is written "ayo nvm 😍😍", both captions are in front of a light green colored background.
r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 3d ago
Discussion Weekly media thread
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This is a weekly media thread where you can discuss the media you're consuming.
What are you reading, watching, listening to, creating, writing, or making?
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 4d ago
Audio/Music Holygay Season Mood: Ice Queen Queer Girlboss Vibes
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Song entitled "Permanent December" sang by the famous american diva called Miley Cyrus in a lyrics video from the "YouTube" channel named "hanstric".
r/GalsAndPals • u/AutoModerator • 5d ago
Weekly Megathread Weekly Check-in thread
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Greetings gals and pals, this is the weekly check-in thread. How are you holding up? Did you have any wins lately? Are you eating and drinking plenty of water? How about any losses lately? Meet someone new? Try something new?
Basically what's up?
r/GalsAndPals • u/synthresurrection • 6d ago
Genderspicy I bear a message! For it is written in the sacred texts!
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broke: gender ideology made me trans
woke: i was born this way
bespoke: gender ideology made most of you cis
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 6d ago
Transcribed [OC] My Very First Colorful Shaded Painting Without Lineart: Holiday Portrait That I Gifted Some Years Ago To a Lesbianish Trans Asian Femdom (Image Details On The Comments Section)
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Image is a very colorful gift painting in which is written, with black colored letters, "dec. 2022" and also signed "WIW", for a feminine, young and asian looking human figure with a slim body, a round face with thick pinkish colored lips and wide and very dark colored yet shiny eyes of asian heritage, below long and brownish colored (brunette) smooth hair that is styled parted to the right side of the image, wearing a reddish colored Santa Claus hat, on top of an also reddish colored sleeveless and puffy Santa Claus dress outfit being held by a large and dark colored belt, alongside long and reddish colored nails in all fingers and a string necklace with pearls of different colors, while colored by the pinkish and purpleish colored shading and orange colored main light source of a sunset sky with some shiny bright stars on top, up above two white colored clouds, as a colorful background that is colorcoded with the orangeish, white and pinkish color scheme pattern of the seven-strips version of the "sunset" lesbian pride flag.
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 7d ago
Ramblings [SHORT ESSAY] Weaponized Incompetence: Behind Magical Holidays There Are Magical Women
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The title of this short essay that I have written as a vent rant post is based on the popular saying that goes along the lines that behind the success of great men there are also great women.
Weaponized incompetence is a very sneaky yet very unfortunately common manipulative control practice that happens whenever someone uses not being the most fit for a skill, like organizing, cooking, cleaning and fixing things, as an excuse to get someone else to commit to the responsibility of ALWAYS doing something instead for that someone that ends up not needing to worry about that.
Weaponized incompetence happens whenever someone does not care about anyone else enough to commit to the responsibility of making a serious effort to try to learn the skill in order to improve things for the world around them.
Regardless of gendered identity types, masculinity has been traditionally socioculturally associated with careless laziness, but often who tends to commit to responsibilities is who stands up first to get things done out of not being who is able to stand for longer things like disorganization, like when there is more than one feminine person in a type of intimate relationship configuration.
That means that women also do outsource responsibilities to other women as well, even if they just date a same lover instead of dating each other as lovers in an intimate relationship, because even mothers also do outsource responsibilities that get socioculturally gendered as feminine expectations to their daughters ever since a very early age.
Regardless of social connection types, often the more feminine individual tends to end up taking the role of who has to stand up to commit to the responsibility of getting things done because they can not rely on anyone else to get things done, so that is basically the reason why women are often the ones responsible for what is experienced as a magical holiday season because they end up as the ones who have to organize, cook, clean and fix everything.
Male polygynous intimate relationships have historically also been more common worldwide because female polyandrous intimate relationships are more draining in precious limited resources like time, attention and energy for more feminine people even if love is not a limited natural resource at all.
The only useful advice tip that I am aware that works to combat weaponized incompetence is, ironically and unfortunately, to also use weaponized incompetence against weaponized incompetence by pretending that you are not the most fit for skills like organizing, cooking, cleaning and fixing things in order to motivate someone else to take an initiative and start committing to handling responsibilities.
