But what if my brain gives me a bad grade in Hobby? :(
Nah for real though. Just. Be bad at shit. Not to get all motivational poster about it, but if you're literally the worst person alive at a given thing, that still means you put more effort into it than the millions of people who have never done it at all.
I'm learning CW right now, and I'm absolutely dogshit, but I do not care. It's not my job, I have no obligation to be an expert at it. Hell, that's just a good rule of thumb for most things in life. Don't force yourself to become an expert simply because "amateur" doesn't feel good enough.
but if you're literally the worst person alive at a given thing, that still means you put more effort into it than the millions of people who have never done it at all.
But then the people around will know that I'm the worst at that thing and they'll think less of me
That's where you get to be so unruffled they're impressed how good you are at not giving a shit ;)
Really though. It's a genuinely tough fear, and the only way to win against people who would directly or passively say they think less of you is to be unaffected by their opinion. It's only bad to be bad at something if you feel bad about it. It's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed. Real masters of not giving a fuck can turn it around and make the judger feel foolish for judging.
That's where you get to be so unruffled they're impressed how good you are at not giving a shit
Due to events in my childhood I cannot simply choose to do this but thanks tho it does sound wonderful. The only thing I'd be impressing anyone with is how someone can be bad at literally every single thing imaginable
Really though. It's a genuinely tough fear, and the only way to win against people who would directly or passively say they think less of you is to be unaffected by their opinion.
And the only way to be unaffected by people's opinions is to have a foundation of confidence built upon knowing that there are in fact people with very high opinions of you. I don't have that
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u/Milkyway_Potato ok ok i'll finish disco elysium jesus 2d ago edited 2d ago
But what if my brain gives me a bad grade in Hobby? :(
Nah for real though. Just. Be bad at shit. Not to get all motivational poster about it, but if you're literally the worst person alive at a given thing, that still means you put more effort into it than the millions of people who have never done it at all.
I'm learning CW right now, and I'm absolutely dogshit, but I do not care. It's not my job, I have no obligation to be an expert at it. Hell, that's just a good rule of thumb for most things in life. Don't force yourself to become an expert simply because "amateur" doesn't feel good enough.