But what if my brain gives me a bad grade in Hobby? :(
Nah for real though. Just. Be bad at shit. Not to get all motivational poster about it, but if you're literally the worst person alive at a given thing, that still means you put more effort into it than the millions of people who have never done it at all.
I'm learning CW right now, and I'm absolutely dogshit, but I do not care. It's not my job, I have no obligation to be an expert at it. Hell, that's just a good rule of thumb for most things in life. Don't force yourself to become an expert simply because "amateur" doesn't feel good enough.
Pivot the goal: get a good grade at learning to divorce skill from enjoyment. Genuinely, as a young person I decided that if I was an uptight perfectionist, I was going to try applying it to becoming emotionally healthy, up to and including practicing dismantling my perfectionism.
Good on you for being able to recognize your perfectionism as an issue to overcome. I wore it like a badge of honor for way too long.
It's honestly still weird to just... enjoy things I'm bad at. I no longer feel like I'm actively dying while doing them, but there's still that persistent feeling of "jesus christ I hope I get better at this" and I have to tell my own brain to shut the fuck up.
I personally try and find amusement in my own failures. It works to laugh through all the pain of fucking things up until I find myself actually focusing and doing the thing. Doesnt feel as bad maybe
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u/Milkyway_Potato ok ok i'll finish disco elysium jesus 2d ago edited 2d ago
But what if my brain gives me a bad grade in Hobby? :(
Nah for real though. Just. Be bad at shit. Not to get all motivational poster about it, but if you're literally the worst person alive at a given thing, that still means you put more effort into it than the millions of people who have never done it at all.
I'm learning CW right now, and I'm absolutely dogshit, but I do not care. It's not my job, I have no obligation to be an expert at it. Hell, that's just a good rule of thumb for most things in life. Don't force yourself to become an expert simply because "amateur" doesn't feel good enough.