I really hope that sharing this as food for thoughts helps at least someone out there.
r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 8d ago
User Introduction New Visitor Introduction Masterpost: Who Are you?
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r/GalsAndPals • u/No_Novel_Tan • 9d ago
Genderfluidity "Am I Fluid?"
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It's annoying asking the same question again and again when you never got a negative answer the first time. Why re-ask?
All the she/hers I get at work (closeted) aren't offensive. They don't hurt. I'm so clearly GNC (...to me anyways. There's definitely a butch or two or a thousand who would laugh me out a bar if they saw my fashion and heard that). I feel like a GNC female at times. I say female because woman don't feel right still.
And that is a stark contrast to the past 3 years. I've been truly afraid to end up back at cis at the end of this gender journey. But whatever I am is queer. In the gender department. I spent this same weekend I had this realization fawning over a genderqueer performer I saw. Wishing I could be more like them in the gender.
So maybe I'm fluid, I say for the 1000th time.
Fuck me, I guess.
r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 10d ago
Discussion Weekly media thread
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This is a weekly media thread where you can discuss the media you're consuming.
What are you reading, watching, listening to, creating, writing, or making?
r/GalsAndPals • u/AutoModerator • 12d ago
Weekly Megathread Weekly Check-in thread
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Greetings gals and pals, this is the weekly check-in thread. How are you holding up? Did you have any wins lately? Are you eating and drinking plenty of water? How about any losses lately? Meet someone new? Try something new?
Basically what's up?
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 13d ago
Discussion Queering Heterosexuality: When Opposites Attract Somewhere Under The Rainbow
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CONTEXT NOTE: The way that I describe experiencing something "hetero" in this post has very little in common with how "straight" conservatives commonly describe the definition of what the word "heterosexual" means.
I identify as a non-binary person, but all of my connections feel somewhat "hetero" somehow, even if I am definitely not "straight" and even if I were dating another non-binary person that identified as the exact same gendered identity as me.
I mean that I experience something "hetero" in the sense that I am not my type, because is more likely for me to be attracted to people the less likely they are similar to me in regards to personality and appearance, including weight, height, gendered expression and racialized expression.
I have a very low reasonable standards bar for personal boundary limits because I am open to a large diversity of adult body, personality and connection types, but even I still do have personal preferences that add up in how I avail before deciding about whether or not there is compatibility to a certain degree enough for me to promise to commit to intimate connections, including more closed life partnerships especially.
I still do have personal preferences because my interest is usually caught by more optimistic and less hairy adult people endowed with more boobies and booties compared in contrast to someone who is an almost "flat as a board" melancholic and hairy person as I am, even if none of this is a necessary must have personal preference that is an unegotiable hard boundary limit that delineates who I am since I do not care much about superficial things.
I shared at the following link one colored illustration of my "hetero" taste for intimate connections that orientates me to places like the subreddit communities named r/GatekeepingYuri and r/GatekeepingYaoi that make me feel the most "hetero yet gay or gay yet hetero vibes": https://www.reddit.com/r/DollsAndPals/s/OLelNnlSEi
I could not figure out any useful word other than "heterosexuality" or "heteroamory" to describe desiring intimate connections with who is different from you, useful as in to use to describe where do I fit in a broader attraction spectrum of desires that is a scale of similarity and dissimilarity in general that includes much more than only whether or not someone identifies as the same gendered identity as me.
I am describing a hetero attraction that is not only a desire for heterogender intimate connections, but including heteroracial intimate connections alongside other diverse types of intimate connections.
That is basically in which sense that I am explaining the reason why that I sense "hetero" attraction vibes from intimate connections between different individuals, like fat people with fit people, dark skin people with light skin people, neurotypical people with aneurotypical people, introverted people with extroverted people, submissive people with dominant people, bottom people with top people, even if they are homogender because they do share the same gender in common.
If the word "heterosexual" broke down is a combination of the word "hetero", as in meaning different, plus the word "sexual", as in meaning intimate connections, being interpreted in the broadest possible sense as in meaning desiring intimate connections with who is different from you, then I am surprinsingly very "heterosexual".
Does anyone else think that way too much unnecessary attention is focused on whether or not someone is committed to one person of a different gendered identity while the world would be a better place if more individuals cared more about diverse individuals of diverse gendered identities even if we were not panamorous?
SIDENOTE: I hate the identity label "straight" because this word implies that everyone that does not desire only heteronormative monogamy leans "wrong" instead of "right".
r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 15d ago
User Introduction New Visitor Introduction Masterpost: Who Are you?
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r/GalsAndPals • u/madamesunflower0113 • 17d ago
Discussion Weekly media thread
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This is a weekly media thread where you can discuss the media you're consuming.
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r/GalsAndPals • u/AutoModerator • 19d ago
Weekly Megathread Weekly Check-in thread
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Greetings gals and pals, this is the weekly check-in thread. How are you holding up? Did you have any wins lately? Are you eating and drinking plenty of water? How about any losses lately? Meet someone new? Try something new?
Basically what's up?
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 20d ago
Discussion Bi-O-Logy Question: Does Your Sexual Role Impacts Your Orientations?
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I wonder if anyone else besides me also noticed a pattern in the sense that tops and bottoms have different reasons behind why they desire intimate connections with guys.
On one hand, there are bisexual bottoms who only date guys because they desire to be penetrated by guys.
That first type of bisexual bottoms tend to commonly end up committed to heterosexual monogamous intimate relationships if they are women.
On another hand, there also are bisexual tops who only date guys because they instead ignore the genitals the guys have.
That second type of bisexual tops also tend to commonly end up committed to heterosexual monogamous intimate relationships if they are guys.
Personal preferences also may change as we experience more things with age.
I first realized I was bi after desiring intimately women with socioculturally considered more masculine gendered expressions who appeared to be guys for a big chunk of my life then finding out in my late teen years that guys were also an available possible dating option ever since I began to simply ignore if they have a pole because nearly everyone has a back hole.
My personal preferences related to sexual desires also have been dismantled towards apathetic indifference lately in my adult life before taking antidepressants became a part of my life as well.
TL;DR: Desiring a certain genital and ignoring a certain genital are two but not all of the possible reasons behind why someone is bi.
r/GalsAndPals • u/DoNotTouchMeImScared • 21d ago
Discussion Gendered Expression: Mind x Heart x Body x World
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I am sharing this post I have written because gendered expression is often a neglected topic, even in progressive gender diverse spaces, that should be talked about more often since we should prioritize the fight for the basic yet still valuable right that is the freedom of expression that means the same as the right of freedom of gendered expression regardless of invisible gendered identities.
There is no such a thing as something INHERENTLY masculine or feminine, because where and how the definition lines dividing binaries like masculine from feminine are drawn are pretty blurry, as in they are socioculturally constructed.
Socioculturally constructed means, in another words, as in made up by humans, varying at different points of space and time, depending, at a smaller scale, on an individual to individual basis, and, at a larger scale, on a culture to culture basis.
That explanation means that THE DEFINITIONS OF THINGS ARE NOT SET IN STONE DEFINITELY DEFINED BY THE UNIVERSE.
That is a remarkable warning disclaimer to remind that whenever someone calls something feminine or masculine, just remember that things are only SOCIOCULTURALLY gendered inside the sociocultural context of meaning of the history of the world that we live in that we have to deal with.
The difference between gendered identity and gendered expression is that the gendered expression of someone encompasses the totality of EVERYTHING THAT CAN BE PERCEIVED about someone, not only regarding body, but about appearance and personality in general, including ways of looking, thinking, feeling, behaving and relating that do not necessarily have to be aligned.
I have already been told that I have the mind of a woman in the sense that I think in a way traditionally socioculturally considered stereotypically feminine as in commonly associated with females because I tend to care too much about everyone, sometimes to my own detriment.
I also have been told that I have the heart of a man in the sense that I feel in a way traditionally socioculturally considered stereotypically masculine as in commonly associated with males because I tend to keep my feelings to myself instead of expressing them, sometimes also to my own detriment.
I also have an androgynous body that is part of my genderqueer appearance that is somewhat a combination mixing both femininity and masculinity.
Feel free to contribute to the comments section below a description of your connection or disconnection to your gendered expression as well.